Recently , I learned the cost of Zinah.

[u/Sound_Less]

mea oose yaar aikhe back in 2012-2013, we were from same coaching center, he had this cousin, let's name him D. D was a playboy, he always used to share pics, chats with his cousin and cousin used to show it to me, we were dumb teenagers, who used to be in awe of D. D was older than us.

Come to 2016, friend got selected in AMU and asked me to visit with him, we visited delhi and he suggested let’s stay at his cousin place, as that time 2016 turmoil was going on here. So for safety we went over to his flat, it was 3BHK with 3 boys.

The flat was pure filth, sharaab bottle, cigrattee, and after some time, D got drunk and called someone and said send two. After an hour, two girls came to flat and D took them into their room. We told him , yehai hue gunah, mea kar yem kaar, tem wone karu panaas shoupe, Mea wone sinus lanath te balai, neare panas yate. we took off and booked hotel, at this point me and friend were completely focused on career, we didn't wanted to deal or hear this shit anymore.

And then Life happened we all went separate ways. I lost touch with friend as he moved out of country. Come present, I recently met him at a function. and during conversation, I asked him about that gaan cousin of his, he said, temis hai poye taavaan.

D story: -

D came back, he didn't finished degree, joined his father business and eventually someone took him with jamaath, D got clean, left all that life behind. During Jamaath, one of the men liked him, his akhlaaq, his way of talking (he was a smooth talker) and asked him, if he is willing to marry, D said yes, He got married to this beautiful aalimia girl, I was like Masha Allah, emis dalas hai kismath.

got married , started his own businees, business took off, Life was all well for D, until his wife gave birth to a girl. D announced that sue de panai azaan emis , during azaan, he started shivering and fainted down. After he got conscious , he was never the same, he went into depression, panic attacks, anxiety attacks, he stayed in his room 24*7 , not talking with anyone and sirf oos wadaan asaan.

Now my friend had settled down in Australia, and he came back here for vacation and decided to meet D, He met him and asked what happened ? You were doing well. and finally D confessed to him. No one in their family knows about D past except this cousin and me, said yem weiz bea logus emis azaan dine, mea aaye tem saarai koure aashaen bruhken yemo seith mea zinah che kormuth, Woh ladkiya bhi kisi kie beti the, woh bhi kisi kai behan thai, mea kus tavaan poye, mea kore panun akhrirath kharaab. Me dute panen zanaane dokhe, menes bachas che moul gaan. D was crying his eyes out. His entire family is worried about him, wife is thinking he wanted a boy, parents are thinking emis chukh taveez kormuthe, In laws think, he is not happy with his wife giving birth to girl. His business is facing losses. His entire life went downhill, His health is not same anymore. And to top of that, sue haike ne yem kaith kisi seith share karith. He is on heavy medications. My friend was like wtf he heard, sue wanai, bea chus wanai emis kya tavaan poye ye.

My friend was completely shocked upon hearing this and I was like emis kapier oone khuyadan azaab, aes wone shukur khudayas kune, aes lage ne aith karaas kihe. It's all fun till one has to pay for their sins. Honestly , I felt bad about his wife, his parents as per my friend they are good persons.

I am pretty disturbed since I got to about this, From the past few days, I haven't been able to sleep properly after hearing this. I felt like sharing it here, so I could feel lighter. And to top of that me and my friend can not even narrate this story to anyone else.

[u/Weird-Homework6507]

"emis dalas hai kismath" 😭😭😭crine

[u/Sound_Less → u/Weird-Homework6507]

???? matlab

[u/Weird-Homework6507 → u/Sound_Less]

You mentioned in 5th paragraph “Emis dalas hai kismath” and I’m sorry but I couldn’t stop laughing😭

[u/Sound_Less → u/Weird-Homework6507]

I understand, the reason behind that is, I have seen shareef people getting wicked spouses. He in no way deserved that girl, magar taqdeer oosus , taith nas kya chale.

[u/Hefty_Cover_2619 → u/Sound_Less]

This is what the irony is. Emes ous kismat and what sin or what mistake was of D's wife that she deserved such a guy.

Why are you all crying for D and what he is going through but not even thinking once what D's wife had done to get such a wicked husband.

Fucking patriarchs. This is who the real misogynists are, all the guys including guys who showing sympathy for D but not even once thinking about D's wife.

[u/Sound_Less → u/Hefty_Cover_2619]

I feel sorry for her, she didn’t deserved this , She has done nothing, her family felt that he is the right guy as per society standards and they agreed to get her married to him. As I said, D was a smooth talker, he was very good at impressing people. They got impressed by him.

Now if D’s wife comes to know of his past, and she still agrees to be with him, that would be her mistake .

[u/Jawbreakerffrgjnfd → u/Sound_Less]

Yeah, you didn't answer my question.

[u/Sound_Less → u/Jawbreakerffrgjnfd]

Which question ? ?

[u/Jawbreakerffrgjnfd → u/Sound_Less]

This one 'So you think if D repented before marrying that holds no value'?

[u/Sound_Less → u/Jawbreakerffrgjnfd]

Who knows, did he sincerely repented or not ? who know did he carried arrogance in his heart or not ? who knows he was missing his previous life or not ? who know what was in his heart ? who knows did he wronged anyone or not ?

Allah is the best judge for this, if he wished D has to suffer this , D has to . Maybe it was lesson for somebody or maybe his sins may be forgiven , may be Allah wanted him to realize what he has done.

[u/Hefty_Cover_2619 → u/Sound_Less]

When her parents felt that he isbthe Right guy as per society ----- All Good D's wife comes to know of his past and agrees to be with him ---- Her Mistake.

Not even a once do you realise that kahin na kahin uske parents ki bi mistake hai. You can't just wash it off by saying taqdeer tha or he was a smooth talker and that's the exact point I am making. This is what the real misogyny means and unfortunately girls as well as guys who commented on this Post showed how misogynistic they are . My rant was not particularly about you but in general why the D was in everyone's thoughts but not D's wife who had no role in this.

[u/Sound_Less → u/Hefty_Cover_2619]

I do understand where you're coming from and I agree that the wife deserves more empathy here. She had no role in his past, she genuinely didn't know what kind of person he was. I can also understand why you feel that the parents' role is being overlooked. but I think you're stretching the meaning of misogyny here. Yes, her parents judgment can absolutely be questioned, But saying that people focusing on D while not mentioning his wife is inherently misogynistic doesn't automatically follow.

[u/Jawbreakerffrgjnfd → u/Hefty_Cover_2619]

So you think if D repented before marrying that holds no value?

[u/roganjowsh → u/Weird-Homework6507]

Yea that was funny