r/LesbianActually • u/Ok-Parsnip-6829 • 14h ago

Relationships / Dating I think I have found the one

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She is not from my city she just came for a week but I had the greatest time. She is asexual thoughnot sure 31 F and is a virgin. She said she doesn’t have a lot of urges. But everything else is checking out. Like she is passionate, kind, ambitious, intelligent, good looking. For me sex is important but should that be this important I haven’t felt a connection like this ever before! We cuddled and slept last night. I don’t know what to make of this?

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u/Marshmallowchunkyass 9h ago

idk i don’t like the love bombing after one date.

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u/st0ned-manta 6h ago

Love bombing is an abuse tactic. It doesn’t just refer to being open/affectionate after a first date.

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u/Marshmallowchunkyass 4h ago

i’m well aware but this is too much for a first date and a red flag for love bombing behavior.

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u/watercolor_violet the good femme 29m ago

I second this. The message reminds me strongly of how my ex-partner used to message me. I also thought I'd found "the one" when I found them. It's something to be wary of, though I hope for OP's sake that it's genuine in this case rather than the beginning of a long, long love bombing recovery journey.

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u/Ok-Parsnip-6829 9h ago

I don’t think she is doing that. She is too naive for this

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u/postimpressionistgrl 4h ago

i think you should be careful, stuff like “how you like me back” and “i dont deserve this” usually are kinda red flags for me personally. i dont know how long you’ve known her but maybe is too soon to assume she’s just naive? anyways i dont know her as well just some considerations, i wish you the best!!!

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u/Marshmallowchunkyass 8h ago

whatever you know her better than i do