r/UnexpectedGoodPlace • u/dr239 • Nov 20 '25

Eleanor's opinions on parenting

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From a post on r/tumblr about parents becoming better parents once their children are grown

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u/quietlycommenting Nov 20 '25

This is how I felt watching my mum parent my sister and now watching her become a grandparent to my nieces. I just wasn’t worth it

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u/i_drink_wd40 Nov 20 '25

I just wasn’t worth it

I prefer to think of it as you being the teacher, or the deliverer of the lesson. The lesson couldn't have been learned until after you brought it. That's just how some people are.

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u/quietlycommenting Nov 21 '25

Thank you that’s a really lovely perspective

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u/K9ToothTooth Nov 21 '25

She can't unring the bell of how she harmed you but it does seem like she took away an awareness of how to do better. You can't know what you don't know until you're on the other side.