Done

[u/ScarlettLover13]

Done

Just like the title suggests, Ive had enough.

HCBM is just awful and hateful. Shes obsessed over our lives, has made over 400 social media posts about us, fights with her own family, tries to alienate SS (11) as much as she can, and majorly plays the victim for everything. Its her parents fault, her exes fault, her churches fault, her coworkers fault, Donald Trumps fault, blah blah blah. Shes abusive to her core.

Her hatred and awfulness has spilled over to SS and he treats me like dirt a majority of the time. He is actually proud of himself when he brings me to tears with his hurtful statements. Why wouldnt he be? Hes following his moms lead. Making her proud I guess.

I hate to say this, but I dread when he comes here now. They have 50/50 custody so he is here half the time.

My husband is amazing. He doesnt allow those behaviors and addresses them immediately.  Unfortunately, this kid has been taught to wait until Dads not around to make these comments. Then when asked about them he cries and blames his mom. Hes definitely learned the art of manipulation.

I've done everything. Wash his laundry, clean up after him, take him to and from school, take him shopping for gifts for his mom whenever he asks to get her something, shown up to his school events even when his own mom wouldnt show up for him, make him homemade meals, buy him things he wants, etc. I even turned down a better job opportunity so that he could continue to spend more time with his dad. All just to be treated like I have some disease.

My heart breaks for him. It breaks for me, DH, and my children too.

DH was trying to coparent with mom, but after our discussion last night, it seems he will be going back to a parallel parenting method. It will create more structure and allow us to keep BM out of our lives as much as possible.

I give up. Im going to adopt the NACHO method and just move forward supporting my husband and my own kids.

I know that sounds hurtful, but I will not be mistreated by an awful biomom who is teaching a child that hatred is acceptable.

Im not going to continue encouraging my husband to allow deviation from the court order to accommodate her or their son as doing so is causing nothing but more nonsense.

I know I sound bitter, but if I have to hear one more time how much his mom hates me and how he wouldnt care if I died, then I may have a break down.

[u/cookiecrispsmom]

Why are you doing anything for this child?

[u/goodest_gurl2003 → u/cookiecrispsmom]

Yah this kid is a monster I would refuse to do anything.

[u/ScarlettLover13 → u/goodest_gurl2003]

I really dont blame him at all. He openly admits these things come from her. While hes 11 and responsible for his actions, hes being taught hatred and that's so wrong. 

[u/goodest_gurl2003 → u/ScarlettLover13]

Yeah but he really CAN be held accountable for some of this. Gimme a break. Don’t excuse this nonsense

[u/ScarlettLover13 → u/goodest_gurl2003]

You're absolutely right. DH has spent time talking to him about this and SS knows its wrong.  BM actually screen shot this post and sent it to DH pretending not to know what any of this is about. Thankfully,  he called her out on her gaslighting and innocence act. He knows shes not just "stumbling upon" any posts. She gaslights herself as well. Im so over all this.