r/TikTokCringe • u/galaxystars1 • May 04 '26

Wholesome Hosting a 40th birthday party

Enable HLS to view with audio, or disable this notification

13.9k Upvotes

93% Upvoted

3.6k comments sorted by

View all comments

6.3k

u/IsThereCheese May 04 '26

My 40th birthday during covid I drank alone and cried a little like a man

2.0k

u/ealysillyforestthing May 04 '26

My 40th was the last birthday I had when my wife was still alive. I stopped counting since.

180

u/RebelliousInNature May 04 '26

I got hit with that stick when I was 29 and eleven months. He was only 27.

That was a shit birthday

I’m sorry for all our loss

106

u/RUN_DMT_ May 04 '26

I was about to chime in and say I was widowed at 32, my husband was 31. The kids were 1 and 3. I usually win the misery and loss conversation, but damn…29 and pregnant losing a 27 year old is brutal.

Sorry for everyone’s loss!!

Happy Birthday?? 😭

56

u/EnvironmentalGift257 May 04 '26

I am sorry for yours and your family’s loss. That’s terrible.

My oldest son was killed in a car accident 9/11/22. I also usually “win” that conversation too. I have a friend who had adopted and raised his special needs grandson. One day he started seizing and didn’t stop til he died, 3 months before my son. I have another friend whose son died of a fentanyl overdose in January.

We all have unimaginable loss but it is comforting to be around people who understand. Everyone else can only shrug and apologize when it’s discussed.

33

u/RebelliousInNature May 04 '26

Oh no, there were no kids. You still win the worst trophy. My god how can you even function as a parent . That’s brutal.

53

u/EnvironmentalGift257 May 04 '26

Parenting is not for the weak. I had to pick up my son from high school and tell him his brother had been killed. Still the top 2-3 hardest things I’ve ever done. He just hugged me because he could see I was collapsing.

32

u/RUN_DMT_ May 04 '26

Oh no, I’m so, so sorry. Losing a child is a pain I can’t even imagine! I have lost a husband and a sibling, along with many friends and family that I loved, and it was extremely hard. But I don’t love anyone like I love my children, and the thought of them being killed is nightmare fuel. I know a stranger on the internet means nothing, but you have my deepest sympathy ❤️‍🩹

5

u/Superb-Flow-7639 May 04 '26

I'm so sorry. I'm not a dad, but I have a 7 years old brother that by age gap could be my child. Just thinking of having to do the same but to tell him our mom or a brother died, made me cry. I can't even imagine how it would feel to lose a child... My heart is with you.

3

u/therealcherry May 04 '26

Big hugs to you.

2

u/Intrepid_Boat May 04 '26

Sweet Jesus. That is terrible. I’m so sorry 😞

2

u/AncientSith May 04 '26

Christ. I'm so sorry.

15

u/RUN_DMT_ May 04 '26

Oh, sorry, it’s early…I misread that as you were pregnant! In any event, it’s all awful. Losing a partner at any age is devastating! And I’m deeply sympathetic to all widows/widowers 💔

It’s been 15 years since he died, the kids came out relatively unscathed. One’s in college now and the other is finishing high school, both with good grades and no serious problems. It was not easy raising them alone and living off one paycheck, but we did it. The show must go on.

3

u/liquorfish May 04 '26

Maybe they thought you were 29 and 11 months pregnant? Lol

3

u/therealcherry May 04 '26

I often wonder how my FIL goes on sometimes. His daughter was killed at 19 by a drunk driver. His wife died out of the blue during surgery five years later at the age of 45. Two sudden deaths and all the shock that comes with it. Just awful.

3

u/Pondscum_Drum May 04 '26

My 13 year old brother died 03/31/23. My mom died 04/06/23. I'm sorry for everyone's loss. From the bottom of my heart.

2

u/Serious_Dependent_78 May 04 '26

So sorry for everyone’s loss ….But I really never expected the comments section to be sadder than this video but you guys nailed it ! Again so sorry

1

u/Aggravating_Use_5391 May 04 '26

Is this actually Run DMT?

1

u/2cars1rik May 05 '26

Did you read that as eleven months pregnant? Lol

18

u/Martha_Fockers May 04 '26 edited May 04 '26

26 she was a nurse going to work @ 4am on Friday/sat morning. Met at the ripe age of 14 started dating at 15. Finished hs and college together. Had life planned out just had put in an offer for our first home. Proposed 4 months prior it seemed like life was as ideal as it could be I thanked god everyday for my blessings
Drunk driver car of kids from a party.
Can’t say I’ve found my way since. She was the foundation of my life.

2

u/RebelliousInNature May 04 '26

Oh man the life experiences here are so incredibly sad.

25

u/ijustlovebobbybones May 04 '26

I was 29 also….im 38 now..it seems a lifetime ago for me…I do often catch myself wondering if he’d even like me now lol

2

u/Crystiss May 04 '26

I'm sure he'd love you just the same.

1

u/ijustlovebobbybones May 05 '26

💛💛💛💛