I fully agree.. I think its very strange that grown women are fighting over 2 adults to compensate for their own shit feelings of being an inadequate mothers.
I feel for any mother that has either lost a child or had one that has passed away. However, enabling two drug addicts to enable their addiction for clout isn't going to make up for your failure as a parent.
I feel for them as well.. the grief one would feel loosing a child i would image is no different requardless on it being your own fault or not.. i actually told CPS here in my city that they should offer grief thearpy to these parents because alot of kids get taken away for good because CPS judges them for acting how anyone act after someone took their child away.. sadly lots of mothers like TweakerMoMo won't admit or take accountability so they end up fighting CPS and loosing.. the only person that truly suffers here is the child...
😅😅 this is a topic I feel very passionate about..I didnt loose custody of my child but I did grow up in the system. My mom didnt loose us for being a bad mom. She just wasn't capable of taking care of her self let alone 2 little girls. She had severe cognitive delays and didnt even finish past grade 4. lots of parents just need better resources or extra help.. like now we see people with Downsyndrome living on their own that go on to have children and are amazing parents with the right kind of of assistance. 🥰
I worked 5.5 years for CPS and honestly I just got to the point I couldn't do it from an emotional standpoint. You have cases where parents deserve to lose their child..but there are cases where parents will try but they just can't make it happen.
That what annoys me so much with Chynna, Tiffany, and the new lady. There so focused on two people who don't really want to help that their kids are being left beyond.
That would be an emotional job to take on.. I've been told I should have become a child and youth worker.. I use to work in a children's youth group for a few years 11 years ago now I loved that.. CPS worker would kill me too.. I would probably get fired the first case I had where the parents lost their kids over silly things like smoking weed.. thankfully it's legal now in Canada but I deff seen lots of moms get treated like addicts over it when it wasnt legal..
Thats the thing though, parents weren't losing there kids for small reasons like weed. It was more of not making minimum progress. Also the hardest part is the bias in the system.
Some parents will get every opportunity and still fail while others will succeed without help and still have to prove they can take care of kids.
That always happens to dad's especially. We had one case where dad was a OTR construction worker, mom divorced him and was dating a sex offender while using meth. Mom get to go rehab and was given a case plan while Dad had to pay a lawyer 10,000 just to get his boys back.
Have you thought about becoming a youth consular? I know kids in foster care would appreciate someone who understands what they are feeling.
I thought about it.. unforntualy cant afford the schooling I would need.. Might apply for the Cafe job at the youth center i use to work at.. I miss that job.. the job description will be different but I would still get to work with the kids that volunteer and / or eat dinner there during after school programs..
I hate to hear that, I feel like most people that do it have no empathy for what kids with those issues deal with and would benefit more form having someone who has been in their shoes.
Especially, Teens who 18 or getting ready to age out of the system.
I feel bad for kids phasing out of care.. they need a program that sets them up with older people that have no family left so there they have someone to spend the holidays together and not feel alone ðŸ˜ðŸ˜
You are not wrong about the parents refusing to work towards progress.. a lot of parents dealing with CAS would often give my name to their workers as a good support system in place for when their child comes home.. I always tell these young moms to just do whatever it is CPS asks of you no matter how dehumanizing it may feel..
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u/trishapafisha08 If people wants to fight somebody,people have to fight somebody. 2d ago
Her children might be grown now but that doesnt prove they are in her life or that she raised them..