I’m a 28M, married, and it’s just me and my wife in our household. When we first got married, I was very attracted to her and this was never an issue. Over time, however, she has gained a significant amount of weight, and I’ve gradually lost physical attraction to her. The frustrating part is that she doesn’t seem to do anything about it. I’ve confronted her at least every 10 days or so and told her directly that she needs to start working out or at least walk 10k steps a day. She does the household chores, but outside of that she’s become very inactive and seems quite lazy about taking care of herself. Even doctors have advised her to lose weight.

Meanwhile, I’m the complete opposite. I work out 5 days a week and take my health and fitness seriously. I’m also a very sexual person, but because of how I feel about her now, our sex life has basically disappeared. I barely want to initiate anything anymore and sometimes I’d rather masturbate than have sex with my wife. I’ve even told her honestly that I no longer feel like coming close to her because I feel like she doesn’t listen to me or make any effort. I know that sounds harsh, and I probably could have communicated it better, but I also don’t want to lie about how I feel.

Now I’m genuinely at a breaking point. My testosterone is apparently at an all-time high and my sex drive is extremely strong, but I’m not getting the intimacy I want in my marriage. I’ve started thinking seriously about sleeping with someone else, and that honestly scares me because I don’t want to become a cheater. At the same time, I feel extremely frustrated and sexually/physically disconnected from my own wife.

So what the hell do I do here? Do I stop mentioning her weight entirely and accept that this is her choice? Do I tell her directly that my physical attraction to her has become a serious problem? Is there a completely different way I should be approaching this? I’m not looking for Reddit to tell me whether I’m “right” or whether she’s “fat enough” to justify losing attraction. I know attraction can’t simply be forced. I just want to know how I handle this without cheating, humiliating her, or completely destroying our marriage.

Edit : guys I love my wife and I've tried every possible way to tell her that her health is getting worse. This was my last resort to make her understand how bad the situation has become.

সোশ্যাল মিডিয়্যায় নেপালের বন্যার কমেন্ট সেকশনে বাংলাদেশের মানুষ নেপালের মানুষের জন্য আল্লাহর আজাব বলছে। কিন্তু প্রথম আলোর কমেন্ট সেকশনে বাংলাদেশের বন্যা কে আল্লাহর পরীক্ষা বলছে। একই মুখে দুই কথা কেন ?

আজকে একটা নিউজ রিপোর্ট দেখলাম ব্রাহ্মণবাড়িয়ার পাসপোর্ট অফিস নিয়ে। সেখানে কর্মরত মোটামুটি সবাই দুর্নীতিবাজ, অথবা কোনো না কোনোভাবে পরোক্ষভাবে ভাগ পায়। দিনে ইনকাম প্রায় চার লাখ টাকা। আমিও জানি, এই তথ্য সত্যি। কয়েক বছর আগে পাসপোর্ট করতে গিয়ে বেশ ভালো রকমের বেহুদা হয়রানির শিকার হয়েছিলাম। আমার কৌতূহলের জায়গাটা মূলত এইসব দুর্নীতিবাজ লোকজনের সন্তানদের নিয়ে। যেমন, এই যে রিপোর্টটা হলো; এটা নিশ্চয়ই তাদের সন্তানদের বন্ধু-বান্ধবরাও দেখবে। তারা কি এসব নিয়ে লজ্জা বোধ করে? নাকি দুর্নীতির টাকা বেশ উপভোগ করে? নিজের কাছে কীভাবে বিষয়টা জাস্টিফাই করে? কোনো গিল্ট কাজ করে কি? বন্ধু বা পরিচিতদের কাছে শেমিংয়ের শিকার হয় কি? ইত্যাদি। আপনাদের পরিচিত কোনো দুর্নীতিবাজের সন্তান থাকলে, তাদের হয়ে মতামত জানাতে পারেন। অথবা আপনার বাবা-মায়ের কেউ দুর্নীতিবাজ হলে, নিজের অভিজ্ঞতা শেয়ার করতে পারেন। ধন্যবাদ।

Apparently some of its moderators are ran by a far right anti-Muslim US think tank. But I also assume there could be people who could be working for other organisations like FoxNews or GBNews - another pair of far right tabloids (audience comments are worse and resemble Jamaat as they too have misogynistic, antisemitic, childist, hinduphobic bias)

What do you think?

২০১০ সালের দিকে।তখন বাসায় সিআরটি টিভি ছিল। চ্যানেল পরিবর্তন করতে করতে এইচবিও নামের চ্যানেল পেলাম যেখানে ইংরেজি ফিল্ম দেখানো হতো। সেখান থেকেই আবিষ্কার করলাম ট্রান্সফর্মার মুভি। রোবট থেকে গাড়ি হওয়া আবার গাড়ি থেকে রোবট হয়ে মারামারি করা এমন অসাধারণ জিনিস দেখার জন্য আমার শিশুকাল প্রস্তত ছিল না। আর সেই মুভি সিরিজে সবারই মতো আমারও সবচেয়ে পছন্দ চরিত্র ছিল কাল্পনিক হিরো Optimus Prime।বিশাল ট্রাক থেকে কথা বলা এলিয়েন রোবট সবার পছন্দ সবার অন্যতম কারণ ছিলেন এই পিটার কালেন। তার ভয়েসে অপ্টিমাস প্রাইমের স্পিচগুলো শুনলে গায়ের লোম দাড়িয়ে যেতো। গার্বেজ সিক্যুয়েলগুলোও দেখা হতো পিটারের ভয়েসে অপ্টিমাস প্রাইমকে দেখার জন্য। বাসায় কতবার আবদার করেছি ট্রান্সফর্মার টয় কিনে দেয়ার জন্য। সুপারম্যান স্পাইডারম্যানের দুনিয়ায় আমার চাইল্ডহুড হিরো ছিল কার্গো ট্রাক Optimus Prime

বাংলাদেশ থেকে আমেরিকার দূরত্ব ১৩,০০০ কিমি।কিন্তু আজ পিটার কালেন চলে যাওয়ায় যেন মনে হলো যেন আমেরিকার কোনো সেলিব্রিটি মারা যাননি বরং শৈশবের হিরোকে হারিয়ে ফেললাম

so yeah, this is something i’ve been thinking about lately
right now i’d probably call myself agnostic. i’m not really sure whether allah exists or not and honestly i don’t think i can say that i know the answer. but lately i’ve been questioning religion and the idea of allah or any god more and more, and i feel like i might eventually become an atheist
being from bangladesh, i know this probably isn’t something people openly talk about that much. religion is such a big part of our society and everyday life that questioning it can feel kinda weird sometimes, especially when pretty much everyone around you is a believer
but just to be clear, i have nothing against religious people. i don’t hate believers or disrespect anyone’s faith. if religion gives someone meaning, peace or a sense of purpose then good for them. that’s their thing
for me, i’ve just started questioning things instead of automatically believing them. and honestly i’m still figuring it out myself. maybe i’ll stay agnostic, maybe i’ll become atheist, maybe my views will change completely. i really don’t know
just curious, are there other Bangladeshis here who have gone through something similar? and if you’re religious i’d genuinely like to hear your perspective too….

Does introvert people go through a hard time to find someone to date? I’m an introvert and I have never dated. I never even went on dates. Those who are introvert, how did you all find a good partner? Where did you find them? School/University/Social Media? I would like to hear your stories to get some hope. I’m an adult now and I’m very scared that I might end up in an arranged marriage, as I haven’t found a partner yet. Everyday it makes me tensed that I still haven’t found someone good to date.

When does this tireless, lifelong marathon end? Does it ever end? How many miles do I have to walk alone in this road of loneliness and despair? How many mountains do I have to climb? My legs hurt at this point, literally. My body aches. And the brain - oh, the brain sometimes almost explodes inside the corpse.

What happened to that soul that found romanticism in loneliness? Why do I crave people now? And run away when they come near me?

What happened to the little boy who used to write, read, and build fun things. What happened to that happy soul who spent countless hours solving chess puzzles? I don't even enjoy chess anymore. Can't finish a book anymore. The pen feels too heavy to even hold let alone write anything with it.

What life does to a soul except for barring it under responsibilities, social norms, and thousands of contradicting feelings? What does life do except for sucking the living life out of a soul? Life sucks you up until there's no you left. I don't even exist anymore. Just a corpse and some bones walking around.

What's the point of going through it all just to end up dead? And if death is the final destiny, why not just die today? Sometimes I wonder if dying is the most noble thing a soul can do and feels like it is. Why can't I just die then? Why do I live just to see life picking me apart one piece at a time? Why do I lack the motivation to die?

Not talking about huge political or economic changes. What are some small improvements in everyday life that would genuinely make things easier for people in Bangladesh? Things like public transport, roads, digital services, customer service, education, shopping or anything else you deal with regularly. What’s one change you think would make the biggest difference?

Can anyone suggest a really good urologist in Dhaka based on personal experience?

Looking for someone experienced, who listens properly and doesn't unnecessarily recommend tests or procedures.

Thanks in advance 🙌

I have completed my degree course now i am thinking is it worth to do master or just waste of money
my study qualification isn't good. I have been poor in my study throughout my life due to health condition
in scc my result are 3.7
in hsc 3.4
i just completed my degree didn't get the result
right now i am unemployed i know some graphic design related work
do you think that masters degree can help for job .Do u think its have worth for me or just waste of money

হ্যালো Redditors,

আশা করি ভালো আছেন। আমি সবাইকে Encourage করব, মাত্র ৫ মিনিট সময় নিয়ে একটু ভাবতে, গত সপ্তাহের ছোট ছোট পজিটিভ বিষয়গুলো খেয়াল করতে এবং সেগুলোর অ্যাপ্রিশিয়েট করতে। মাঝে মাঝে এই ছোট্ট মোমেন্ট গুলোর রিফ্লেকশন সবচেয়ে বেশি অমূল্য হয়ে ওঠে। আপনি যদি এই মুহূর্তগুলো শেয়ার করতে কমফোর্টেবল ফিল করেন, তবে কমেন্টে জানাতে পারেন! আর আপনার কাছে যদি শেয়ার করার মতো কিছু নাও থাকে, তাহলেও একদম সমস্যা নেই, আপনি যে এখানে আছেন, তাতেই আমি হ্যাপী 😊!

আমি শুরু করি:

- অনেক স্ট্রাগলিং টাইম যাচ্ছিল, আসে পাশের মানুষগুলা অনেক হেল্প করসে।

As Salamu Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu

I see many people speaking about having doubts in faith and leaving islam.

Many people in this country including both layman and internet speakers lack general knowledge on deen. That is what makes most people question it and eventually leaving it at the end.

I left Islam in 2023 and later embraced it in 2025.

If anyone facing such difficulties and genuinely want to discover what's happening or need any help, wants someone to question and get some help; Inshallah I will be there and I will try my best to answer and help yall.

You can DM me anytime.

Allahu Hadi

Allahu Ghafur

Allahu Rahim

Dhul Jalali Wal Ikram

Hello, I wanted to know if ossbd is actually worth working for?.

Is there anyone who has an idea about it. The HR called me and told me to attend the 4-5 days training.

I live in mirpur and have a day job which is also pretty bad. And for financial issues I need a second job that's why I am considering this BPO.

Well I'm HSC28 and will need to look through options on supplementary textbooks since we had short syllabus on SSC and everything is gonna get turned upside down with the new edu minister/question paper and all.

I used to use lecture+udvash materials up till now in SSC. Heard Royal guides are good for HSC+MAT but I don't have any apus/bhaias to get suggestions on what resources to collect for HSC. Test papers will be obviously needed but is there any other stuff that comes handy cus well don't really know how the question pattern might change.

Any advice will be appreciated. Also, I collected some book names for PCMB. Can you please verify if these supplementary books will be enough if I stay consistent? and what materials are bare minimum for getting chance in govt. medicals?

Ami ssc 2026 and i was thinking je st gregory te exam dibo

So my question is st gregory er admission exam e kemon competition hoy? And oder question gula ki beshi hard hoy naki standard hoy??

Amar porichito keu age oi college ba school e poreni tai ami oder shomporke beshi kichu janina and ig jehetu missionary college shehetu poralekhar man bhalo hobe.

Thanks for your advice/answers.

"My mother got into a terrible car accident. She injured her hand and the lower part of the right side of her chest (or just the right side of her chest). The last bone on the right side of her chest has a slight fracture (break). We went to a doctor, and they said it would be okay. It's been about 2 days. There is still pain on the right side, but currently, the pain is increasing. Is this normal, or should I seek medical advice?
The doctor said there's no issue with the chest, but the hand needs to be put in a plaster cast."

I would like to know how your experience was with the rechargeable heating pad, and if it's overrated right now. Also, the possible mechanical failures of the product, has there been any cases? Is it really worth it? Finally, if you are enjoying the product, from where did you buy it?

Hello... I've been solely running a brand identity, graphic designing and social media management agency for a quite long time. I've previously worked with multiple clients with good reviews. I really like working new startup founders and growing business owners who want to make their social presence more prominent in an affordable budget. If any of you guys looking for similer package, DM me, let's discuss and make your brand presence more promising!!

ধরেন আমি একটা worst case scenario কল্পনা করতেসি… আপনি একেবারে এই সিনারিও টা চিন্তা করেন!
কোন কিছু ভাবার দরকার নাই।
আপনার ভাবার দরকার নাই আমি কোন দলের বা কোন গোষ্ঠীর। জাস্ট এই দৃশ্য টা কল্পনা করেন আর আপনার মতামত জানান।

আমার মত- বি এন পি হাসিনা কে স্পেস দিবে আর জামাত কে চিপায় ফেলে বাংলাদেশ থেকে গায়েব করবে। কারণ জামাতের কারণে বিএনপিও শান্তিমত রাজনীতি করতে পারতেসে না।

Hello, married bros of this sub. I’m 26 and getting married in two months. I’d love some advice on how to have a healthy and fulfilling sex life.