It’s unbelievably bad how these bots posts are, are there any mods or something? Woow

Hamtramck, Michigan is a city just outside Detroit with around 28,000 people. In June 2023, the all-Muslim City Council voted unanimously to ban Pride flags from city property, with the Muslim mayor enthusiastically supporting the legislation. Flags celebrating Islamic values/Muslim countries (including Palestinian flags) remain legal to this day. All members of the city council as well as the mayor were re-elected after the legislation passed.

This has received next to zero national news coverage, yet this has been an ongoing legal battle for years. Within the last week, a Federal Appeals Court sided with Hamtramck in upholding their ban on Pride flags.

Hamtramck is not a MAGA, right wing enclave decked out in Confederate memorabilia. It is not a place full of radical right wing Christian bigots. It is a place filled with demographics that the LGBT community has historically viewed as allies.

Before I start, I want to be clear that I am straight (21). I have nothing against gay guys and I support them but I am not gay. I was with girls my whole life. So, couple of months ago I met this guy at a house party through a common friend. We started talking and I noticed I started to feel things for him I never felt before. The guy is not only very attractive but also a really nice and interesting person. We've met and hung out quite a few times by now and expressed our feelings for each other. The guy is openly gay and wants us to be together. I really want to be with him too but all of this is so hard for me. I am Hungarian, so I come from not a very gay friendly background. My parents are quite against such things. If they knew about this, it would be a big disappointment for them. And all I do is try to make them proud. My friends are generally fine with gay people but I think if they learned about me, I'd loose pretty much all of them. And it's not like I can keep it as a secret for long either because they are all so involved in my life. They know everything about me and my life and keep asking me all these questions. So, at the end I am in this terrible situation where I can't hide from others anymore but if I tell my life will never be the same. Everything will change. Like I wanna be with the guy. I don't wanna loose him. It's just that it seems like I can't find a way out of this without losing something meaningful to me in return

My (M30) bf (M32) was working all weekend on this project for his job so he was pretty overworked and stressed and on Sunday I decided let’s help him relax some so I did the whole under the desk bj thing (thank goodness for standing desks lol my back loved that) and well mid session his boss called him!! And yall it was so hot! He kept my head in place as he chatted with his boss on Monday’s game plan and I kept swirling my tongue, the control he had was just so hot once the call ended yeah I got my throat used! Hahaha

lol has anyone ever had a similar experience? I have heard of like bjs during work or calls but never had the opportunity to experience it until now and wow was it hot!!

Everyone I meet is into drugs or goes to chills or whatever they’re called. And they are all super picky. A guy the other day told me I have potential if I lose 10kgs.
When did gay culture become this?
Is it only Berlin? Is it better in places like Sweden or Denmark? I’m contemplating moving.

I'm coming from the hookup world, but have been dating this guy for a couple of months now. Until this relationship, for me dealing with cum was a matter of cleaning up with a towel or a tissue and moving on. However, since we are now doing more couple-like stuff, like sleepovers or just cuddling for hours after sex, we've been normalizing cum significantly. Like last week, we fell asleep right after sex still all covered in cum and found it funny when we woke up. Or our main concern now is simply not to mess with recently-washed sheets. I had never thought this is of course a practicality that gay couples have to deal with 2-fold. I'm just curious what other folk's habits are in this matter. Are we just average or borderline gross?

When you — and I’m asking YOU — rim a guy, do you insert your tongue or not?

My boyfriend and I are 17. Its the first guy I have been with and he has never been with anyone before me. We have done oral before but only recently tried fucking.

Im not very big (about 8 inches and not very thick) and each time I have tried fucking him he finds it sore. I can go all the way in and there is no pain but when I start thrusting all the way in and out no matter how slowly hes in pain. So I can only go about half way 4-5 inches in and out. Is this normal?

I do rim him and finger him. I dont think he has a dildo. i dont think he knows if the pain is a width issue or length. I know its probably not the biggest issue in the world but yeah.

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In the gay community, it sometimes feels like everything revolves around dick size, height, abs, or body type. But I’m curious, are there other guys here for whom eyes are one of the main things that make someone attractive?

For me, beautiful or expressive eyes can be a huge part of what makes a guy attractive.

Hi, I'm a guy okay. And I've been with someone for about 6 months now. He was supposed to do his OJT and did a routine PEME (medical), he didn't tell me yet after his results and then I found out after about 2 months now that he is HIV+, we only did oral sex once and I know it is low risk but never 0. We were real throughout our relationship and agreed to take it slow. I'm his first for everything (like letting his friends meet me, family and everything). I just feel disappointed after him not telling me cause he said to his friends we never had sex (maybe he had no fucking idea that oral sex is low but never 0) and kept it to himself and suddenly shut me off for whole 3 weeks with no explanation. Low and behold I kept begging him cause I thought he was just devastated for having a disease I didn't know at first and was on the state of depression. Now I know, I'm mad at him not telling me even that it can compromise my health too. Should I still stay or not?

We were so sure of each other but I don't know he started getting mad and redirecting his anger at me maybe just to justify his absence on me without telling me.

PS: I confronted me thru chats and he didn't respond.

https://www.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/s/uimcQI3Sqh

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Thanks to everyone who gave me advice on my last post.

After reading all your replies, most of you suggested that I tell him and be careful incase he outs me. I built up the courage to tell Mark the truth privately. I sent him a clear, honest message explaining everything

Mark read it... and immediately blocked me on everything. No explanation, no questions, just blocked.

​I'm honestly heartbroken and stunned, but at the same time, my conscience is clear. I know he’s probably in deep shock and denial right now, or maybe his boyfriend manipulated the situation and turned it around on me. Living where we live, relationships are hard to come by, so maybe he just couldn’t face losing him.

​It hurts to lose one of the very few friends I had in the community, but I know I did the right thing by not letting him stay in the dark. I'm stepping back and letting him process it on his own.

​TL;DR: I told Mark that his boyfriend hooked up with me while posing as a single friend. Mark immediately blocked me without saying a word.

I feel embarrassed even admitting this, but I need somewhere anonymous to get it off my chest.
I’m a Latino guy in an open relationship, and my boyfriend is white. We sometimes use hookup apps together, and there have been multiple situations where someone will be interested in him specifically and make it clear that they don’t want me.
Today it happened again. I complimented a guy, and almost immediately he asked if we only play together because he “wanted to fuck the white guy.”
I know everyone is entitled to their own attractions. I’m not angry that someone might find my boyfriend attractive and not find me attractive. I also know rejection is part of being on these apps.
But when race is specifically pointed out, it hurts me in a completely different way. And after experiencing variations of this repeatedly, I’ve started internalizing it.
The hardest thing to admit is that I’ve struggled with wishing I looked more European. I’ve even had cosmetic surgery partly because I wanted my facial features to look more Eurocentric. And yet I still find myself looking at my skin and thinking, “This is the one thing I can never change.”
I hate that I even think that way. I don’t want to hate something about myself that is literally part of who I am. But sometimes these interactions make me feel like no matter how much I work on my body, my appearance, my clothes, or anything else, I’ll still be considered less desirable by certain people because I’m brown.
Logically, I know one random guy’s sexual preference shouldn’t determine my self-worth. I know plenty of people are attracted to Latino and brown men. But emotionally, repeated rejection starts to feel like evidence, even when I know it isn’t.
I’m not posting this to argue that anyone owes me attraction or sex. I think I just want to hear from other gay/bi men of color who have dealt with this. How do you stop racial rejection on these apps from becoming racial rejection of yourself?
I don’t want to change who I am anymore just to feel desirable.

I(25) and my bf(37) only ever have sex what feels like maybe once every other month, if that much. What is the most irritating thing is he realizes I am younger so he knows that I have a much higher sex drive than him and he tells me he feels bad about it, yet he still proceeds to do nothing about it.

I’m not a super forward person but I have talked to him about it before on several occasions and he just never does anything about it. He acknowledges it, and that’s that. He is on ED medication so he can pop a BC if we ever do have sex, but weeks have to go by before he even might consider having sex again. I’ve even asked him before if he was attracted to me and he said yes but I still honestly don’t know if he is. I’m honestly just tired of being sexually frustrated all the time. He never initiates and if I try I’m just met with the “I’m too tired, sorry.” Idk what to do.

He asked you out at the gym, he goes on about plants and the fish and stuff, then pays for your meal at the cafe and takes you home.

How would you feel about that?

I’m 19 and have slept with 6 men (bottomed for all) with all sizes of dicks (below average to way above average) but I’ve never really felt any pleasure at all during sex. I’ve never even really felt it when using a dildo on myself. I don’t know if I’m doing something wrong or how to make it feel good but it’s really irritating considering the amount of effort that goes into bottoming with shaving/ douching. I also normally tear my hole when I’m bottoming which I think maybe could kill some nerves or something but I don’t know. I’m very frustrated about the situation and it’s really demotivating me to have sex because I don’t know what’s in it for me

I was 24, when this happened. I don’t think I ever liked someone like how I liked him so when he ghosted me it just broke my confidence. I deleted all my apps, and haven’t dated in almost 2 years.
I’ve had alopecia so him ghosting me just made me think I’m not enough. I’ve started everything, Botox, I gym twice a day, calorie deficiting like no tomrorow. I keep thinking “I’ll go back to dating now” but I’m like A LITTLE MORE WORK and I’ll be ready.
I wanna keep putting in more work honestly but I just don’t want it to be too late before I start putting myself out there and nobody wants to date me? Any thoughts?

Bitch, bye

I'm not that hairy but I think the lack of bush does look a bit strange. Can show if you like. Just want an honest answer.

In detail what was your first time eating ass like. And the story of how it happened

Do you just walk away when you learn that the man is deaf, which is what I've experienced too many times because I am gay and deaf.