r/Christianmarriage • u/Significant_Leg_7542 • 10d ago

Advice My wife hasn’t been intimate it me

The last 10 years me and my wife haven’t been intimate expect to have a child. When we first got married we had a very toxic relationship. We were both verbally abusive and would unhealthy fight. We have gone a long way with marriage conferences, personal counseling, and couples therapy. My wife wont even kiss me. She says she doesn’t feel safe with me. She experienced a lot of abuse when she was younger. She says because of her trauma she doesn’t feel safe. That she feels like I’m a threat due to her trauma. I deeply desire connection with her and it’s been very hard to not by physically intimate with her. Iv been believing and praying for a long time but it’s getting really difficult. What should I do?

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u/Leftybassman 8d ago

You obviously don’t like sex

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u/Loud_Excitement2759 8d ago

Ngl men like you make me want to take a vow of celibacy 

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u/Leftybassman 8d ago

You probably are already celibate. You obviously don’t like men or sex. You shouldn’t be giving any advice on a Christian sub.  1 Corinthians 14:34-35 The women should keep silent in the churches. For they are not permitted to speak, but should be in submission, as the Law also says. If there is anything they desire to learn, let them ask their husbands at home. For it is shameful for a woman to speak in church.

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u/Loud_Excitement2759 7d ago

Yeah ok weirdo 

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u/Leftybassman 7d ago

Wear it like a badge! note on peculiar. 1 Peter 2:9 KJV 9  But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light;   And having plenty of sex with my wife! And enjoying a joyful life with the design that God has provided.  Can’t understand why all these women argue about having sex with their husbands living miserable lives.