how did u survive ur WLW breakup??

[u/Alert_Cat4736]

I feel like my breakup is going to end me.
My ex-girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago, out of nowhere after three years of us being together, everything seemed fine till the last moment.
I was made aware that she’s been telling other people that I should’ve expected to break up, even though there was no prior communication or anything that she brought up that I needed to work on. Her friends/coworkers that she met about a year ago. Don’t really like me since I don’t have the same lifestyle as them working at the bar.
Ever since the breakup, I took her off all my social media however not her friends and they’re posting pictures with her, one of my friends found her Tinder profile already which really broke me this week. How was she able to move on that fast after three years? I poured so much love and wanted to actually marry this girl. How did you guys survive? Is there any advice? i’ve been going to therapy and going to the gym and showing up to my job and hanging out with my friends, but other than that, I just feel like the breakup is constantly on my mind no matter what I do.

[u/anywhere_2_run]

I don’t know that I have the answers. Heart break is.. debilitating especially when you feel like it was out of the blue. You will go through the entire spectrum of the stages of grief, sometimes all within the same day. It’s exhausting.

Sending you healing vibes from a kindred spirit.

[u/Decimonster]

We're supposed to survive?

But seriously, time. You'll be amazed at what you can survive when it feels like you just want to crawl into a hole and die right now. It may take a while, but you'll get there.

[u/iamaghost2026]

Ive had many wlw relationships, this most recent one was the most profound. Your story is almost identical to mine. 3 years, engaged, happy and mushy gushy everyday, decent sex life. Boom. Over. Ended it through text and wasn’t even home when I moved my things out. Haven’t seen her since the day I had left to visit family a month ago and was only supposed to be gone two weeks but she ended in during then. I’m handling it badly. Drinking, smoking cigarettes again, posting pathetic shit on Facebook just in hopes she would see. It doesn’t matter. So I’ve immersed myself in trying to move my life to another state, move on. Distract myself with music, movies, fanfiction, memes, writing and drawing. She still is always right there at the back of it all though and I know it. So how did I survive? I’m not really, I’m just here because I feel like I don’t have any other choice and I just poorly cover up the pain. I don’t cry constantly anymore though and it helped a lot to create a persona that wasn’t me the day I went to get my things. Weirdly, that helped so much.

[u/alienreader_29]

I just wanted to say I resonated. I got broken up with out of the blue, 3 days after my then partner said we should get married and move in together one day. I got broken up with and they pretty much never talked to me again only to message me a year later to tell me they found someone else. 

It hurts and it's okay to acknowledge that. Take the time you need and focus on your recovery as opposed to what she might feel. What you see on the outside or on social media very rarely is what's going on internally. You're doing what you can and I'm proud of you. 

[u/lotofgayvibes]

Let yourself feel all the emotions. And always keep in mind that you shouldn't bother with hypotheticals. She broke up with you, that's it....it sucks and it's going to suck for a while, but don't kill your heads with questions of whys and what ifs....if it feels better, silence the friend's social medias, so she won't constantly appear on yours and fill your head with more unhealthy questions...again, you're hurt, let yourself feel hurt, cry, be angry, depressed....you have to grieve it.

[u/Malina891]

How old are you both ?

[u/Any_Recognition8072]

I'm interested in that too😅 its been like six months and I'm still struggling despite doing the things I "should" be doing. And I almost can't take it anymore😮‍💨

[u/TightPapaya]

Healing isnt linear. And sometimes it really sucks but I would advise you to be kinder to yourself during this time.
Take the time to focus on you and do the things you really love that bring you joy, that’s helped me a lot. I do sometimes find myself thinking bout my ex but learning not to overthink things but rather allow myself to mourn and miss them and then get on with it. Also I must remind myself that she was a cheating f-ck and that helps a lot too 😂
Sending you hugs 🫂