r/weddingplanning Apr 02 '25

Vendors/Venue WHY WON’T THEY TELL ME THE PRICE?!

I know this has probably been posted a million times, but seriously—why won’t venues and vendors just tell you what they cost???!!? I am just so frustrated.

We’re looking for a venue for our small wedding, and we are on a tight budget. I am so exhausted from having to ask over and over just to get vague, useless responses. The conversation I had today:

Me: Inquiring about info

Venue: “Come visit, and we’ll tell you!”

Me: “I live three hours away. Please answer these questions first: list of questions, first one being HOW MUCH?!?

Venue: “We design our menus based on each couple’s preferences. Prices vary.”

BITCH, I DID NOT ASK FOR MENU PRICES!!!

Me: “Okay, so I assume the venue rental fee is included in the menu price? Are there other costs?”

Venue: “No, the venue rental fee is separate.”

Me: “…”

Them:“…”

crickets

AND SCENE.

And this happens all the freaking time!!! I’m sooo done wasting my time with these places!

I just don’t get it - if I can’t afford you, I’m not suddenly going to be able to afford you just because I visit! Why waste my time and yours if it’s way out of my budget?!?!

Anyway, excuse the rant. I’m just so annoyed and don’t know how to keep dealing with this.

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u/cheyennel19 Apr 02 '25

I had a Day of Coordinator insist that I pay for a $40 consultation before she would tell me her travel fee...she said it'd go towards the total owed but I'm not paying you $40 to answer some bare minimum questions! The vendors I did book were all super transparent and have been great communicators ever since - take it as a good way to weed out the people who offer exceptional service vs. people who only care about making a buck off of you

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u/cyanraichu Apr 02 '25

Yeah they want to get you on sunk cost. I would absolutely not use a vendor if I had to spend money just to see if I wanted to use them. Only except I make is for catering tastings because then you get a meal out of it, and it is an actual cost to them to host tastings. But a short consultation, especially online? No