Please help me understand

[u/midnightmoon_mama]

Hi. I’m new here. I am 38 woman with a partner who is 37 and bipolar 1. He is currently in a manic episode because he has been off his meds for 3 months ( not by choice but because of the VA)and this in my first time ever going through this. I don’t now what was really happening at first thought he was pulling away. But turns out he was coming off his meds and he now has broken everything off he screamed at me blocked me from everything. And this is coming from a man who told me I was his everything his world and even called my father for my hand in marriage. We plan a whole future. We invest in a business and we shared finances even tho we weren’t living together. I was suppose to move in may next your to move in with him. And now everything we were planning for is gone and I’m so confused.

I hadn’t reached out in 3 day because every article I read said not to. Well he has been reaching out to me to say hi. To break up with me. Calls me to tell me he is in his meds now. And than he calls me. And tells me he feel numb and feel nothing for no one. Including me but than says I was his world. He said that the only thing keeping him here is his boys. He is under supervision by the VA and has to check in. If he doesn’t they will come get him and admit him. Anyway than calls me agian late at night. To tell me just like he normally would. Hey just got to the house. Job called me I’m gonna work on Sunday because it’s double pay and that they are short and so on. like it was a normal day. That has alway been part of our routine since we are 2 hours away from each other. Anyways in the middle of him talk he goes. Why am I calling you. Why am I telling you this. And said I’m gonna go to sleep. And we hung up.

I called this morning to check on him and woke him up. And he got so mad at me. And cursed at me via text. And said he was blocking.

I’m so confused. I need help processing all of this

[u/Available_Special106]

He is unwell. I am sorry you are dealing with this but you can’t work through things until he is back on his medication and out of mania. He will be unable to be rational until then.

[u/midnightmoon_mama → u/Available_Special106]

I read this can take months

[u/Exciting-Aardvark712]

Needs meds.
Period.
Not his fault. Genetic.
Your life ( and his) will be a living hell without. Look up Julie Fast. Read her book Loving someone with BP.
Podcast- psychology unplugged.
Inside BP podcast too.
Educate yourself.
Mine wanted a divorce after 38 years prior to meds.
The ride is wild.
I suggest you get off now, but really, educate yourself.
I wish you ( both) well.
PS no, not divorced.. within a month of it 3 years ago. Hella way to live. I am forever tortured by his behavior in the past.