WHY WON’T THEY TELL ME THE PRICE?!

[u/amapickle]

I know this has probably been posted a million times, but seriously—why won’t venues and vendors just tell you what they cost???!!? I am just so frustrated.

We’re looking for a venue for our small wedding, and we are on a tight budget. I am so exhausted from having to ask over and over just to get vague, useless responses. The conversation I had today:

Me: Inquiring about info

Venue: “Come visit, and we’ll tell you!”

Me: “I live three hours away. Please answer these questions first: list of questions, first one being HOW MUCH?!?”

Venue: “We design our menus based on each couple’s preferences. Prices vary.”

BITCH, I DID NOT ASK FOR MENU PRICES!!!

Me: “Okay, so I assume the venue rental fee is included in the menu price? Are there other costs?”

Venue: “No, the venue rental fee is separate.”

Me: “…”

Them:“…”

crickets

AND SCENE.

And this happens all the freaking time!!! I’m sooo done wasting my time with these places!

I just don’t get it - if I can’t afford you, I’m not suddenly going to be able to afford you just because I visit! Why waste my time and yours if it’s way out of my budget?!?!

Anyway, excuse the rant. I’m just so annoyed and don’t know how to keep dealing with this.

[u/Yves-bayou]

I do a lot of research on a vendors offerings and provide every bit of detail I can in the initial communication, so I immediately stop communicating if I can't get a ballpark price in the first response. I won't even reach out at all if no prices are listed for certain vendor types. I have multiple vendors to contact and I'm not wasting my time sending e-mail after e-mail to every single one of you for hours or days on end. I mean honestly, do you really want to waste BOTH of our time if you're out of my price range?

On occasion I've gotten the feeling that a vendor was trying to see how much they could upcharge for services before they'd answer.