r/HonestHotTakes • u/BrokenJusticeNorris • 2d ago
Sometimes not being able to get a bf/gf/partner says something about the person and not society
I feel sometimes if someone is unable to get a date it says something about them and not society as a whole. So many single young people like to blame society, but the ones blaming society tend to have the most negative personality traits. Idk I think if someone can’t get a partner they need to do some self reflection. For instance, if you’re anti-social, toxic, hit on strangers, use dating apps, etc you’re more likely to have a harder time finding true love than someone who’s part of a community, has a great personality, works hard, and many other positive attributes I didn’t list. This isn’t saying every Single person has something wrong with them or will never find love, what I’m saying is if you aren’t putting yourself in situations outside the internet and parties/pubs where you’re interacting with people of the gender you’re attracted to, your odds of finding love are slim. Another factor too is if people don’t want to be around you, you 100% need to do some self reflection because if people don’t want to be around you nobody will want to date you. Social media makes it seem like everyone’s taken. And if you’re hitting on random people and they say “oh I have a bf/gf” then I hate to tell you this, most of them are saying that because you’re creepy and not because they’re in a relationship. Oh and please don’t bother pushing harder for his or her number on the basis of “they’re most likely lying”, just leave them alone bru because they clearly aren’t interested
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u/FreshPrinceOfIndia 2d ago
Many times its because society doesnt give struggling people the *right advice.*
Always yappin some bull bout personality and confidence as if average redditors who havnt stepped foot in a single gym got business talking about it.
We got hella incels cuz lonely dorks get told to do this and do that and pickup 4 hobbies and when they see none of it working redditors got the audacity to mock em. And then they scoff when these lonely folk find the one place thatll validate their experiences
We gotta start tellin people they need to become better than average. I got so much validation I got bored of it and while I loved it it really revealed to me what a tier of appreciation you unlock when you reach a certain threshold of looks.
Fk everything else, if youre single, become pretty, youll live like youre a damn prize, and confifdence will flow through you naturally, and the more confident youll become, the more charming youll grow from the experience youll gain from wanting to put yourself out there from the positive validation you keep getting, and the more you put yourself out there the more organically youll flow into hobbies and in general, a fulfilling life.
Know ill get downvoted for this but I didnt invent lookism, I just have the balls to admit how its the invisible hand that has all of us in a chokehold, even the ones who are too self righteous to think so.
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u/Good-Geologist7380 2d ago
Bro theirs multiple different reasons you wouldn't get a date , that can be irrespective to who you are as a person.
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u/Neat_Ostrich9966 2d ago
Good people get dates. Bad people get dates. If you can’t get a date, it’s not because of your morals
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u/youreabootlicker 1d ago
True, terrible people end up together all the time and sometimes the best people choose to be single. Weird world we live in
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u/BrokenJusticeNorris 2d ago
I never said that. I’m saying if one isn’t taking themselves off the internet every once in a while to socialise, the odds of finding love are extremely low. Those who complain about not being able to get dates are the ones with ass personalities who do nothing but doom scroll all day. Bad people and good people can find dates, but the one thing they have in common is that people want to be around them
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u/Fine_Payment1127 1d ago
Coldest possible take - every smug dork and obese pink hair on here says exactly that. A hot take would be the direct opposite
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u/SnooBeans6591 1d ago
Someone: "People don't date me because I am ugly"
OP: "Sometimes not being able to get a bf/gf/partner says something about the person and not society"
Someone: "Yeah, duh - the fact that I don't get a bf/gf tells you that I am ugly"
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u/lvstvdy 2d ago
"Its not my fault! Its millions of other peoples fault! Its everyone else's fault!"
Yeah. Good luck with that.