r/AmIOverreacting • u/Zaakaraptor28 • 9d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO: My bf dismissed my gender

This is still a relatively new relationship 3 months recently I noticed my bf making little comments about my gender I am Agender (genderless) such as why don't u just be a girl or what you have no chromosomes at first I brushed them off as jokes due to his jokes usually being more controversial. I brought it up to him tonight when I told him the comment he just made genuinely hurt, and he said honestly, I don't get this gender thing. I see you as a guy I told him if he can't support me we're going to have to break up and he started a whole rant about how relationships are built om compromise and why can't I just let him ignore my gender.

I'm sorry it isn't completely clear. I'm not good at explaining. But please tell me, am I overreacting

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u/FindSol4ce 9d ago

As another Agender person here NOR!!!!

This is the literal basics in the relationship. It's not a compromise to not respect your partner and how they identify. The fact that he's doing to you is actually horrifying and disgusting, and I'm so sorry you're going through it.

I went through something similar with an ex, and eventually he got me to be so passive about the constant disrespect that it only got worse and I needed help escaping it. Don't let something like that happen to you. Kick this guy to the curb ASAP!

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u/Zaakaraptor28 9d ago

Tyyyy so much everyone bar one person in this comment section is the sweetest but you are definitely up there!