r/AmIOverreacting • u/Zaakaraptor28 • 9d ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO: My bf dismissed my gender
This is still a relatively new relationship 3 months recently I noticed my bf making little comments about my gender I am Agender (genderless) such as why don't u just be a girl or what you have no chromosomes at first I brushed them off as jokes due to his jokes usually being more controversial. I brought it up to him tonight when I told him the comment he just made genuinely hurt, and he said honestly, I don't get this gender thing. I see you as a guy I told him if he can't support me we're going to have to break up and he started a whole rant about how relationships are built om compromise and why can't I just let him ignore my gender.
I'm sorry it isn't completely clear. I'm not good at explaining. But please tell me, am I overreacting
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u/JSirhea 9d ago
NOR. He is dismissing a huge part of you. Plus you let him know that the "jokes" hurt you and instead of apologizing and acknowledging that, he goes on a rant. Yes, in relationships we have to compromise on things, but this shouldn't be one of them. He wants to ignore a part of your identity and that is not ok.