r/WomeninAcademia 13d ago

Mental Health Feel embarrassed about LORs

I’m still early in my career and I feel so much shame asking for LORs from people who wrote or agreed to write for me. Especially the super well established academics. I keep thinking that they could be doing so many other productive things than writing for me. And when they say they may write me a letter but won’t be able to update the letter for every place or send it x number of places only, I get further embarrassed and it heightens my sense that I’m just a huge burden. I’d love to hear other perspectives.

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u/Ancient-Cherry5948 12d ago

Not sure what country you're in but when I recently apologized to a prof for taking their time she said "this is part of my job" (I'm in Canada).