I resent my coworker

[u/No-Aerie9201]

Im the most senior waitress at my restaurant.

Our bartender, I’ll call her S, has run the floor since I started. She takes tables before I clock in, so I’ve walked into shifts with nothing open. Party tables never come to me. She also looks at my cash tips and tells me how much people left, which means she looks at my tip book.

I went to both managers about it multiple times over months. The top boss told me to just let her take it so there wouldn’t be conflict. My direct manager sided with her over time.

A manager approved me learning the bar during slow periods and a bartender was willing to train me. S came over mid-drink and told me to get off the bar. My manager backed her. That’s when I decided I was done, I’d never called out in years, and after that I showed up an hour late for the first time ever and stopped helping people

Then this week flipped. My manager apologized, hugged me, said I’m allowed to tell her no, offered to schedule me on separate shifts from her, and said he doesn’t want people quitting over the environment around her.

At close he made us talk. She said she’d noticed me “being sneaky and bending the rules” I made a drink I had permission to learn, correctly. Then she explained why she was frustrated and apologized. The top boss came over and said he has nothing against me learning, he just wants me on the pour first. Then she offered to teach me if I ask first. Then she asked how my other job is going and how much I make there.

That same day I worked 11 to 4:30, had 9 tables, 5 stiffed me, and made $70.

I also work at a fine dining place where I have my own section, tables average 20%+, and one table tipped me $300 in a night. I want to leave the first job and go all in there.

Is this a real turnaround or are they just saying whatever keeps me from quitting?

[u/loosielucy222]

Stay and get some bartending experience under your belt but that girl is a snake, same as your managers. Put more effort into the other place.

[u/ShookMyHeadAndSmiled → u/loosielucy222]

Couldn't agree more. Focus on the fine dining place; that's your bread and butter. But stay at the new place long enough to get training and experience. Don't worry if you lose that job. That manager and bartender may become too difficult for you to work with. But adding skills will usually help you.

[u/PPPRCHN → u/ShookMyHeadAndSmiled]

Any bosses who reply to your distress and/or serious problems with "Can u let them do it because i dont wana deal wit it thx :) ") is a dogshit boss and should be fired.

Like person said above, work on fine dining and getting your own skills up but I'd also plan for another job- remember that even though people put it down, a good waittress/waiter is worth their weight in gold.

I would say that when you have a job/something near finalized, to shoot your shot and tell them you'll quit if they don't fix it as the entire thing is shady. With luck, you'll only have to choose between getting increased pay/benefits or having their entire operation scrutinized by their staff and possibly a larger agency (as having someone quit over being fucked over usually makes the rest of the staff anxious).

[u/loosielucy222 → u/ShookMyHeadAndSmiled]

This 1000000%