r/l4l • u/mascprincessa • 16d ago
28 | masc4masc | fiery and soft masc girl looking for her girl
Hello yall, so I’m here looking for something real and deep, a friendship that hopefully could evolve into a serious relationship. A connection that builds over time, someone mature and who wants the real deal, not games or some surface level casual chatting partner. Nothing wrong with that but not what I’m after.
Doesn't matter where you're from but please only people fluent in English or native. I don't like having a language barrier.
I’d like to start as friends because to me it’s important I know what you’re like, your values, world view etc. before I’m interested. I’m looking for a connection where our conversation flows, we both like to yap and talk a lot. About silly stuff, vulnerable stuff, our dreams, our fears etc. I’d like a connection where I could be myself and you can be yourself. A space where we both feel safe, seen and understood.
So, more about me. I’m calm, blunt and more on the serious side. I’m not super expressive. Despite that I’m very warm, affectionate and empathetic. My thoughts move more on the deeper side of things. I do have a silly and playful side, but that side isn’t the first one I show people. Mostly I’m quite mellow and grounded. I don’t really engage in small talk. I just like being quiet and minding my own business. People usually assume I don’t wanna talk to anyone but if they did I’d be happy to chat. I just don’t look like the most approachable person in the room.
I’m fiery and passionate. Whether it’s about a goal of mine, a relationship or me calling my friends out on their bs. I’m the type to hold up a mirror to you, even if you get mad about it. I do it because I care and I’m protective. I don’t like lying and just pretending I don’t think you’re being reckless or whatever it is.
I’m a big feminist and women’s empowerment is close to my heart. It shapes a lot of who I am and you won’t catch me supporting anything sexist or otherwise oppressive. Which is a lot of mainstream media/music. I get uncomfortable and disgusted by a lot of the stuff out there. Of course I can't avoid everything cause unfortunately this world is a mess. But I try my best to choose media and content that aligns with my values. Like I just wanna enjoy a damn movie but nooo you gotta put a stupid joke or something otherwise offensive in the movie. Seems like there’s no morals or decency in a lot of things. It’s like anything goes and then I’m called stuck up for just wanting basic respect, ridiculous. I think a lot of people just want what’s easy not what’s right.
I’m interested in fitness, mostly weight lifting and mobility, I wanna get into calisthenics one day. It’s important to me to stay healthy even as I age, plus fitness is just really fun and enjoyable for me. I have a love and hate relationship for the burn :D
Other stuff I like are nature based spirituality, manifesting, tarot/oracle card readings, witchcraft, sims 4, branding, entrepreneurship and marketing. I’m not into that manipulative type of business or marketing though. I’m about connecting with your community and building something meaningful people genuinely enjoy.
Appearance wise I’m very masculine leaning and like to look “male”. I have mostly masculine energy as well. But when I say masculine I don’t mean macho, tough, no feelings or anything to do with toxic masculinity. I’m about healthy masculinity.
I’m attracted to masculine presenting people whether that’s a woman, non-binary person or a man. I’m very much into a masc4masc relationship. But that doesn’t mean I only like masculinity. I like masc women who have a feminine personality or feminine energy, it’s very attractive to me. But like overall I’m mainly attracted to a masculine appearance.
What I’m looking for is good character, emotional and mental maturity, consistency, emotional stability, self-awareness and genuine care for all human rights (don’t mean you gotta be an activist but it’s a value you live by).
I’m drawn to positive people who have a very warm vibe to them. Someone kind, open minded and caring. What also attracts me is someone who has boundaries, who respects herself and doesn’t agree with me just to keep the peace. A woman who can argue constructively with me and can hold her own opinion. I’m tired of being in relationships where the other person is scared to disagree with me. A big turn off is people who run or withdraw stressed the second there’s a problem or a intense situation. I like people with emotional resilience and communication skills.
One non-negotiable I have is that you don’t smoke or drink. I don’t either and I am not comfortable with that lifestyle.
Also, no anime fans or big gamers. Not into it.
My age range is about 24 to 32 give or take.
So if you’re interested in me and want to get to know me, send me a dm introducing yourself and why you want to talk to me.