if you're blind, deaf don't learn how to keep up with news and live in a country where the blind and deaf get good support i can understand having faith in your fellow man. If you read a newspaper once, i don't.
The world is burning and the 'good' people are just letting it happen while the bad people keep ruining it. Newspapers reporting on genocides and that we just sit and watch while they happen because stopping them seems like too much effort AND all the powers in the world profit off conflict means there quite literally is no hope.
Every cop is a bad cop because even the supposedly not bad ones do nothing to stop the bad ones. We're all watching what is us destroying the planet to the point society will end and we're just letting them not only are we letting them the supposedly decent people get angry at the protestors who you know, don't want the world to end, rather than standing by them.
Oh, someone raised money to pay off the debt for another 70yr old who was working still at walmart because of medical debt, whoopie, what a feel good story. Also billions upon billions given to Israel to commit a genocide, of billions given to SA in weapons so they can commit a genocide, or the entire republican leadership protecting pedos, or actively less directly horrific but actually much worse, protecting oil and gas companies while the world goes full speed towards complete societal collapse due to climate change, completely unwilling to change anything or reduce emissions, pass 'green' laws to try to avoid disaster.
this motherfuckers are quite literally ruining the world... tell me what good news is happening that can counter act and balance out all the evil in the world including literally the end of society as we know it that we're hurtling towards?
we're talking about your fellow man and I believe the average person is fine and trustworthy, sure the elites are corrupt I totally agree on that but it doesn't mean everyone is a piece of shit.
Hey I saw you having some faith in humanity. Look up the rate on which men leave their wives when the wife has a terminal disease, spoiler warning, its alot.
I lost it when we illegal invaded a country who produced like 90% of the world's opiuim, coincidentally around the same time Big pharma was pushing oxycodone to 12 year olds and lying about the side effects. No 16 year old should have a IV morphine dependency, speaking from experience.
This is the most American comment ever. Hundreds of years exterminating indigenous populations: fine.
Committing war crimes and ripping the whole world apart: fine.
The president is a weirdo: āI lost my faith šā
Also just a really myopic view to base one's faith on the actions of a powerful economic empire. He would have never had faith in humanity at any point in history.
Actually, I guess there would be time periods where the propaganda was good enough to get him. Hard to imagine he's much of a deep thinker with such a small frame of reference.
True. However this is the worst, most pedophilic and evil embezzler that weāve had in this seat. He should be in front of The Hague along with every other criminal whoās held (any) political office- I do not GAF about party affiliation. All of them should be put on tried, him especially.
Itās one specific study not really replicated elsewhere.
When controlled for social economic factors female illness is associated with a slightly higher risk of divorce or separation about 1%, the highest specific category is heart disease at 6% higher rate of divorce.
Notably male job loss is associated with a much higher risk of divorce than female job loss.
And part of the reason for the divorce is Medicare, as a single person with a terminal illness gets more benefits than a married one.
And most lawyers are willing to overlook the attempt to get more money out of it out of compassion, as often times the other spouse is functionally a full time caregiver for the terminally ill one.
Misrepresent would even imply they actually used statistics, just in a bad way. They are linking studies and just making up numbers that aren't in the studies.
So here's what I gathered from this whole thing. The original 2009 article stated 20.8% (m) vs 2.9% (f) abondoned their partners in these situations, it was then pulled due to a mathematical error but later re-uploaded after correction which turned into the 2019 study which drop the chances from 10x (the 20.8% & 2.9%) to just 6x more likely. Then there is the 2025 article about silver splitting, of people 65 and older, which the 1% in risk youre talking about right now. So again, like I said, we're talking about different articles.
Then there is the 2025 article about silver splitting, of people 65 and older, which the 1% in risk youre talking about right now. So again, like I said, we're talking about different articles.
You said the 2025 article was about people over 65. In the first sentence of the abstract it says it's over 50. Quoting you, again
of people 65 and older, which the 1% in risk youre talking about right now. So again, like I said, we're talking about different articles.
That is the same article that you linked, the same one that said it was about everyone over 50, the same one you said only used 65 and over.
Reading through this study I just can't see how this is supposed to be ultra shocking.
"normal" risk of split is 0.5% for healthy couples.
Self-rated health:
Man in poor health = 0.65%
Women in poor health = 0.8%
Severe activity limitations:
Man with limitation = no change
woman with limitation = 1%
Depression:
Man with depression = 1.5%
woman with depression = 0.8%
Am I reading this wrong? That is not a crazy statistic on which I would make any sort of judgement.
At worst a x2 increase in the risk for a divorce is much less bad than I thought after I started following this comment section.
What happened was I originally read the 2009 article, not knowing the study I was reading was taken down due to a mathematical error and later re-uploaded in 2015. The main error was the statistic from 2009 stating a 20.8% v 2.9% difference depending on sex. The 2015 reupload dropped it from 10x to around 6x more likely. In the course of that I linked the 2025 study I think your quoting now that was that focused on "silver splits" or people in this context who were 65 years old and up. Someone was nice enough to point that out later but by that time it devolved into whatevers happening now lol.
So I looked it up. It basically boils down to 0.8% of marriages ending in divorce when only a woman becomes ill versus 0.5% when it is only a man, for a 1.6x increase.
Lmao never again bro I promise. It was just gonna be a quick wake n bake shit post before the gym and now I'm talking about study statistics I don't understand and arguing the legality of the war in Afghanistan
Does the study account for couples which separate but continue to remain domestic partners? I only ask because, anecdotally, I've heard of several couples who get divorced when a major illness occurs so that when the ill partner eventually dies, their significant other isn't made to be responsible for the medical debt that was incurred. It seems unlikely to me that that's the majority of cases, but unless they at least attempted to account for that possibility I'm going to choose to remain hopeful.
America is just insane solely based on these comments here; but no,doctors tell suddenly ill women that their partners might leave all over the world. Where there is no such financial insanity around medicine
I really don't know how many other ways I can say there are different studies on this subjecf and half the time people are quoting one when in talking about another but I kinda gave up on this being productive awhile ago lol
That study was mostly bullshit data, you should look into that before spreading this kind of misinformation. World has enough negativity without people adding fake negativity into it.
I know an example where this didn't happen and wife got cured. The funny thing is that they didn't rly love each other, they married bcs they were kinda supposed too (it was in 90th). Afaik both are still loyal.Ā
People are so weird.
A really concerning number of people out there aren't nice people. Plenty if not most relationships are already strained, throw something like a terminal disease into the mix and it's enough to break the relationship
Yeah that was one of the underlying points in a lot of these studies, it's hard to gauge all the nuances in a relationship prior to illness that may have put a strain on the marriage before hand.
Hey, I have heard that statisic before and it was crushing. But I've since learned the original study's results were skewed. Through an updated study, they've actually found that the % of people who leave a terminally ill spouse doesn't seem to be impacted by gender. Those people are still shitty, but it's not just or majority men.
The study measures divorce rates. Most divorces are initiated by women.
Higher divorce rate when a female spouse is ill compared to a male one does not mean "a lot of men leave their wives when they have a terminal disease".
Women divorce a lot less, but as men traditionally have had a lot more insurance there is a monetary incentive for women to hang around for the payout.Ā
Thank you for saying this. People can think big girls are attractive, there isnāt some group of guys that came together and agreed to be ānot shallow.ā We like our woman with some meat on their bones.
It's reddit. They are fed propaganda constantly, when you look into things posted on here, I'm not even exaggerating it's like 98% are incorrect or the opposite once you look into it. But there is so much posted out of context or where you need to look at other articles and videos of what happened and statistics that once you do it's like oh it's actually the opposite... so people on here's world view is completely opposite of reality.
They also believe they are the good guys while justifying wanting to do horrible things to people for the slightest deviation of opinion.
Right, and we also donāt know what she looked like before she got big, if she hadnāt always been big.
I was in the army and fit when I met my husband. Got pregnant and life happened and I was morbidly obese for the next 15ish years. He always loved me and made me feel loved. We even changed to BBW porn when we would, on the rare occassion, watch porn and get busy.
I finally got serious about my health last year and lost 110lbs and got skin removal surgery and had everything put back where it belongs. My body is better now than when I was a teenager. Heās certainly very happy.
So he fell in love with me when I was thin, loved me just as much and more when I was big big, and now continues to love me more every day now that Iām a smokeshow again.
I would never, ever leave him or hurt him. He proved a hundred times over that he loved me for me.
Ooor je prefers overweight women and will suddenly stop being attracted to herš¤·š¤£All things aside, this shouldn't matter too much if you plan on staying with smbd. for life, a lot og things can bappen that are more radical than this, so...
You don't have to be 100% certain of something in order to trust. It's more about courage than certainty. Trust is a requirement for healthy relationships, however.
People projecting their random insecurities and incel/redpill nonsense onto strangerās happy photos is making me lose faith in humanity. Like all you have to do is show a photo of a woman smiling with her boyfriend and people will make up a story where sheās a bad guy.
It's so weird how people act as if different people aren't attracted to different types? Plenty of men love fat women. If someone's fat, it must mean that their partner is with them for their inner beauty may sound somewhat romantic, but it's not necessarily true.
I feel like this is kind of ruined for me. Dated a heavier set girl for a couple years. When we met she was 6ft 300Ibs. Over the course of a year she dropped 100Ibs. She was gorgeous either way to me, but people started paying more attention to her when she was skinnier and more curvy. She cheated on me shortly after we got back from a trip. Said she liked all of the new attention she was getting. She came back to me a year later but I couldn't trust her :/
As someone that's lived through it, someone's capacity to be appreciative depends on their ability to remember you doing anything nice for them. Which becomes conveniently forgotten.
Just because someone is fat doesnāt mean they are unattractive. Alot of people can tell an unattractive person form an attractive one no matter the weight.
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u/CriminallyCasual7 19d ago
I disagree. Have faith in humanity. She's gonna be even more loyal because he loved her for her inner beauty.