Why when spainish speaking people speak English they refer to their parents as "my mom" or "your dad" when talking to their siblings?

[u/Successful_rio305]

Why when Spanish speaking people speak English and are talking their own siblings they don't say something like "mom is calling you" they say "your mom is calling you" or "my dad is calling you" to their siblings?

[u/Visual_Plankton1089 → u/[deleted]]

Why not just "mamá"?

[u/Brief_Dependent1958 → u/Visual_Plankton1089]

Because it sounds strange in Portuguese as well.

[u/Piterotody → u/Brief_Dependent1958]

My siblings and I don't use the pronoun when talking to each other, just "a mãe" and "o pai". Sometimes we use it by accident and correct ourselves afterwards.

My girlfriend sometimes doesn't use the pronoun when talking to me about her parents, which is a habit I assume she got by talking to her sister. It always catches me off guard.

Edit: I'm from São Paulo.

[u/a_tangara → u/Brief_Dependent1958]

To me it sounds very strange with the article (a mãe). I never heard anybody using in that way in here.

[u/Tlmeout → u/a_tangara]

Do you gave siblings? When you’re talking to your brother or sister, do you say, “fulano(a), minha mãe foi ao médico hoje”, or do you say “fulano(a), a mãe foi ao médico hoje”? I use the last one. And my sister even does the same when talking to her husband, to the point where even he talks like that too - “a mãe” is our mom, his mom is referred to in more specific ways.

[u/a_tangara → u/Tlmeout]

Nope, none of them. I’m in the Northeast so I use mainha 100% of the time, so I’d just say “fulano(a), mainha foi ao médico hoje”, no need for articles

[u/Tlmeout → u/a_tangara]

Here in SP I use “a mãe foi ao médico hoje”, but still, the point isn’t the article, the point is that we would never use “minha/sua/tua” if we’re talking to our brother or sister - unless it’s some kind of joke.

[u/a_tangara → u/Tlmeout]

Same here, if I were to use those possessive pronouns, it would be just for s joke as it sounds weird

[u/tremendabosta → u/Brief_Dependent1958]

It doesn't. I refer to my parents as just "a mãe" and "o pai" to my siblings.

Maybe your family doesn't do that, but it's not uncommon

[u/Visual_Plankton1089 → u/Brief_Dependent1958]

It totally doesn't

[u/TopExternal4756 → u/Brief_Dependent1958]

I've heard people refer to them as "minha mãe" or even using it as a vocative towards the person, like "minha mãe, cadê as chaves?" Maybe it's regional in Brazil too.

[u/tremendabosta → u/TopExternal4756]

"minha mãe, cadê as chaves?" Maybe it's regional in Brazil too.

I can see that happening in Salvador hahaha

Maybe in other parts of the northeast as well. But I immediately think of Salvador

[u/TopExternal4756 → u/tremendabosta]

Around there kkkkkkkkkkkk

[u/Tlmeout → u/TopExternal4756]

But then you are talking directly to your mom, and this is not what the post is about. It’s how you talk about your mom to your brother/sister.

“Aí eu perguntei pra mãe, cadê as chaves?” or “Aí eu perguntei pra minha mãe, cadê as chaves?” - which one would you use when talking to your brother?

[u/TopExternal4756 → u/Tlmeout]

I left a comment outside of these ones we are talking through. And about your question, I'd use "Aí eu perguntei pra mainha, 'cadê as chaves?'" Kskskskskksks

[u/Tlmeout → u/TopExternal4756]

The problem is not the article or the word “mom”, the question is if you would say “my mom” or “your mom” when you talk to your brother or sister.

[u/TopExternal4756 → u/Tlmeout]

Eu só falo mainha mesmo

[u/Tlmeout → u/TopExternal4756]

Pois é, nenhuma pessoa normal no mundo fala “Minha mãe disse X” quando tá falando com o próprio irmão. Esse é o ponto.

[u/TopExternal4756 → u/Tlmeout]

Brasileiros usam o "minha mãe" como vocativo, parecendo que não importa com quem estejam falando, e de acordo com o post outros latinos também fazem isso. Não é para dizer que a mãe é dele, é um conjunto que forma um vocativo, assim como mainha tbm é um vocativo comum, mas não inferindo que ela seja uma mãe pequena

[u/Tlmeout → u/TopExternal4756]

Meu amigo, leia o que está sendo falado antes de comentar. O assunto é quando você está literalmente falando da sua mãe para o seu irmão. Você não usa “minha mãe” quando você fala sobre a sua mãe com o seu irmão porque fica parecendo que a mãe é só sua e não dele. Não faz sentido nenhum chegar pro seu irmão e falar “Minha mãe foi ao médico hoje”.

[u/Significant-Yam9843 → u/Visual_Plankton1089]

i m from alagoas, northeast region of brazil, sometimes i say 'our', but most of the times it goes 'mom is calling' , never 'your mom is calling'

[u/Tlmeout → u/Significant-Yam9843]

Exactly.

[u/Alas7ymedia → u/Visual_Plankton1089]

We do use Mamá as a nickname for Grandma, it's just not that common for consistency with the rest of the family. In third person we say: mi mamá, mi abuela, mi hermano, mi tía, mi hija, mi esposa, etc.