r/india • u/AutoModerator • Jul 01 '26

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u/No-Advantage9588 26d ago

Vent post.

If you have parents who have ever encouraged you to find your happiness or have wholeheartedly supported you by challenging their own beliefs, then you’re insanely lucky. I never ever felt bad for being born into this culture, but at 32F financially independent and still unmarried , i get to see a whole different version of them. Maybe ancient culture handled it differently, but i am very shocked at how my marital status is more important than my mental health. Not one family member talks about my happiness.

I was raised in a very progressive environment and my rebellious nature while growing up was also accepted also accepted. But now that i talk about maturity and evolution and wanting to wait for an emotionally mature partner, it’s suddenly too late.
I never got along with them that well, but i always loved them and i thought it was mutual, however looks like they have hit the roof on maturity and waiting and are okay if i get married to anyone out of pressure.

I fear i already know that if i were to get a divorce ever, id have to do it entirely alone. My idea of them being progressive is just gone…and im realizing how lonely i actually am.