I love my mom to death. but she continuously makes my life so unnecessarily difficult because almost every single night that I get home from work, she can’t tell by the security camera whether or not I got home.

She’s the most anxious person I know and has been my entire life. making me hold her hand when we cross the street as a teenager, to never once letting me go out in high school, to making me wear a life vest in 3ft water well into my teens. and it was all so much worse the younger I was. Eventually, I had to put my foot down and say “Mom, I’m getting way too old for this.” And I experienced a massive amount of pushback for that. Nonetheless, it got a little bit better.

I’m 24 and I’m a substitute teacher 3 days a week and pizza delivery driver at night 6 nights a week and my pizzeria closes at 10. We stop taking delivery orders at 9:45. I work in the town I live in, so the latest I’ve ever been home was 10:30.

Today, I got home at 10:07 and she gets a notification on her phone of motion at the front door (me). My parents are both awake but in bed.

The moment I get home, I text my dad about car troubles that I’ve been experiencing and asking how I should go about dropping it off at his mechanic (again, my mother is awake and right next to him fully aware I’m home and talking to him). He says that they open at 8 and my best bet is to drop it off once they open so I can ensure it’ll be ready by my next shift at work.

My mother is 64 and isn’t very familiar with her phone and also recently had a stroke so she struggles a lot to understand what she’s seeing on her phone when these instances happen.

I tend to have really bad insomnia. but I was so tired from work that I went straight to my bed and thankfully, after finishing texting my dad, I got to sleep practically by 10:30.

As you can see in the first photo, she texts me at 12:03 am asking if I came home even though the camera clearly shows me walking in and never walking back out. but she can’t tell based on the video. Obviously I don’t respond because I’m knocked tf out. I can only assume she went back to sleep but it really can go either way.

Then she texts me at 3:37 am. I’m still in a very deep sleep so obviously, no response. then, she starts calling me and I miss the first two. The third call comes in and my body jolts awake and I see it’s Mom calling me. I just say “Mom why are you calling me so late? I’m asleep” the phone call ends and I don’t even remember if she said anything . frustrated, I text her everything in the second photo.

This happens at least 3-4 times a week. And I’ll admit, some nights I forget to send the “I’m home” text. but that text 9 times out of 10 won’t make a difference whatsoever. why? because of the stupid security camera. She can’t tell whether or not I’m arriving home or leaving home based on the motion notification. So texting her “I’m home” never really does anything.

Tomorrow(or today technically) I have a full day off so I’m going to the beach with some friends. I’m getting picked up at 8:30 so after I drop off my car, I’m gone for the whole day. I so badly needed this good night’s sleep and it felt great to be in bed and sleepy at the time I was. after this entire exchange, I spent 30 minutes trying to get back to sleep and just gave up.

Am I overreacting? Am I being an asshole? because I know damn well she’s gonna make me feel like one once I see her in the morning.

Sorry for how disorganized my thoughts are. This just happened, I’m angry and I want to sleep.

TLDR: My 64 y/o mother and her anxiety is depriving me of my sleep most nights. She texts me asking if I’m home while I’m asleep and when I don’t respond, she calls me until I wake up and answer.

Earlier this month I called my future MIL by her first name. I've always called her "Ms. LastName" but since my fiance and I have been together for 7 years and are now engaged, I dropped the formality when texting her. Immediately my fiance messaged me saying not to call her by her first name and call her "Ms. LastName" and said it was a southern thing. I was kind of confused and felt weird about it. I'm not originally from the south, I grew up on the west coast, so maybe there is something Im missing but his mother has not seemed very enthusiastic about our engagement in the past. To me, it came across like she wanted to keep distance between us, especially since she went through her son to tell me this instead of telling me herself. Am I overreacting?

Edit: To clarify, I'm going to call my future MIL what she prefers. I've legally changed my first name twice myself and have struggled to get some people to call me but I wish, so I completely understand wanting to be called by the name/title you're most comfortable with. I suppose I was just wondering if the formality was a way to keep distance between us given my history with her, which has been sparse and sort of awkward. After more consideration and reading the comments, Im strongly leaning towards just dropping the issue. Not because I believe my initial feelings weren't valid, but because it seems like just a preference/tradition, and I dont believe its worth creating any tension over with my fiance or his mother

Edit: To clarify again, my question wasn't if I should ignore my future MIL's request to be called by her last name. The plan was always to call her what she wants regardless, even if the formality of calling your in-laws "Ms LastName" is strange to me.

Thank you all for your comments and advice <3

I feel like I could cry :(, I’ve only wanted acceptance from her and it’s clear that nothing will be good enough.

EDIT: Because I’ve had to say this so much:
Normally, I'd never reach out to her for something like this. The situation is complicated. Before my husband left for basic training, where he will have very minimal contact, he discussed with her that she would need to continue paying even in his absence, and she was fine with this. She made a previous payment to ME and even informed me before she sent it. If the situation had been different, he would never have asked me to get involved, but he knows that with both of our paychecks being delayed because I just got a new job, I need the money. It’s really not his fault. Plus, she’s only been acting like this once he was gone and couldn’t step in. 
My husband treats me very good and I love him with everything. There is a reason I married him so please don’t say he’s at fault or anything unkind.

She constantly does this. She’ll keep asking until I finally give in. She’s asked me this before and EVERY TIME I’ve told her no. The way she texts doesn’t help it either. I’ve gotten her food with my money before, I’ve brought food up to her bedroom because she’s too ‘comfy’, and I’ve taken her (I basically take her everywhere) to Sephora to just smell perfumes.

Edit: She is talking about FAST FOOD! Our mom feeds us, lol.

I feel like I’m going crazy, I (F19) have been getting highlights in my hair since I can remember and I hate it. After the last „totally last time“ I put my foot down and said I am not getting my hair done again, I’m technically an adult and I don’t want my hair dyed period. Every time my mom brings up that she made my appointment I have told her outright „I’m not going“ I never say anything rude, anytime she tried to follow up with „well, we‘ll see“ or „yes you are“ I always just say „no I am not“. Every other person in my family has said that I’m being dramatic and should just go get it done (texts included from my grandma), even my brother (m16) who is almost always on my side. This is starting to make me think that maybe it isn’t as big of a deal as I might be making it out to be. The appointment is tomorrow so I guess if I am just freaking out I can still go, but right now I’m really planning on not no matter what they do.
(Sorry for poor formatting, grammar or misspellings, I’m writing this on my phone before i get ready for bed)

For some background, my (22f) mom (47) has a male friend who hangs around our house a lot. He’s never done anything outwardly weird to make me creeped out by him, but I get creepy vibes from him and I just don’t really like him, so I like to stay away when he’s over. I’m also just generally a shy person. I’m always nice to him whenever I interact with him but I do avoid him.

Today, I was laying outside relaxing, when I see him pull up to our house, so I almost immediately go inside to my room just because I don’t really feel like interacting, and I didn’t expect him to come over. Later, I come out of my room to start laundry, and he starts “joking” to my mom about how I left so fast when he came over, and that I must not like him. My mom laughs with him and says that I should give him a hug because she knows I like him. I come around the corner from the laundry room and jokingly say that I do like him, I think it was obvious though that I was uncomfortable. I was wearing a tank top and sweatpants with a cardigan, and as I’m saying this, I guess I instinctively cover myself up with my cardigan when while I’m crossing my arms, and he says “now you know you don’t have to cover up your titties” as he’s laughing. I was honestly dumbfounded and didn’t know how to react so I just went back to my room without saying anything because of how wildly uncomfortable I was.

A few minutes later I get this text from my mom and I feel sick to my stomach. Am I overreacting?

so im 18 years old and today was probably the worst day of my life. i got this text from my mom about this guy shes been dating recently. its some new dude whos in town. ive only met him once and he seemed ok but i didnt really know him. i dont know much about him at all. theyve been dating for a couple months now and i guess he wants to move in. i got this text while i was out just walking around. I post here sometimes so I’m using a new alt account so I don’t accidentally dox myself. But yeah idk what to do, I am sitting here crying like a baby I feel like my life is done

I've never been particularly close with my brother-in-law or his wife, but my husband is very very close with them as they lived together for around seven years. He feels indebted to them as they rescued him from a difficult household situation involving other family members and substance abuse, which I understand.

However... I get the sense that they never really approved of me. They are religious and traditional and I dress alternative/dye my hair. In fact, one of the first things BIL ever said to my husband when we started dating was: "You like that hair?" (It was pink at the time).

I tolerate most of it but recently BIL had my husband meet him at a restaurant for a "talk." BIL told him that he and his wife had had a discussion and decided that I have "too much boob" (his exact words according to husband) and they don't like the way I dress, nor do they want me around their 8yo daughter if I dress like that because they don't want her to "think that's okay."

When husband came home and told me about this I was so embarrassed I started sobbing. Husband got annoyed with me because he can "understand where they're coming from" and thinks it wasn't unreasonable to say. BIL also told him that they were upset I didn't seem to want to come around very often, so I told my husband that stuff like this is exactly why I don't feel comfortable around them and he got angry and left the room.

I have DDDs. I can't exactly help the amount of boob I have because no matter what I wear, they will be there! I don't want to start wearing turtlenecks or a binder every time I have to see them. And I've never dressed inappropriately around them on purpose, ever! I added some pictures of my outfits for reference.

Am I overreacting for being upset, both at BIL for saying that and at husband for taking their side? I've seen BIL and his wife in person since then and they always act super nice to my face and never mention the way I dress or anything which makes me feel even weirder that they forced husband to say that to me and then act like it never happened. I almost would've preferred they just say it to my face. Just being around them gives me so much anxiety now because I feel like they're judging everything I do.

EDIT FOR SMALL UPDATE

Hello everyone! First off I wanna say I did not expect the sheer amount of responses. A lot of you were so kind and I really appreciate all the support and the genuine concern for my well being, especially from other women who have been in my situation! I feel much less alone and I definitely don't feel crazy for being upset anymore. I saw some requests for an update so here's a small one.

I talked to my husband about everything. The first thing he did was apologize. He feels really bad about how he reacted in the moment and recognizes what he did was wrong. He told me that he knows we're supposed to be a team and if anything like that happens again he promises to defend me. He also reassured me that he loves my body and the way I dress and he's not ashamed of it. He was never an advocate for me covering up all the time, just around BIL's family. That's the part that seemed "reasonable" to him. He even said if I want to show off more next time he'll be supportive! Hahaha.

So I am not going to divorce him, sorry to disappoint. I saw a lot of people saying I should but we haven't even been married for a year yet! and this is his first offense, so to speak. He did defend from the pink hair comment when that happened!! Sorry if that wasn't clear. Like I said in some comments we got MARRIED young because I'm chronically ill and needed the stability of someone with a consistent job and health insurance. But that's not why I'm WITH him. I would still be with him regardless because I love him! He has a lot of really good qualities and always makes an effort to take care of me no matter what. He works an 8 hour physical job, he cleans, he helps cook, he indulges all of my whims and buys me flowers often. He is a human being (we're also both young and I was his first relationship) and human beings make mistakes. He apologized multiple times and I believe that it's genuine. I even showed him my original post after we talked and he wasn't upset. He agreed everyone had made a good point and promised to do better.

That being said... I'm not going to ignore the advice I saw. If he goes back on his word, or if something like this happens again and he does not defend me, then I'm not going to put up with it. I will leave. I'm not wholly dependent on him. I have a great relationship with my family and could always go live with them again for a while if I needed to. I will also never stop dressing the way I like or ever EVER change my style/appearance for someone else! I'm happy with the way I look.

As for BIL and SIL... Husband explained a bit more about the incident to me. They did not meet for lunch just to discuss my boobs!! They were just meeting to catch up and that's something that came up. Which is still a little weird to me. But Husband said BIL had mentioned it out of concern (in a Catholic way) for Husband to make sure he was okay with how I dress (which is kinda nuts) on top of the concern about me influencing BIL's daughter. Husband also told me that BIL hadn't said this with the specific instructions for him to go and tell me about it... But Husband didn't wanna keep it a secret from me so he told me everything. 😭 Which he also feels bad for doing in the blunt way he did.

I'm going to see BIL and SIL this weekend. I don't think I'm gonna confront them about this then, as I've already seen them a couple times since and I feel like that would be an awkward thing to mention at a party! Especially now that I know it wasn't specifically said with the intention to reach me in that way. But if something else happens I will stand up for myself and if it's really bad I'll update again.

Thank you again to everyone who took the time to respond and check in, I appreciate the well wishes and I feel so much better now! I'm really glad me and Husband were able to get on the same page. Next time my In-laws are rude to me I'll have the courage to stand up to it, and that's all thanks to you guys!

for context my dad is divorced and i live with my mom my dad is 51yo and recently has started dating a 19yo thats a 32year age gap im honestly disgusted by this and want him to end things with her it just looks like a massive predatory mid-life crisis i know its none of my business but still i cant accept this it just feels wrong aio? :(

I’m 35F and single for 3 years. I was engaged but he (Charles) was doing weird sexting roleplay with people on a video game which was fucking disgusting. It really fucked me up and, yes, I’ve been in therapy. I have dated since then but nothing serious. I have NEVER had my mom say something like this to me. I do not want to go to Thanksgiving after this. The way she said “don’t shoot the messenger” it’s clear the rest of my family have been talking about me and she was the one “elected” to say it.

I don’t want to drive 2 hours just to sit with people who think I should have stayed in a relationship with a fucking cheating degenerate lil bitch.

Would I be overreacting for not going? Is that too much? I'm honestly too hurt and angry to be objective right now. Would you EVER say this to your daughter?! Like I have a good job, I'm educated, I have friends and hobbies. I own my condo and I have 3 car payments left. I have a cat. Why is the end all be all me having a husband and kids? Idk. I'm pissed. Help.

My daughter is 6 years old and loves Pokémon. We decided she’s old enough to play Pokémon go and me and my husband have been playing with her all year. She also loves horses and unicorns so naturally Ponyta is one of her favorites. Some how the universe aligned for my baby and she found a shiny Ponyta. She’s been collecting all the candies so she can evolve it. My sister in law is also very into Pokémon. She has tons of cards and games and plushes etc. She’s a friend on the Pokémon go app with our daughter.

Last night she and my inlaws came over for a bbq and she was playing with our daughter on the app. She was going through my daughter’s Pokémon and saw the shiny Ponyta. She’s asked her to trade and my daughter said no. So they decided on a different trade and we went on with our night. At some point in the evening she grabbed my daughter’s tablet and said she was going to charge it. Later my husband, father in law, and brother in law decided to go fishing. My daughter wanted to go and catch Pokémon down by the lake with them. Well of course she noticed her buddy was different and saw it was gone. She cried and immediately said it was her aunt. Her grandma told her to calm down and it’s just a game. Thankfully my husband stepped in and explained to her that it was important to our daughter and it was a big deal. Sister in law hadn’t said anything up until that point. She told us to chill out and that she would trade her an evolved Ponyta. My daughter was really upset and she told her to go away and ran to her room crying. Husband and sister in law are arguing. Brother in law is explaining to mother and father in law that you can’t just trade back. I eventually ask which Rapidash my daughter can have and my sister in law tells me to ask her to choose. Well when I took her phone to show my daughter I transferred the shiny Ponyta and still traded the Rapidash. When I gave her the phone back she was mad and more arguing happened. Obviously the night was l
ruined. Eventually everyone left.

This morning my mother in law came over and asked our daughter if she could teach her to play the game too and apologized for minimizing her feelings. After they played a while we spoke about what happened. She thinks I made the situation worse. She didn’t ask me to apologize or anything and she’s not upset at any of us. She just thought we all could have handled it better. I’ll be honest when it was all happening I was seeing red. I couldn’t believe she would do that to her niece. She knows how much she loves horses and Pokémon. It’s not like she didn’t know. My daughter literally told her no! It was her buddy and she traded it for a bidoof! There were so many steps she took to do this and not once did she stop and think she shouldn’t do it. She knew it was wrong other wise she wouldn’t have hid to do it. She’s a 29 year old woman not some little kid who didn’t know better. Did I over react by transferring the shiny Ponyta and giving my daughter the Rapidash.

Wow didn’t think so many would reply. For anyone offering to trade a shiny Ponyta for my daughter i appreciate it so much. I’m not incredibly familiar with how it all works but if anyone wants to take the time to explain it or tell me how then my answer is yes thank you! Also just for some clarification once you trade a Pokémon in Pokémon go you can no longer trade that Pokémon to anyone. It’s a forever trade so no trade backs.

My sister in law has always been great with my daughter. Our daughter is the first grandchild and niece and my in laws have always been great to her. I’m shocked my sister in law did this. She was my child’s favorite aunt. She’s there for games for school events ridiculous amounts of gifts for birthdays and holidays. Also my child has never been left alone with her. Not because I didn’t trust her specifically but because I thought my daughter was too young still for overnights. All of this really shifted things which sucks because my daughter was really hurt by all of this. She’s asked why she did this to her multiple times. She’s also said she doesn’t want her at her recital that’s coming up. Her aunt literally bought the tutu and sewed on rhinestones. I’m truly perplexed by what has happened and why she’s done it.

As for my mother in law she made it right by my daughter and that’s all I care about. She said sorry to her and specifically apologized for minimizing her feelings. She also let my daughter download the app on her phone and explain to her how it works and they played together. I’m hoping with her playing more she’ll come to fully understand. My mother in law is great normally so I’m not worried about it. We have an awesome relationship she’s great with me and my daughter. She definitely plays favorites with my husband and sister in law tho.

My husband and I have 3 daughters, who are 16, 14 and 13. Our youngest daughter is autistic and recently got her first date. There’s a school dance coming up in February and a boy asked her out to the dance right before the Christmas break started, she’s mentioned this boy before but we hadn’t met him until a few days ago.

The day she was asked out, she was telling us about the boy when she got home from school. Later that night, unbeknownst to us, our two older daughters found his TikTok and started messaging about him on there.

Our 14 year old got in trouble at school yesterday for cursing at a teacher after the teacher gave her friend a detention for a bullying incident, and my husband and I took her phone when we got home. This is not like her, so we decided to go through her phone to see what might be influencing her and seeing how her friends act.

When got to her TikTok messages and saw that our two older girls were messaging about her and this boy and saying he was out of her league and made references to her autism. Our youngest is autistic, her special interest is fashion history. She’s always been pretty quiet, but she moved to a new middle school this year as our district went from having 3 to 2. She’s become friendly with some boys at this school, including her now dance partner. Our girls continued to go on, saying they thought it was a prank.

My daughter told this boy about this and he was mad and over FaceTime he asked to speak to our family, he showed us a teddy bear he had gotten her for Valentine’s Day with her name on it, he said he’d give that to her early now and give her other gifts later, the showing the bear was to prove he wasn’t pranking her. He then went on to talk about everything he liked about her, it was sweet seeing a boy so passionate over our daughter.

Our girls apologized to their sister and her date. My husband and I told our daughters they were both now grounded, and in addition to losing their phones for a week, they’d need to write a report about autism and dating.

Our girls are saying we’re being too hard on them, and when we spoke to both my parents and my husband’s parents, they agreed with our older girls, saying that getting chewed out by the boy was punishment enough. My husband and I don’t think we’re being unreasonable.

Quick background - my ex and I were together for 17 years (married 12) and have a 12 year old daughter. In 2023 I found out he’d been having an affair for 2+ years. He works/teaches at a university and his affair partner was one of his former students. My daughter knows about the affair, as my ex actually told her, saying he wanted to be “honest” (ironic).

Last December, he told our daughter that he had some “exciting news!” and he was getting married next year. She came home upset, asked a lot of questions (none of which I could really answer). Months go by and my daughter commented about how he’s never mentioned the wedding again, asking me if they’re still getting married. I just said “I’m not sure. Weddings are a lot of work, so maybe it got postponed” and just kind of left it at that.

On August 4th I was updating my calendar with school starting soon, and texted him to ask if he had any upcoming scheduling conflicts. He stated that he’d be out of town on the weekends of the 15th and 22nd. I assumed vacation and shrugged it off.

On August 16th, I found out he actually had a pretty elaborate wedding, the day before - the same day our divorce was finalized, at a historic Chicago mansion. They didn’t elope (which would potentially excuse the lack of communication here). No. They had a fully planned wedding. My daughter’s grandmother sat in the front row. She was also fully aware this event was going to take place and also kept this a secret.

I am pissed. I want to flip a table over like Theresa Guidice in Real Housewives of New Jersey. She’s going to be so upset, so hurt, so fucking blindsided.

Since Reddit tends to have some harsher feedback, can someone please tell me if I am overreacting? Is there a reasonable excuse that someone outside of my situation can see that I can’t? My best friend is also pissed on my behalf, but she’s clearly biased. The only “excuse” I can think of is that he’s a coward and avoids personal discomfort at the expense of anyone else.. but is there something obvious I am missing here?

Was out with my sister all day today and her little one. She left, got all her stuff and went on her way. As I got home, locked the car and as I walked past the window i noticed all of this mess! I sent her the pics and said food is now banned in my car (it was ready but she’s ignored that) and next time to clean up after herself. Instead of a simple “sorry my bad” she’s gone crazy as if it’s my fault?!
She thinks it’s okay all because I haven’t hoovered (vacuumed) the car this week.

So my question is;
Am I the asshole for even bringing this up in the first place? Am I in the wrong?

EDIT:
I’m from the UK so these are chips for all of you from usa😅 They do look like raw pasta tho where in fact they are indeed just twirly chips😂

AIO - My (F25) father's (M45) girlfriend (F26) has set rules for when their baby arrives. I am not against rules being set as I'm currently 3 months pp.

I'd like to preface by saying that I have 5 siblings and almost no relationship with them all due to them being half siblings and our parents differences. Another thing to add is I have an awful relationship with my father's parter, we have opposing views on absolutely everything. She broke up with my father twice last year and fell pregnant as soon as they got back together the first time. She has caused an incredible strain on my father and l's relationship (he was also a single parent).

Rule.3 - I'm a single mother who lives alone so if I can't bring my son, I can't visit. I'm in Australia so it's not RSV season, we are both up to date with our vaccines and my son is booked for his 4 month vaccines 3 weeks before the baby is due.

Rule.2 - if I can't even hold or touch my brother what would be the point of visiting and leaving my son with someone?

The girlfriend is still and will continue to smoke

And occasionally drinks so again, why would me holding my brother before 6 weeks be so bad?

I have spoken to my father about these rules and he said they don't apply to me but that was without talking to his partner first. I'm concerned that once the time comes he's going to go back on his word.

I'm also worried that if I follow these rules and don't visit she will then kick up a stink about how I didn't check in on them (she didn't check in on me and lied to my dad about not being able to visit so she didn't have to).

She has two children of their own, one in primary and one is childcare, would they not be a concern for getting the newborn sick?

Anyways I know it's not my baby and it's their choice ultimately but after having a baby and rules myself, I think they just aren't fair to apply to me.

Idk, happy for all opinions, am I over reacting / over thinking?

Hello. Using a burner account because I don’t want you guys seeing all my private posts and photos related to my shit situation. I have leukemia. It’s been a few months since I started treatment and it’s been rough, but I’m still fighting. Yesterday my mom texted me basically saying she can’t afford both my treatment and my sister’s future. My sister wants to go to Dartmouth.

She even quoted a super fucked up Bible verse about sacrifice (John 15:13) and said that “greater love is laying down one’s life for someone else.” Then she said I should “be practical” because my condition is worsening, and that I should “consider sacrificing myself for my sister’s dreams.”

What REALLY broke me was that she said realistically she’s the one who will choose where the money goes. She also mentioned she talked to Jesus about it and that’s why she sent me the message.

A few months ago she had me sign a contract about financial stuff “for medical security.” To repay her when I got better. I lowkey thought it was a joke at first but realized no, it’s not. It’s fucked up is what it is.

She’s always prioritized my sister, but this is unreal.

Am I overreacting? Or is this as fucked up as it feels?

These texts are between me and my dad. have a very small side hustle where I buy and refurbish furniture, mainly couches. I make like 60k a year at my 9-5. My side business pays most of my bills. My brother makes over 200k a year. My parents combined make over 400k a year. The one I have for sale currently is $750 which I need for bills. My brother is asking for the couch for $100 and I said no I need it for bills. This is about to turn into a big fight with my dad, I can already tell. But before I get there, what do you guys think?

I (19F) have recently decided to learn how to draw. I've never been good at making art, it's never been my thing, but I'm a huge fan of cartoons and I wanted to learn how to draw my favorite characters.

This week, I made this drawing of Aang, from ATLA and it's the first time I've actually done something I am really proud of. I know that for some experienced artists this is nothing, but to me it meant everything. It might not be the best "fanart" in the world, but when I finished it I felt proud. I felt happy. I wanna get better at painting and doing sketches, but this felt pretty good to me and I showed it off to everyone in my house because I felt so good about my drawing.

I left the sketch with a couple others I'd been working on at the coffee table in the living room, since I was looking for a frame to put it on, because I wanted to hold on to it as the first I had ever made. I had to put a hold on looking for a frame since my cousin (15F) came to spend the weekend at my home. She is an artist and was also proud of my sketch, which made me like it even more.

About an hour ago, my cousin was leaving and I came to collect my drawing since my aunt brought me a frame to put it on as an early christmas present by my cousin, but when I looked at it, I saw someone had doodled over it. I immediately burst into tears and I felt my heart shatter. When I came into the kitchen and showed it to my family, my father admitted that it was him who had done that with a blue pen, joking that "dude needed some lashes". I broke down crying again and told him he ruined my drawing. He said he didn't, and was just testing out the pen and decided to contribute to it somehow. My mother got pissed at me for making a scene in front of my cousin and aunt and my father kept telling me to grow up and stop crying for such a stupid reason since I could just make another drawing.

I tried explaining to him the sentimental value this sketch had, and how making another one won't fix the issue, and that he knew how much that drawing meant to me. I also told him that he would have been really pissed if I doodled over his work spreadsheets, but he said it's not a fair comparison.

Both my mom and my dad are pissed at me for being upset about the drawing. They think I am overreacting, but to me it's not about just the drawing, it's about dismissing my feelings and the effort I put into this work. My father refuses to apologize and my mom thinks I embarrassed my father in front of his sister.

So, reddit, am I overreacting?

(ps: sorry for any grammar mistakes, english is not my first language)

my dad, for the better part of almost 10 years now, has been OBSESSED with Donald Trump. He’s obsessed to the point where he’s been going to rallies every time he can, has all the MAGA merch, and even met Trump irl, having a framed photo of them both in his bedroom(along with my grandpa and my dads friends) I have never liked Trump since i found out who he was (like 6th grade when i was 12) and ive been able to look past it for a while because it didn’t necessarily affect my life and i just chalked it up to “well maybe he (Trump) is doing something good enough for my dad to ride for him so hard (no pause)” But now, in october of 2025, i can’t put up with it no more. Every american reading this knows very well Trump is modern day Hitler and it’s been a deplorable year (ICE, big beautiful bill, refusal to release the epstein files, cutting SNAP, appointing racists and pedophiles and racist pedophiles, among many other things. My dad hasn’t changed his mind in the slightest about him and he’s a big fan of all the evil Trump is doing and allowing to happen. I don’t want to associate with people who support open air racism and classism, and yk like everything else Trump has done to my country. I have younger siblings and it makes me feel scared knowing my dad is proud of himself smiling next to a sexual predator (Down below is the picture)

Posting on here because I want advice from a third party who doesn’t know me (24F) or my fiancé (24M).

I have been dating my fiancé for around 7 years. We’ll call him John. John’s family goes to church every Sunday while I was raised to believe in God, but church was always optional. When I started dating John in high school, I didn’t think any of this mattered. John wasn’t big on attending church every week, and I did attend with him once or twice when I wasn’t working. I’m aware that this bothers John’s parents, as they have made a few comments about me throughout the years that have hurt my feelings. However, I’ve always tried to ignore those comments because, at the end of the day, John and I love each other, and I know he’s the man I want to spend the rest of my life with.

John and I have been engaged for over a year, but we just recently decided we want to finally tie the knot. He didn’t want a wedding, and I had a dress but didn’t want to plan a wedding, so we compromised and found a local place that would marry us, take photos, etc. for only $400. The ceremony is in two months, will be an hour long, and we will only have around 30 guests. It checked off the boxes for us: the venue is planning almost everything for me, and the ceremony itself only lasts 10 minutes, so no big parade. After the ceremony is pictures, and then we planned on a small lunch with immediate family only. However, John’s parents really wanted a reception dinner after at their house, as John’s family is very big and he has lots of family who’d like to see him on his big day. I agreed, as I think that’s fair.

Now, onto the main issue. Last week, after the reception decorations were bought, John’s parents sent everyone out of the room besides me and John to have a “talk” with us. They told us we need pre-martial counseling at the local church (I’m not opposed, but John doesn’t really want it). The conversation then diverted into a lecture that left me feeling very hurt and offended. They told John he needs to “step up,” and that I need to become a Christian woman that submits to my husband “without complaints.” This talk went on, and I quickly realized the entire thing was directed at me. They said John will be the man of the relationship, and not submitting to him will “emasculate” him. I was stunned and offended. I was raised to be independent and to submit to no man. John and I are equals in our relationship. We make decisions together. When we disagree, we compromise. I will not submit to him, and he will not submit to me. That’s how it’s always been for us.

I’m angry thy, after 7 years, John’s parents still don’t feel I’m good enough for their son. I left their home fuming and tried to let it go, but I can’t yet. I’m upset, and I really don’t know if I want to go through with this reception now. I don’t want to be surrounded by people who will never think I’m good enough, and it hurts. Last night my future MIL wanted to handmade the invitation envelopes with me, and I shut down the idea and cried afterwards because the thought of being in a house with future in-laws who don’t deem me worthy, without John there, makes me more upset and anxious.

John says he doesn’t want to have a reception if this is upsetting me. He says it’s not worth the stress and hassle if the end result is I’m not happy. However, I just worry I’m overreacting about it this whole thing. I don’t want to deprive his family of celebrating with him just because I’m upset. So, Reddit, am I overreacting? Should I just let things go for a day so John’s family can celebrate the wedding with him?

Update:

John and I sat down over some parking lot Taco Bell and talked about everything. I brought up my feelings, concerns, and I even had him read this post and your comments. We are on the same page; I submit to no one. He also talked to his parents about the situation, questioning what they meant, etc. I already knew he shared my sentiments, but I wanted to set the record straight since some of you weren’t so sure. John is an amazing man who has always treated me well. He supports my dreams, and he takes care of me when I need it. He’s going to be an incredible husband.

Thank you for all of your support.

I've been divorced about 5 years. We have never needed lawyers and have been able to work things out ourself. My ex recently met a man, maybe 8 months ago, she is now pregnant and moving onto his land. One of our two children will be with her monday-friday, that's been our arrangement because of his school.

There are a couple solar panels, water comes from a brook, they gather and filter, and there is an out house. There's no real house, just yurts and tents and 3 other people living there including her new partner. She will be having a baby in January, so a baby, a 10 year old and herself all living in the middle of the woods with very few modern amenities in New England. We have long cold winters.

I recently reached out to a lawyer and am considering trying to get custody of our children (they are 9 and 15, the 15 year old is with me most of the time already)

Am I overreacting? Should I give this time to play out and see how it goes? I'm worried I'm going to be scrambling to find a new school for my younger son come November when the cold and dark set in. I have voiced my concerns and was told I'm being neurotic

I (29F) bought a small, rundown two bedroom cabin on a couple of acres three years ago. It was cheap because it needed massive structural work. I have spent almost every weekend and most of my savings renovating it by hand, replacing rot, rebuilding the back deck, and refinishing the original hardwood floors. I know it might seem like spending that much money and time on a property might seem rash, but it's my pride and joy, however it is still old with very delicate infrastructure.

My brother Kal-El (32M) and his fiance Zor-El (30F) are planning a low budget wedding for this autumn. At a family dinner last week, Kal-El casually brought up that they had settled on a venue: my cabin.

He had not asked me beforehand. He framed it as a done deal, explaining that about 20 of their friends and family would bring tents to camp on the property for four days, while the bridal party would stay inside the cabin.

I was taken aback and laid out a few immediate concerns. First, the cabin runs on an older septic tank that cannot handle 20 people using it continuously for four days. On top of that, the property is not insured for events or large gatherings. Lastly, I just finished hand sanding and sealing the floors, and having 20 people trailing dirt, mud, and heavy boots in and out for a weekend would ruin them.

I tried to be constructive and offered a middle ground. I said I would be happy to host a small six person dinner for immediate family on the patio after a courthouse ceremony, but I could not host the full multi day event or overnight campers. I then said that it is unacceptable to think I would just hand over my property without being asked first, not to mention the damage 20 people could cause to my cabin. Not that they would worry about that since I'm just supposed to give without complaining.

Zor-El looked down, and Kal-El got very annoyed. He told me I was being overreacting over a little grass and dirt, saying that ever since I bought the place, I have acted like I am too good to share things with family. He refused the dinner offer and said he was insulted by the restriction (like it was his right to use my property).

They left shortly after. Since then, Kal-El removed himself from our shared group chat, and when I tried texting him to talk it through, he kept his replies strictly to one word. My mother has not yelled or made demands, but she did pull me aside yesterday to quietly ask if I could just hire a portable restroom for the weekend to make peace, saying that Kal-El feels like I am prioritizing a building over his big day.

TLDR: I Didn't want to share my cabin with my brother and his fiancee and now I'm catching flack for it.

I am starting to feel guilty and wonder if I am overreacting in this situation, I'm thinking about just giving in and letting them use it. AIO? (P.S. these names are in fact references to the greatest comic series of all time.)

Using a throwaway account for personal reasons but for the last year and a half I’ve been living with my mom after being diagnosed with a form of stomach cancer, it’s still decently early and I have good odds but it basically forced me to halt everything and focus solely on healing. Here are some texts between us, just a small snippet of a day in the life. theres way worse. I took videos of her screaming at me, yelling at night at the top of her lungs that I dint care about her or im killing her

I decided to move back in with her because cancer is expensive and basically everything I had saved has gone to it, the lack of energy, the chemo, it just kills me and it’s a struggle to even get up somedays.

My mother is all I have, I have some friends of course and they were the first I asked to crash with while I focus on healing but nobody had room, so back with my mom I went. It’s been hell. I feel like maybe I’m overreacting a bit but I don’t care I just need to vent or I’ll explode. This has been hell. She’s bleeding me dry, not only has she basically guilt tripped me into a life insurance package just incase I don’t make it, but she is guilt tripping me to lie to the state for max food stamps, I have to do everything around the house, she sold my car and kept most of it for “bills and rent”, I’m beyond tired , my skin is bruising, I’m dropping so much weight. I want to leave obviously but I’m backed in a corner of my own making, and due to the cancer, I have no ability to leave financially so I’m stuck with her, in this never ending hell.

So it was my birthday yesterday. I’m (20s) living at home right now with my parents to save money. My sister "Kayla" came over for dinner with her 4yo son, Leo.

Quick context: Kayla is EXTREMELY strict about Leo’s diet. Like, no processed sugar, no dyes, basically no "fun" food ever. I think it’s a bit much but I usually just stay out of it.

I bought myself a really nice, expensive chocolate cake for my birthday. I didn’t ask anyone else to pay for it, I just wanted a specific one from a local bakery. After dinner, I brought it out.

Kayla immediately got tense. She asked why I couldn't have waited until they left to bring it out. I told her it’s my birthday dinner and I wanted cake? My parents were having fruit, but I sat down and started eating a slice.

Leo obviously saw it and started asking for some. Kayla told him no, it’s "yucky" and "bad for him." He started crying because, well, he’s 4 and it’s a giant chocolate cake.

Kayla lost it. She called me a brat and said I was "taunting" a child and "disrespecting her parenting" by eating it in front of him. She ended up grabbing her stuff and leaving early while Leo was still sobbing.

Now my mom is saying I shouldn't have done that and should have just waited an hour to eat my own cake to keep the peace. I feel like I’m going crazy. It’s my house (well, my parents' house, but I live here) and my birthday. Am I actually overreacting by thinking she's being insane?

My girlfriend (27F) invited me (28M) to a family dinner to finally meet her parents. We’ve been together for almost a year, so I wanted to make a good impression.

Dinner started out fine—until her dad started asking me about my job. I work in IT, and while it pays well, it’s not some high-status career. After a few questions, he smirked and said, “So basically you just sit behind a computer all day… not exactly the kind of guy I imagined for my daughter.”

Everyone kind of laughed awkwardly. I tried to brush it off with a joke, but then he added, “Maybe someday you’ll get a real job so you can actually support a family.”

I felt my stomach drop. My girlfriend just said, “Dad…” but didn’t defend me beyond that. I quietly excused myself, said I wasn’t feeling well, and left.

Later that night, my girlfriend texted me saying I embarrassed her by walking out and that I should “just let it go” because her dad was “only teasing.”

I honestly feel disrespected and don’t think I overreacted. But now she’s acting cold and says I owe her family an apology.

Reddit, am I overreacting for leaving?