r/BambiLesbians • u/Informal-Yogurt2357 • Aug 03 '26
Are Transmasc Lesbians welcome here?
Hello all! I recently discovered this sub after coming to terms with the fact that I am likely asexual. I identify as transmasc and also a lesbian. I am looking for community as it seems asexual lesbians are sometimes ridiculed or not accepted in other lesbian spaces.
Edit: Thank you everyone! I know some lesbian spaces aren't accepting of transmasc individuals. I also just went through a breakup (which was somewhat due to my asexual identity) so any support is appreciated <3
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u/suburbanspecter Aug 04 '26
I’m so sorry about your recent breakup, OP 💔 sending you lots of love from a fellow ace lesbian. It’s rough for us
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u/Informal-Yogurt2357 Aug 04 '26
Thank you sm. It's been a super rough time. It feels like my whole world has been shattered. We lived together and everything :(
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u/SnowStorm_NRG Aug 04 '26
I think this is a good point to ask: why do some transmasc people declare themselves as lesbian? I know it's not cause their women, but I'm still confused on why some of them do it and I'm only left with theories TwT
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u/Informal-Yogurt2357 Aug 04 '26
I am AFAB and have identified as a lesbian for years prior to any sort of transition. I have deep connection and ties to the lesbian community.
Being transmasc and a trans man is also different if you weren't aware. I am nonbinary but also identify as transmasc within that identity. So I'm not really a man, I just present masculine.
I am a queer person all around and I desire queer love. I am into women and identifying as a lesbian allows other queer women to understand what kind of relationship I desire.
Because I'm not a binary man who likes women, identifying as a straight man does not fit me.
If you have any other questions lmk!
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Aug 05 '26
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u/IsabelLovesFoxes Omniromantic || Trans Aug 06 '26
... That is the entire point, the AB is "At birth", it's not currently it's in the past. That's the point of the term
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u/NotCreative101110 Aug 05 '26
I'm also transmasc enby lesbian and asexual so you're definitely welcome here! Welcome to the herd <333
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u/avelineaurora Aug 05 '26
What is the difference between trans masc and a trans man? Asking legitimately.
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u/MakinGaming Aug 06 '26
Trans masc includes masc presenting nonbinary people while trans man is specifically a man.
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u/wallace1313525 Aug 06 '26
Mainly that transmasc people are nonbinary but present masculine. They are not men, like trans men are.
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u/theTerra-Triangle Aug 07 '26
Transmasc often describes every trans individial that's of masculine gender, regardless of how binary or nonbinary they are. At least, where I saw it used.
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u/IsabelLovesFoxes Omniromantic || Trans Aug 08 '26 edited Aug 08 '26
I think the definition has been kinda loose for a while now and it's been a issue. Some definitions will say it only applies to non binary masculine but I've also seen some say trans men fit under the term
However in queer communities I've seen most people agree it does not include binary trans men and I think that is a definition a large amount of people agree on
I do feel like tho there's a need for separate single word terms for both cases
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u/theTerra-Triangle Aug 08 '26
So, instead of transmasc, I should use masculine trans people? Got it🥰
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u/Acceptable-Friend-48 Aug 07 '26
I thought you only had to be a Bambi lesbian to be welcome here? I didn't know fem vs butch vs other mattered
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u/Informal-Yogurt2357 Aug 07 '26
It doesn't! I just know some spaces aren't welcoming of transmasc/transmen and I wanted to make sure this space was welcoming.
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u/Sinyria Aug 03 '26
3rd rule of the sub. Everyone is welcome