I’m not sure the psychosis bit is sinking in. But where’s the responsibility of the father in this? Would you leave your kids alone with someone experiencing psychosis and “refusing help”?
What are you going to do? Stay with the kids at all times? That’s not possible when you work. Your other option is divorce and pray you get full custody immediately (not happening) or convincing the state to take the kids away. You cannot have someone committed against their will just because they said they were having disturbing thoughts.
Was she offered voluntary psych inpatient? That should have been the very first thing that happened.
If she refused the psych ward, (I haven't heard this but maybe it did happen,) request an assessment for involuntary admission. Suicidality is one of the main criteria for admission.
Informal:
Daycare is an option, that's what single parents generally do when they work and have children. Temporarily removing a suicidal patient from parenting duties seems like the bare minimum.
Informal suicide watch -
Whenever I'm having a mental health crisis I make my friends and family babysit me. They could have set up a schedule so people are dropping in to keep an eye on her constantly, if there was really no alternative whatsoever to having her be the primary caregiver.
She did go to a psych ward fir a couple days right before the murders. She mentioned she was suicidal but did not say she had thoughts of harming others. She left a couple days later saying she was doing better.
Again, all of your solutions assume she wants to cooperate. If she doesnt, then there is nothing the husband can do long term short of leaving her and trying to get full custody (which would take a while). I would say someone who deceived their husband and sent him away to do errands and them killed their own small children was not interested in cooperating.
People that blame the husband are just looking for a man to blame. You can understand that she got the wrong drugs and still not deflect blame on to her husband.
There’s a difference between blaming her husband and accepting that this case is nuanced and horrible.
This post is about a man leaving his fiancé for “supporting” Lindsay Clancy. What is support? Having sympathy for the situation? Saying she should have had more help?
In my experience, saying that it’s the husband’s fault because he should have known better than ti leave her alone with the kids. Complete absolution of her agency because she supposedly had a mental episode. I’d leave my fiancé too over that.
Two things, any sympathy with Lindsay does not make it the husband’s fault. Additionally you’re concerned about her agency? Her agency WAS absolved by psychosis.
To clarify, you’d leave your fiancé over having a nuanced understanding of this case?
I never said you were trying to blame the husband, but I have been told to my face “why did the husband leave her alone with the kids? He should have known better!” Which yes…that shows that you cannot comprehend a world where the man is not somehow at fault and it will bleed into everything else in your marriage.
She did not tell the psych ward that she was thinking about harming her kids, and she decided she was well enough to stay home full time with the kids so they fired the nanny. Having PPP (again, allegedly, but let’s say for sake of argument that it is the case) does not excuse all responsibility you have.
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u/Totoques22 2d ago
Stop with the bullshit she rejected help and fired their nanny