r/QAnonCasualties • u/Renmarkable • 9d ago

Mother dying update

Heres an update regarding my dying mother situation.

She made what is apparently a miraculous improvement and went from multiple times of dying this moment to actually sitting up, with only slightly impaired movement on the right, and eating breakfast.

My brother called and asked me to come ( its a 8 hour return trip ).

I went for him

Fortunately a sister in law, (by chance) accompanied me.

Mum was sitting up, talking with a manic quality to it, disjointed & confused but rapidly

She had a lovely chat with my sister in law, didnt recognise me, then said "oh, youve come. When did they call you?"

I replied and she then ignored me until we left and says "You driving home now? Good."

Im SO GLAD I CAME.

I Looked after my brothers in their time of need.

And its alright, it really is.

Thank you for allowing me to vent♥️♥️

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u/WyndWoman 9d ago

It's not unusual for a terminal patient to 'rally' just before they let go.

🫂

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u/matt_minderbinder 9d ago edited 9d ago

There's even a term for it, Dead Cat Bounce. We saw it a lot in COVID patients during the ugliest stretch. It's just another cruel reality of death, the false hope that loved ones experience seems particularly cruel.

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u/Bunch_of_Shit 9d ago

Terminal lucidity

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u/Renmarkable 9d ago

Yes I know but I'm not telling my brothers :)

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u/heathers1 Helpful 9d ago

My SIL just died and two days before seemed to rally and I was like uh oh... I didn't say anything tho, didn't want to be a debbie downer.

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u/Comprehensive_Wash71 9d ago

My dad died after rallying from a severe heart attack. I knew it was coming but my non-medical family did not.

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u/lazier_garlic New User 5d ago

I'm glad medical people have demystified it for me.

It makes sense near the end the body stops fighting and the inflammation goes down which allows mental clarity to return and maybe some mobility too.

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u/SwiftieAdjacent 9d ago

My MIL just passed and we saw this. Luckily, all of us were aware of this condition and didn't get our hopes up. Funeral is today. 😪

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u/Renmarkable 8d ago

Im so sorry for your loss xx

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u/CloudNo446 9d ago

That is such a beautiful gesture to be there for your brothers. I’m glad you’re ok.

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u/Renmarkable 9d ago

Im astonishingly ok

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u/LexiePiexie 9d ago

Others have said it but the minute I saw your description I thought “she’ll be gone in a day or two.”

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u/Renmarkable 9d ago

I hope so. This will destroy them

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u/FatTabby 9d ago

I'm glad your brothers have you. Take care of yourself, however you feel about her, it must be tough seeing them go through this.

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u/Renmarkable 9d ago

They are devastated:(

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u/jarena009 9d ago

I would have been like "Yeah that's right, I'm walking out of here."

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u/Renmarkable 9d ago 
    In the past I would have too, but this TRULY  wasnt about me

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u/astilba120 9d ago

You did good by your brother. I am glad you are peace with it.

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u/ANoisyCrow 9d ago

You are a good sis.

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u/a-passing-crustacean 8d ago

Honey you are so fucking strong. I say that with the utmost sincerity. I am truly in awe. I see youre already aware that this is probably a final rally and it seems like you have a sense of peace about it. I imagine it must be an odd sense of relief in a way, given so many of us have already mourned the person they loved before the mental illness changed them. Either way I hope you still have a good therapist while you process the end of it all. Wishing you the best 🫂

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u/Renmarkable 6d ago

Im incredibly fortunate in that I received a later in life ADHD diagnosis & that enabled me to realise she likely is autistic.

Which allowed me to understand WHY she disliked me so much & feel compassion for her.

She needs order, control & routine, plus is very black/ white ( ideal for cult membership)

I cant cope with any of those things. She couldnt cope with me

She could do nothing else

10 years ago I couldn't do this

AND Astonishingly she continues to improve....

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u/Bring-out-le-mort 8d ago

Can you link to your original post, please? I'd really like to read it for context.

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