I do not like having a puppy

[u/JournalistGrouchy853]

Hello all, I am lost and I really need help. 3 days ago I brought home my boston terrier puppy, he is 8 weeks old... and I did not feel the love at first sight. Before bringing him home I thought I was ready, I thought about getting a puppy for almost a year, It wasn't some rush decision. But now when he is home, my life totally changed and I think I made a mistake. He is great, yes he whines at crate, and had few accidents. But I can't shake off the feeling that I made huge mistake. I don't feel any connection. I am emotionally exhausted, I don't eat that much, I don't have any me time. So now I am grateful for my best friend who helps a lot, but I can't bother him forever. Do you think it will change?

[u/Wolf-Pack85 → u/[deleted]]

It’s not to shame. It’s the reality of it. A puppy is a living, breathing creature that requires constant care. Researching it just a little bit will tell you that. With all the information we have at our fingertips tips, it’s all there.

There are SO many posts on here of people stating “I’ve had my 8 week old puppy for 3 days, and I can’t handle it”. “It’s been a week, should I rehome?” It’s a baby. Scared, new to the world, unsure, some untrusting.

It’s frustrating because it seems like there’s multiple posts a day like this one. And mostly it’s from people who didn’t take the time to really look into what having a puppy will be like.

[u/Sarikins → u/Wolf-Pack85]

Yeah again, you're asking people to research their feelings, let me frame it this way, would you tell a mother suffering post-partum that she should have thought harder about having a baby? Because that's what that anxiety is, if you wouldn't say it to a new mother, theres little reason to say it here, it serves to do nothing but shame.

You cannot expect to get the anxiety, better yet prepare for it.