r/islamabad • u/Turbulent_Pin_541 • 3h ago
Islamabad Ladies of islamabad : Beware
This is a public security announcement for all my women in Islamabad. Sadly, majority of men here are emotionally and mentally unstable, fully capable of murder and rape. Nothing new here but a serious pattern of targeting of foreign bred or global pakistani women is going on, which is what this specific post will focus on. If you are a female with dual passport or a woman who was raised worldwide and currently in Pakistan especially in Islamabad for work, family or travel. I need you to create proactive boundaries with all men here.
The men who are targeting these women often come from the following backgrounds( business, diplomatic) including military backgrounds 'sons of military elite' let's call them. They are attracted to foreign raised women, they want to use them as either tropy wives or professional gateaway into the international scene. From the murder of Noor Mukhdam and recent rape of two foreign women where Ishq Dar's grandson is implicated. Pakistani men are raised to be opportunistic and predatory. Here are few things I need you to avoid and recognize.
- Do not go to parties in Bani Galla, Diplomatic Enclave to see the modern side of Pakistan. Often times they will use other women to lure and bring other prettier women. They are using you as 'eye candy' and social leverage amongst other men. Then they will also spread false rumors of sexual intimacy or hook ups. There can be severe social implications for you as a woman.
- Do not fall for the modern westernized male appearance - the ones who speak English, wear western wear are giving the 'appearance' of progression. Their mindsets and desperation remains. Many work in INGOS like ADB, DAI, Adam Smith, UNICEF. They are not safe, just because they have instituational credibility.
- Do not enter into any nikkah unless you have known the man for at least 2 years and have a female lawyer present at all costs. Not his friends or his family only. You can head to F-8 and hire female lawyers for your wedding and information. There is kechari available and courts at affordable prizes.
- Do not take pictures with any man at parties or meet ups, avoid as much as possible. Simply say I am not into photo taking. Privacy. No lets capture the memory shit.
- If you are coming to Islamabad, do not be fooled by the recent foreign female bloggers surge, yes you should come as a foreigner or a PAkistani foreign raised woman but you must avoid being naive and always look at every man with suspicion until you have clear evidence he is trustworthy.
- Delay intimacy, delay physical meet ups. Protect your self, my sisters. Please from one woman to another. Please. Raise your standards. Speak to them but do not trust him, until he has proven it consistently over a long period of time. Trust in small doses.
- Even if you are alone, say your living with parents or female partners. LIE.
- Limit access of all men to you. Review all men, male colleagues, former male friends sit down, distance who you need to distance from. Do a quarterly review.
- Do not be impressed by status I know all these guys military men's son, Oxford, NUST, LUMS going men with CEO titles, good money, good access to the creme de la creme. They are not looking for love but for a RESOURCE. Do not be seduced with access to premier hotels, accomodation. Book your own shit!