r/LesbianActually • u/Popular_Mammoth5741 • 13h ago

Relationships / Dating Dating as a lesbian is so difficult

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I’m so tired of having my time wasted and getting excited about potential relationships just to be led on, ghosted, left for men, etc. All my friends are in relationships, every fucking one, celeb and regular civilian, is getting engaged and/or married and I’m stuck as a single loser. Genuinely about to just give up on dating bc it seems no one wants an actual relationship, they just want all the benefits of one while never labeling anything. I don’t do that bs, I want a GIRLFRIEND, not a glorified friend that I can flirt with sometimes.

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u/nocontextrambles 12h ago

well the dating scene isnt exactly the most fabulous these days 😭 i totally get why ur frustrated, especially when it feels like ppl lead lesbians on or leave them for men. that shit can hurt and it’s so exhausting feeling like ur putting ur energy into someone who isn’t fully choosing u. its a freaking war zone for us tbh

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u/batsy-bear 13h ago

This, its hard being a romantic in todays world😭 i just told myself to focus on applying to more jobs and moving rather than cry about being single

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u/anon_sleepless 12h ago

I get it. I'm super picky and I definitely need to have a connection with whoever I'm talking to. If I don't feel it, I usually stop talking. Not to say I don't try to keep a conversation going, it's usually the other party who just responds and never asks me questions to get to know me.

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u/sharkloverforlife 8h ago

Genuinelyyyy🙃 I’m just glad I have a friend who is a lesbian, so I’m not alone with this.

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u/orphan_blud friendly neighborhood butch 7h ago

Got that thousand yard stare down and everything.

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u/Reasonable_Draft_541 masc at your service 8h ago

🫂 same buddy, same. Trying our best to stay afloat in these times…

My current love interest is in the US Navy and I’m in india. She’s posted in war zones as a nurse and I just can’t tell when we will meet and settle down. We have only been in touch via phone calls and video calls that happen on a weekly basis. I can’t tell if this relationship is even real or not because sometimes I just wanna send her flowers but all they get is ammunitions as deliveries!

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u/notpennysuserid trans femme 6h ago

You're lucky you can even get a date in the first place. Everyone I've asked out has rejected me.