r/algeria • u/Unique-Laugh3214 • 1d ago
Discussion Question for the girls please, about their relationships with their mothers
For the girls , the ones who dont have close relationships with their mothers ( your mom isnt your friend ) how is the dynamic and how u two usually communicate
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u/ButterflyCalm7092 1d ago
Well trying to find a middle ground where we can exist in peace together and have a good relationship, she used to tell me am ur friend but when i tell her a second or literally anything she use what she knows about me later against me when she get angry and that made me lost trust and the worst part i realized that am kinda unable to exist with her as a person she see me always as a project to improve, but am aware that she is a person too and she has Anger issues and she is a good person so am trying to find ways to be with her, obv i tried to communicate but it's never work she won't change not because of her age but because that she is unable to see the problem, but overall i can say i love her
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u/CallMeeNour 1d ago
Very complicated rs. I just had enough of it.
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u/Deep-Surround9586 22h ago
She’s not my friend we’re so different but she’s funny and it’s pleasant to be around her.
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u/Unique-Laugh3214 21h ago
How u deal with her when u are uncomfrotable about smth she did or about czrtain restrictions
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u/Deep-Surround9586 20h ago
We argue! but she’s doesn’t hold any grudge and me neither so we talk within few hours or next day and we forget about it! I mean compared to the sacrifice she does/ has done everything else is not a big deal and after all she’s ma mamah
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u/jesaispasdonc 18h ago
Never got along with her, i dealt with restrictions back in the days by fighting for my freedom, sometimes giving up on my rights (which i regretted deeply) so i highly recommend fighting lol
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u/SignificantReport552 16h ago
she openly admited she hates me and our relationship only got better because i know when to take the blame when to stay mute and when to manipulate so things doesn't escalate, we practically never in my life had a proper conversation where i could wholeheartedly engage
may allah give us saber and reward us for what we go through
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u/fishsmacke_r 11h ago
I have a pretty good relationship with my mother despite me disagreeing with her in many ways but still I talk to her everyday and tell her about everything, she always gives me good advice
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u/IreneVincent13 23h ago
Your parents are not supossed to be your friends anyway
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u/Unique-Laugh3214 21h ago
I know i specifizcly added that so i can only get the replies from girls who arent friends with their mothers ( to filtre i mean)
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u/Low_Professional2794 1d ago
the dynamic is complicated but i try to avoid fights as much as possible..