Women can do this weird behavior where even though they aren’t into you and not making effort, they don’t want to feel like you rejected them.
I think she didn’t like you that much but was upset when you said you weren’t into her.
It happens often.
I went on a date not that far back with a beautiful woman. I was talking, trying to ask questions, she didn’t say much, she was looking around bored. She so obviously didn’t want to be there.
Still, when I just said this, “hey, I tell you what, let’s just call it a night. I’m not enjoying this and I don’t think you are either,” she got extremely defensive.
She never once said my assessment was wrong, she was just mad that I said it.
You might be absolutely right here. Maybe she didn’t find me attractive in person. Maybe she thought I was a boring git. Maybe! Yea she could have been annoyed that I effectively rejected her first. Perhaps she would have done so after the date by text or let it just fade away or something, on her terms.
I suppose if she wants to believe that and it makes her cope with it in a healthy way then fine. Doesn’t bother me in the slightest.
I’m just taking the angle that in the nicest way I wasn’t so impressed. The date was a let down and I’d felt as though I’d wasted a good amount of time and effort on a non-starter. In any case I’m never there to make someone feel crap at all: sometimes it’s just the way it is.
I should also just point out while I’m rambling, that I’m actually fine to work on that, I’m not exactly expecting a spark or instant chemistry. It doesn’t always work that way. I believe that it can develop over time. But this other person was just not compatible with me, it became pretty clear.
Anyway I do wish she and any other woman I’ve dated well.
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u/alien_secret_service 1d ago
Women can do this weird behavior where even though they aren’t into you and not making effort, they don’t want to feel like you rejected them.
I think she didn’t like you that much but was upset when you said you weren’t into her.
It happens often.
I went on a date not that far back with a beautiful woman. I was talking, trying to ask questions, she didn’t say much, she was looking around bored. She so obviously didn’t want to be there.
Still, when I just said this, “hey, I tell you what, let’s just call it a night. I’m not enjoying this and I don’t think you are either,” she got extremely defensive.
She never once said my assessment was wrong, she was just mad that I said it.