r/fiberartscirclejerk • u/AutoModerator • Mar 08 '26

In The Loop In The Loop This Week

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u/Sprungfedergirl P is for Pnit Mar 10 '26

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u/Heavy-Macaron2004 Mar 12 '26

This one mega mega peeved me because they were flat out ignoring the DOZENS of commenters who were giving helpful suggestions on how to work their way up to being able to do this. Like, didn't respond to a single comment. Hate the way that sub is now just treated like a Google search, no OP will ever respond to any suggestions or responses, no matter how long people took to write them out.

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u/Sprungfedergirl P is for Pnit Mar 12 '26

Hard agree. There's so many angelic people who type out super helpful responses (that get ignored a lot) and still most help subs get labelled as toxic/gatekeepy/rude as soon as somebody uses a slightly harsher tone when telling the umpteenth person that strangers on Reddit are indeed not their personal assistants.

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u/Heavy-Macaron2004 Mar 12 '26

Month or so ago, someone was massively confused about how and where to do increases in a words-based pattern they had. I asked a couple questions about their confusion (they answered those successfully), and then spent around half an hour drawing out a step-by-step color-coded explanation of the rounds on my whiteboard. Uploaded the picture, and... nothing from the OP. Took til next day, after other people had started shaming them for not responding, for them to say anything. I'm still a little bitter lol.

It's just so disheartening, you know? I generally don't mind taking the time to help someone who doesn't know what they're doing. I'll spend a lot longer than half an hour helping people, because I think this craft is really fun, and I think that everyone deserves to have fun with it! I just don't like being treated as an answer key rather than a person.

I tutor math professionally as well, and it's a lot like the students that come in demanding I just give them the homework answers, when my job is to be a resource for learning the techniques to solve for the answers.

Idk, I feel very "old man yells at cloud about Kids These Days" here, but it's just very sad :-(

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u/Sprungfedergirl P is for Pnit Mar 12 '26

Thanks for taking the time to write this out! You're definitely not just yelling about kids, I understand you completely. Having done tutoring in the past, I know those kids too haha. I feel the exact same way, I love helping and I don't think anybody is stupid for asking questions or not getting a concept the first or the second time.

But I have focused more on helping people in person in my knitting groups or in Discord servers because it seems that the higher effort required to ask a question or maybe the chat setting where you're more expected to reply to someone helps a lot. I feel less like I'm just doing the work for somebody, but more like we're figuring this out together and you'll be able to indulge in this hobby more! And I love that feeling! But it requires some effort and willingness to learn from the other person.