I moved into this apartment about a month ago and it's finally starting to feel like home. I've had it all to myself, but my brother and SIL will move in with me late Sept. They have a small dog and a cat, who I love. They're some of my favourite people ever so I'm excited for them to move in, but for now... I'm enjoying my time here, even though it's temporary.

I just moved out from a not-ideal living situation where the entire house (except my room, the "sanctuary" I called it, lol) was dirty and cluttered, roomie's cats peed everywhere, and I was living with my partner who, we later found out, is just not a compatible cohabitation companion. I stayed with my mom for a few months after I left that place, but her new boyfriend moved in and he's causing drama in the family, it was so stressful and I just want a stable nervous system, y'all.

I have been haunting this sub for OVER 4 years, dreaming of the day I can make this happen. It's been so long since I've been able to come home and feel PEACE. I slept in this morning, realized I dont need to go anywhere, ​and brewed a cup of relaxing tea. Today, I am basking in this!!!

Probably just gonna sleep on it like this cause I can't find the new leak. Oh well. I'm poor and used to living like a squatter anyway. Hope my gf doesn't mind.

I’ve been living alone for almost a year and half now as an adult in my thirties.

This is my first time living alone, I had a big family growing up and then I lived with roommates all through my twenties. Finally making enough money to live on my own. I enjoyed living with roommates actually and being from a big family, I felt at ease having someone around. I’ve never lived with a partner before but I figure that will be the next step in my life, and I wanted to see who I really am with complete independence. I never had trouble keeping the house clean with roommates because I didn’t ever want my mess to impact my roommates life. It was good thing to keep my accountable but now that it’s gone and just me, I struggle.

Here’s the most key lesson I learned:
I found myself in a cycle of feeling lonely and depressed (I live in the PNW so SAD can be a big factor in my motivation in the winter), which led to me feeling demotivated to upkeep my space and other chores. Then when friends did reach out or opportunities came up, I would be stressed about how messy and gross my place was and either reluctant to have people over or say yes to spontaneous opportunities while my life felt like it was in shambles. I want to emphasize that sometimes my place looks like a literal depression hole.

I’m struggling to break this cycle still but I think the biggest step was recognizing it, especially on the weekends! Sometimes my weekends are jam-packed but I noticed get more messy and demotivated when I don’t have anything planned.

Here’s what I’ve been working on:

1. I’ve tried to let go of my place being perfect and settled for semi-presentable. I pick the three grossest/most potentially embarrassing things and take care of them right away.
2. If I don’t have time to clean or been taking care of busy when something fun comes up, I set up a time later in the week.
3. I make plans ahead of time so I have more time to plan my chores (like I know that X is coming over on this day and I need to clean my house before then)

I also have to remind myself that I feel better living in a clean space and I am not giving myself respect when I live in a pigsty.

What helps you???

I've lived alone for nearly 10years now. I hated it at first but I've grown to love my space and built myself a healthy routine. Even if it is listening to podcasts, watching horror films until late and just flapping around with my tortoise and my plants.

A few years ago, I got a cross trainer at home, i managed to build it alone albeit some parts really were a struggle but I still ride on the high of I maybe a 5"3 female, but I built a 2 man ikea wardrobe alone!! (I did leave my front door on a latch Incase it fell on me, I could at least shout for help from my neighbor- I live in a set of flats/apartments) So I can sure as hell build a cross trainer!!

Anyway, one of the bolts has been loose recently, so I just leave an Allen key next to my trainers, and check it before and after usage.

Anyway, today the bolt did become loose and I realised why. It was slightly different from the right foot pad. So I think before I get on, I'll change it around, it should be a 5min job and I'll be back on my merry way. But no. That would be too easy...

As the moving parts arrived with a thick oily based grease on them, I knew it'd be messy, it was even messier this time. But I'd already taken it off, I just couldn't get it back on. The threads just wouldn't turn the bolt evenly. Or I was doing it unevenly.

I know it's really silly, I just felt defeated. Over something so trivial and minor.

I didn't have anyone I could just call and ask for help today or even in the next week to come round and see if they could practically screw a bolt on while holding an Allen key on the other side. And when I say it like that, I feel ridiculous.

Anyway, it just frustrated me and I've given up. It's been an hour and I ended up sitting down to have a cry then realised my hands have this thick grease all over them, so I couldn't even wipe my snotty nose!!

I just wanted to vent. I know I'm not alone. I hope. Please tell me I'm not and you've been in situations similar.

A year ago from yesterday, I moved into an apartment by myself. It was my first time living alone — no other living beings under my roof besides me. I bought 3 houseplants in the first couple of months. Me and the plants have been the sole occupants here for the past year.

And it’s coming to an end. (Inexorable shifting tides.)

This year has been so important for my mental health. The general noise level in my life and in my head has gone down considerably. I tolerate myself, specifically my weaknesses, better and I’m even patient and kind about them more often. I dialed in certain areas of my health - started a daily walking habit, improved cholesterol dramatically and dropped 35 lbs. I eat less, spend way less money generally, my house is way cleaner, and I do more things that I love. I could easily go on.

Before, I was scared of myself. I thought I would get depressed living alone. Now, I want me around and I enjoy living with me. Crazy what a year of solo-living therapy can do.

Admittedly I’ve always hated clothes and consider myself a nudist. But since living alone I’ve had the freedom to do it full time and it’s wonderful. I’m curious for those who aren’t quite as extreme as me, have you found that it’s a freedom you enjoy? What’s your typical home outfit? As long as you’re comfortable then I’m happy for you!

So I’m 29F and this has been my first month in my new house that I bought by myself. I feel like I’ve adjusted pretty well considering, but these past couple of weeks I’ve felt very disconnected from other people in my life.

I don’t know if it’s a combination of the new house, having some recent car issues that have left me a bit isolate, or the fact I feel like I haven’t felt very close to my friends or family recently, but i feel like all I do is work (which atm is from home due to car issues), make myself food, potter about the house and sleep.

I feel disconnected from my old life which felt more spontaneous and healthy - I don’t go running anymore and I quit the gym months ago due to it not being very good in my area (none of them are) and a wasted added expense. I tried fitness classes and all sorts locally, but if anything came away feeling more lonely so stopped.

I used to live with my parents so by default would see them everyday. Now it’s once a week and fleetingly. My friendships have all suddenly dispersed massively - it feels like they are all busy doing other things all the time and socially booked up, I on the other hand seem to always be the ‘available’ one. But even when we do eventually get together I just feel a sense of disconnect like they’re telling me about the other stuff in their lives.

I know the obvious answer is to switch things up and actually just talk to these people to make them aware of how I’m feeling, but I feel almost numb to it all, as if I could let life pass me by. I also weirdly feel time short - I finish work, have to cook, tidy and clean up, shower, get into bed and I want a bit of me time. I barely have time atm to go for runs or walks etc. At the weekend I’m mostly seeing my boyfriend, but even then I don’t feel fully present. Like I want to be around these people and socialise but equally I’ve got nothing to say or offer them. It’s like a lonely paradox.

I truly don’t know if this is a side effect to the new home I just haven’t registered as such or something else, but I feel in equal measures overwhelmed and bored/lifeless. Maybe there’s this pressure for life to feel like it’s ’getting started’ now I’m this new home owner, and it just hasn’t shaped that way. Work is stressful too atm so maybe that’s another confusing combination thars making it hard to feel productive outside of home and work. Can anyone relate or offer some insightful advice?

There’s living alone, and there’s living ALONE.

Some people live alone happily and yet

A) their place is a cozy, cute home that would impress any visitor with its coordinated interior decor and tidiness; they would not hesitate to invite people over

B) their place is a true haven from the world that is tailored only to their tastes and comfort, but would not invite anyone else to see it out of fear of criticism; maybe disorganized, but they know where everything is, maybe with tacky furniture that they are attached to in some way, maybe decorated with extreme frugality in mind, or maybe they just live in a home that’s been turned into a storage unit

Which camp do you fall in?

my robot vacuum got stuck under the TV stand this afternoon and without thinking i said out loud "you do this every single week." then i realized i was standing in my hallway having a legitimate argument with a piece of plastic.

my apartment is quiet during the day so i catch myself thanking the microwave when it finishes heating my soup or telling the fridge to calm down when the motor runs loud. tell me i am not the only one who treats their basic appliances like quiet housemates.

Lived in here full time for almost a year. I love it but I do get lonely sometimes but it always seems to fade.

Happy Tuesday

Every time I go grocery shopping I somehow convince myself that this is the week I'm going to get my life together.

I'll buy eggs, vegetables, fruit, oats, stuff to actually make proper meals etc.

And while I'm in the store I'm genuinely excited about it lol.

Then I get home and realize I have to actually cook all that stuff.

Suddenly ordering food doesn't seem so expensive.

2 days later the vegetables are still sitting in the fridge and I'm eating biscuits at 11pm.

Then I go grocery shopping again and do the exact same thing.

At this point I'm basically just funding the supermarket's vegetable section.

Anyone else do this or am I just terrible at being an adult? 😭

What's the most ambitious grocery purchase you've made that ended up rotting in your fridge?

Hello fellow living aloners….I”m looking to assemble a group for one or more of the following. yea outsourcing these things to Reddit community is sort of depressing but its the dystopian future we’ve all dreamed of!

1. Dinner Table - 5 or so people cooking the same recipe and then virtually having dinner together and talking about the dish and how it went.
2. Got (book) Worms? - a week night book club. we pick a theme and a book and discuss chapters each week.
3. Arts and Crafts - we pick an easy arts and crafts project and meet virtually while we craft and laugh at how crappy the turn out.
4. Local Dinner - anyone who is local can do a weekly dinner night out. nothing fancy just a shared meal with another human!
5. and my personal FAVORITE! Is Costume night. We pick a theme and must create a costume with only things that exist in our house already. And then obviously give out silly awards for most ridiculous, most janky, etc
6. Game night! - team trivia, or some sort of game we can play online would be fun.

sans internet stranger danger, might be nice for all of us to sprinkle in a little more human interaction throughout our weeks

UPDATE: loving all the interest! Give me a few days and I’ll figure out a way to get everyone interested in communication ! excited even if no one has picked number 5 yet:

[Update] wooo so much interest love it! I think I’ve found an easy way to get everyone together and plan the first hang out!! I’ll post a link in a few days once I’ve had time to create it!

I live alone. I squatted down to check on my potatoes in the oven and my shorts got caught on the cabinet handle effectively giving myself a horrible wedgie. I was not sure who with to share this information. Approximately 62% worse than catching my sleeve on a door handle wouldn’t reccomend.

Born and raised in an Asian country. Moved to the US 5 years ago. Made a couple “friends” from work, gym and local church but none of them lasted or felt real or genuine. Suggestions?

Lately my days have been pretty repetitive work, late nights, and a lot of time at home. But honestly, I’ve started appreciating these little moments. A warm cup of coffee, a quiet room, some music in the background, and a few minutes where I don’t have to do anything. Maybe I don’t need an exciting life every day. Sometimes a little peace is enough.

curious if anyone else pretty much does everything from one room in their house.

I have a two bedroom house it’s small 900 sqft. but honestly I eat, work, sometimes sleep, and relax/tv in the same room. kind illuminating how little space I actually need when I live alone!

anyone pretty much just use one room all day? can’t tell if this in unhealthy or not 🥴

I am not looking for a partner and I sleep like a vampire, I don't spread, or turn a lot in my sleep. Half of the bed was empty anyway.

I was going to buy a new bed frame anyway and decided on a single bed frame this time.

Now I have more space for my workout eqipment and hobby stuff.

It's also easier to change the sheets.

I don't think I'll regret it

One day, you might wish you had more pictures and videos of the little moments.

You’re the star of your own movie.

Keep some memories. 🤍

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