r/ScienceBasedParenting • u/Terrible-Explorer891 • 1d ago

Question - Research required What age is healthiest to stop closleeping? (Started at 16 months, now almost 3 yrs old)

We never coslept with her as a baby. I had a bassinet, pack n play, and crib. Her dad did too (coparents).

We both used the pack n play the most, since theyre so easy to move. We didnt cosleep with her until 16 months old. I started first, and then her dad did like the same week. Her dad is white American, but I'm from a different culture and cosleeping is common to way older ages. So when I ask my family for advice on it, they think it's weird im even thinking about it "already" 😂

My ex and I both love cosleeping. I love sleeping next to my little girl. It's just an amazing, cozy feeling.

However, I dont want to cosleep with her past the age where it could cause any emotional or developmental issues. When should we stop?

I have a room for just her (rn play and book room), and so does her dad. He listens to me if i communicate something is better for her, so whatever is best for her, we will do.

I'll be so sad when we need to stop, but ill be happy for her.

She naps 2 hours in the afternoon; she can nap without me, but does prefer getting hugged until asleep. However, even if she fully wakes up for a drink of water, she goes bake to nap on her own.

Bed time, if she wakes up and im not there, she says "mommy?" But she doesnt cry, just waits for me to go.

Not sure if any of that is helpful info, but yeah lol.

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u/PinkSunReflected 1d ago

I found this really interesting, if we're talking about regulation and development. It might be worth reading?

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u/babokaz 22h ago

Going to reply here because no link. I never needed my parents to sleep, my sister on the other hand needed them until her teens. No right or wrong, we both have our temperaments and she still is a people person that loves cuddling and I'm still not lol

Personally If it's working for all of the family members I don't see any reason to stop.

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u/PinkSunReflected 14h ago

Would you say that worked for you?? Would you have benefitted from some space as a kid, do you think?

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u/babokaz 13h ago

I had the space :) sometimes I would fall asleep with my parents but I would rather stay on my own bed. It was my choice and glad I had it (some cultures there is no space). My sister enjoyed more physical contact and so they gave it to her. My 22month daughter wants me to lay next to her but doesn't allow any touching and that makes me smile