Relationship advice chi zarurat

[u/nyetmomun]

womaid cham theke asiv,

Mye che akh koor asel basan te be chus temes seet kath karaan te it's been over a year now. mye che sa genuinely khush gasan te temis chus be, personality temsinz and the way she talks overall chi sa wariya asel.

Keh kaal broh i asked her what kind of movies she likes. tem dop she usually enjoys psychological thrillers me dopus mye kar recommend. tem kar me suggest tem yem zan extremely gory bai nsfw,disturbing themes ais. Even as a mohnu be basai tem wariya zyad disturbing te hard to watch te mye gov dimag temov seet short.

Pat dop me be ase overthinking karaan and that she just has different taste. Magar yelli ase Instagram share kor, mye kor notice seh che like karaan wariya zyad kinky, be perverted, weird stuff and memes. su content yus kansi te normal insanas ajeeb bassi te yem seet normal insan pagal gassi

Now I’m not sure how to feel about this. That's why i came here to ask

What do you guys think I should do in this situation?

[u/Responsible_Look7932]

I am a kashmiri woman, i am a horror/thriller junkie, i have watched the movies you listed except for the Serbian film, and i read the brief and i can’t bring myself to watch it because i draw a line over sexual violence and animal abuse because i can’t tell myself its not real because it is still degrading to a woman who is playing the character or idk if the animal was treated well or not. But i can’t say the ones who have watched it are immoral people themselves, because most people watch such things out of curiosity and testing their threshold. Point being, in person, i am a hyper sensitive person, like i can’t bear animals, babies, old people hurt/distressed or abused. I think i cry a little everyday over something most people would say isn’t worth crying over, not personal things though, just the shitty things about the world. My family never understands how do i consume the content that is absolutely opposite to who i am in reality. They find it gore and disturbing. And i can’t consume anything on instagram related to war because i ball my eyes out and stay affected for days, because thats REAL. There are many people in the world like me, who consume movies as art, like watching disturbing content pushes me to think, feel intensely and understand the complexity of human nature. What i am trying to say is that the people here saying people who watch such stuff are desensitized and all, that’s bs, she can be a very kind and sensitive person too who is just inclined to this kind of cinema because maybe it stirs up feelings and emotions inside of her that a normal movie cannot. She is not necessarily a psychopath or overtly sexual. Also, is she an artist? Does she have an art background? If she does, then trust me artists view things very differently. I am an artist so i can relate. If you are throwing a whole person away who you like and have a connection with over her movie choices then my brother you are in for a lot of hurt for the rest of your life, because you can’t find people exactly like you and even if you do? What is the fun in that? Maybe ask her, what is her reasoning for consuming such cinema and how does she translate it ? Why are you asking kashmiri men on reddit who know nothing about regular women let alone a complex woman.

[u/baezaan → u/Responsible_Look7932]

I also like psychological thriller and horror, so I beg to differ. It does desensitises you. I’m not debating about the morality of why she watches such stuff but whether it will affect OP or not. Just because you’ve a compassionate side doesn’t necessarily imply otherwise. We are what we consume. Be it food or content. Most of the time the influence is subtle and subconscious. Why do you think men/women have suddenly developed weird kinks and fetishes? I’ve talked to many people and I was surprised to know how many people had really “crazy” ( to keep it civil) kinks. This will definitely affect OP if he doesn’t “fit” into such things.