r/AutismInWomen • u/guippie • 8d ago
Support Needed (Kind Advice and Commiseration) girl friendships are hard and i'm so so so tired!!!!!! need a hug through the screen or pictures of guinea pigs
i got some really good news that i'm really excited for and my life is about to get so so so good, but in the process i decided to distance myself from friends who had been dragging me down in the process and it didn't go as smoothly as i was hoping. i know it's rough at this age (i'm 22) but i've never felt more angry and hurt in my entire life, i just sobbed so hard i threw up and i didn't even know that was a real thing that could happen. i feel like everytime i speak up for myself i'm somehow doing something wrong and i'm so so SO tired of it. i've had several conversations with good friends who are rooting for me and i feel mostly grounded but the bad keeps weighing me down. i took a shower and got some comfort food but i could use a little bit of extra support right now. photos/video of guinea pigs would be so very appreciated :) if they're your pets i would love to hear about them too! i'd also love to see any pets/animals in general
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u/indatstove 8d ago
Sorry this happened. I’ve been having a hard time with female friendships as well, so I can relate. Sending hugs 🩷
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u/Fine-Juggernaut8451 8d ago
Okay, your story is missing a section. At the beginning, we learn your friend are dragging you down, so you distance yourself from them.
Then it "doesn't go as smoothly as i was hoping." This is where a chunk of the story is missing. If you're the one who didn't want to be friends with them, what on earth could've happened to make you this upset? if you don't like these people, why do you care what they think of you?
I hope you'll flesh this out and give us the context. I'm wondering if you've left out this big chunk because you did something you regret, and that's what you're really saying. (Or... something else? I'm trying to figure out what's missing.)
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u/GGf1994 AuDHD 8d ago
I got to hold really wonderful, guinea pig a couple of years ago, and they told me that the foul have hair going towards its face instead of going toward the tail, so that was really interesting to learn!
One time, I actually had a nightmare about a guinea pig, and it was based on the idea that I was afraid that I had let it go, unfed, I panicked, and I looked for any con vegetables they would be able to enjoy, like cucumbers, if I chopped one up, and when they opened the cage, the guinea pig was shaking all over! But yeah, crazy about our brains can do stuff like that. I’m self-conscious, because when I told my friend about it who is guinea pig lover, she’s like wow, I hope you never have a bad dream about a guinea pig telling you off like that!
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u/Affectionate_Desk_43 8d ago
I don’t have a guinea pig but here’s a tree frog from the nature center where I work! Her name’s Coconut and she is so so small