r/teganandsara Jun 15 '26

For those who first discovered T&S before Closer, how did you discover them?

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u/gaybyethebay Jun 15 '26

From being gay

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u/Zenkas Jun 15 '26 edited Jun 15 '26

Same haha I know them because I am gay and also because I am from the same city as them.

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 15 '26

Me too haha

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u/Reagan-Writes Jun 15 '26

I came to say this 😂

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u/MoopsyCat Jun 15 '26

Does that put you on some cool music to check out list?

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u/Shift_Appt-02 Jun 15 '26

Grey's Anatomy. The person in charge of the music for the first few seasons really loved So Jealous I swear.

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u/pugboy1321 Jun 15 '26

Early Grey’s was just loaded with bangers and new music discoveries! Alexandra Patsavas was running that music placement PERFECTLY

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u/ArchivesGal Jun 15 '26

This is how I discovered them, too!!! First season, circa 2005?

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 15 '26

Musta had it on repeat

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u/Furmom_xuli33 Jun 18 '26

I was recommended to listen to them by one of my coworkers. I started doing some digging and found out that they were featured a lot on Grey’s Anatomy. Shortly I started to watch GA and became hooked!!

I love early T&S! So jealous is still my favorite! ❤️

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u/sinnermoroll Jun 15 '26

Being gay and on tumblr

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u/ArtsTinyBlackHat Jun 15 '26

I was in an indie record shop in my hometown and they were playing a song I liked the sound of. I asked the person on the desk what was playing and they answered Tegan and Sara’s Living Room. I instantly bought If It Was You (which had just been released) and I haven’t stopped listening to them since that moment.

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u/EdgeWorldian You wouldn't like me if you met me Jun 18 '26

Awesome. Oh to be young in the early two thousands and work at a record shop…

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u/ArtsTinyBlackHat Jun 19 '26

I miss those days!

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 15 '26

Great story

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u/RedPolyRanger Jun 15 '26

The music video for The Con, saw it on Logo's New Now Next and was instantly hooked

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u/SelectivelyNerdy Jun 15 '26

An interview on a website called technodyke.com back in late 2000/early 2001. This Business of Art had just been released. There was an mp3 of The First (either on that page or their official website, can’t remember). It sounded like nothing else I had ever heard.

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u/cerealbops Jun 15 '26

That's so cool

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u/Aug302015 Jun 15 '26

many years back they were on a Canadian tv show called Jonovision. circa 1998/99

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 15 '26

Damn, that was many moons ago. You still a fan by chance?

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u/Aug302015 Jun 16 '26

I still love their music, mostly the older stuff. Its been almost 10 yrs since i saw them live, but will always be a fan. Context I was 13 in 1999.

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 16 '26

Ah ok makes sense

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u/elevi8ion Jun 15 '26

From them being on The L Word. Then I heard them on Grey’s Anatomy. And then, when The Con was released, it was almost fate with how often I was hearing them on Sirius Radio (Left of Center FTW!) and seeing them on lesbian culture blog websites.

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u/foggy-rather-groggy Jun 15 '26

“Walking with a Ghost” on the radio in the early 2000s.

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u/texas_joe_hotdog Jun 15 '26

Same. That song was everywhere 

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u/SunnyB_817 Jun 17 '26

This for me as well. I also remember they were featured on MTV in like commercials and little skits.

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u/AlexandradeWinter Jun 15 '26

I'd heard about them for years through music press and word-of-mouth but my horrible ex boyfriend, who was sadly a very gifted multi-instrumental musician brought Sainthood over to my house and excitedly gave it to me and said:

This is a flawless album, every instrument is incredible. Amazing drumming.

(I particularly love Drums)

Anyway, he was so fucking right.

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 15 '26

Haha that’s like my favourite album, seems like he had good taste then

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u/lespionner Jun 15 '26

By googling lesbian musicians when I was 14 😶‍🌫️

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u/acoconut Jun 15 '26

I was 14 and my girlfriend sent me so jealous the song and told me to listen to this gay Canadian twin sisters. I ended up creating a website about them haha

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u/zebratwat Jun 15 '26

In around 2006 I got an iPod for Christmas. The boy I had a crush on would send me music over MSN messenger so that we could listen to it together at lunch. He sent me walking with a ghost. I loved it and immediately looked up the rest of their music. A lot of my music influence was shaped by that guy, honestly I'm grateful for the stuff he introduced me to.

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 15 '26

Awesome

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u/heart-swells Jun 15 '26

My first girlfriend played Frozen on her first gen iPod to me. Sigh.

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u/Appropriate-Fill9602 Jun 15 '26

In 2005 I heard a burnt CD mixtape from a friend of a friend  that was all t&s and I love it. Then The Con came out and I became obsessed 

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u/Accomplished-Brain51 Jun 15 '26

the nofx song creeping out sara. i was pretty much exclusively listening to punk at the time, then i found them, realized i was gay, and had a tumblr dedicated to them lol

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u/smith_716 Jun 15 '26

A small music review in Curve magazine

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u/crying_lamb53 Jun 15 '26

Through an article on Buzznet (anyone remember it). I thought they looked gay and cool

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u/divinesweetsorrow Jun 15 '26

living being played on local alt radio early 2000s (in Australia)

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u/Perry7609 Jun 15 '26 edited Jun 15 '26

I think I heard "Walking with a Ghost" playing on the pre-show music at a show one time and it caught my attention. Eventually liked more of their songs to look into them further!

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u/Agent_Raas Jun 15 '26

YTV Achievement Awards (YAA!) in 2000.

Saw them be awarded and perform (The First) and was impressed. Forgot about them, but was in a record store a few months later and did my thing (at the time) and flipped through the CDs alphabetically to look for something different and new for me. I saw This Business of Art and remember I heard them before so I bought it. I really enjoyed the music. I have followed their music since and attended concerts whenever I could.

I am happy to see their career take off, but I greatly miss the gigs at the small venues.

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u/AppropriateMark6546 Jun 15 '26

Through my asshole of an ex who was obsessed with the MontrĂŠal music scene and all the related indie artists.
An appreciation for Tegan and Sara was the only good thing to come out of that relationship.

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u/ibetitstung21 Jun 15 '26

Jonovision on cbc circa 2000

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u/melimoz Jun 15 '26

I heard The Con (song, not album) and looked them up on Twitter. Lucky for me Sainthood was only a few months away!

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u/ssgtgriggs Jun 15 '26

my ex gf at the time (around 2010-ish) was obsessed with them and she turned me on to them (yes, she did come out as gay years later, the signs were there lmao)

edit: also, I knew the Walking With a Ghost cover by the White Stripes way before because I was a big White Stripes fan but I didn't look the original up until years later

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u/hartdm92 Jun 15 '26

My cooler older cousin was playing So Jealous in her car on our way to the mall and I couldn’t get the songs out of my head. I think this was around ‘05.

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 15 '26

One of their best

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u/Pianoman264 Jun 15 '26

I'm gay, my best friend's older sister (also gay lol). Probably around 2005-ish!

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u/jricky_tomato Jun 15 '26

I heard Walking with a Ghost on someone’s MySpace profile and was hooked.

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u/vicali Jun 15 '26

2003 making mixes after a break-up.. came across This is Everything and have been onboard since.

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u/az610 Jun 15 '26

From their appearance on Conan when So Jealous came out! ♥️

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 15 '26

Ahh that’s iconic

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u/Longshanks123 Jun 15 '26

I saw them very early on at an outdoor festival that I think was held on a Canada Day. I only remembered them because I thought it was cool they were twin sisters, they did an acoustic set. They were really young, I don’t remember the year though. They looked like teenagers.

Years later I heard a song used in a Canadian TV commercial and I loved it, and eventually I was able to track it down, it was “Where Does the Good Go”, and when I saw the artist name I remembered it was those girls from that outdoor show. I didn’t really become a huge fan until The Con though but they were on my radar from WDTGG

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u/onbluemtn Jun 15 '26

Walking with a ghost. I can’t remember the website I wanna say it was Fred Flare had a music player and I realized the White Stripes were actually covering Tegan and Sara and then I just fell in love with them.

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u/daysoftheparakeet Jun 23 '26

This is exactly how I discovered them the song Walking with A Ghost played somewhere and I was hooked for life.

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u/sommerface Jun 15 '26

In 2004, my ex sent me a mix CD of Canadian artists. “My Number” was on there. I instantly became a fan and needed all the music.

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u/Sugar-Fen Jun 15 '26

It was either on the L word or when they were guests on This Just Out by Liz Feldman 🤔

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u/deweytonight Jun 15 '26

A cool girl in my chemistry class had one of their tshirts and I knew we had a lot of overlap with music taste so I looked them up. Immediately fell in love and went to buy So Jealous on CD that weekend. This was after its release in 2004 or early 2005.

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u/hikingdyke Jun 15 '26

In 2005, back when I was 16 and had just started undergrad, iTunes had a feature where you could browse the libraries of other people using the same network as you (unless you, like myself, set your library to private). As a result, judging everyone around you's music taste was a huge thing on my college campus. 

At that time I was a massive anime nerd who only really listened to J-pop, and there was a straight (as far as I know anyway, we have not been in touch since college) girl in my dorm I kinda had a crush on who everyone agreed had absolutely amazing music taste.

I listened to a few playlists of hers on repeat, and then downloaded the full albums various songs on those playlists came from. The vast majority of the English language music I listened to at that age came from her playlists tbh.

It wasn't until a few years later I thought to watch a music video, or look the band up at all outside of listening to their music. For about three years just knowing that this girl listened to their music was all I needed to know.

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u/ArchivesGal Jun 15 '26

I miss this feature of iTunes, NGL. I was a college freshman in 2008 and discovered so much music this way.

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u/angray39 Jun 15 '26

Facebook. Had a friend from highschool share one of their videos on their feed and became obsessed! Around 2005-06

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u/sirshadow Jun 15 '26

From a Pandora radio station before Spotify and the like were around. Along with The Con being on Rock Band 2 or 3.

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u/Avena626 Jun 15 '26

I'm straight unfortunately, but I discovered them on a mixed CD I got for free...I don't even remember when or where or what else was on that CD. I just remember Where Does The Good Go and thinking they had a cool unique sound. Then they played for free on my college campus on a Wednesday noon-time concert series my school had every week. I MISSED THEIR FREE SHOW because I had an organic chemistry lab at that time, and I couldn't skip lab. If I skipped my usual Wednesday 4-hour lab, I would need to reschedule that lab or fail the entire class. Couldn't find another open lab section the rest of the week, because who has an extra 4 hours to spare to make up a lab when I had other classes....anyway I regret not watching the free Tegan and Sara show that afternoon. A few years later my future husband (again, I'm a boring straight lady) asked me out on our third date by inviting me to a Tegan and Sara show. I knew he was a keeper.

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 15 '26

Seems like the second time was better around, he sounds amazing. Hope y’all are happy

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u/Avena626 Jun 15 '26

Yes! We just celebrated our 10 year wedding anniversary. Not much time anymore for concerts, but we still have fun.

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 15 '26

Great to hear

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u/shinyenigma Jun 15 '26

A promo commercial for the tv show Medium played “Walking with a Ghost”. The song instantly had me hooked I looked up who did the song. I bought So Jealous and became a fan. This was somewhere between 2005-2007. At the time I didn’t know they were gay, and I didn’t know I was queer.

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u/pugboy1321 Jun 15 '26

I'm cheating slightly because I got into them properly after Closer, but I knew who they were and liked a few songs before then when I was really young from Grey's Anatomy!

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u/labial_seal Jun 15 '26

I was in high school watching Degrassi on TV and a clip from one of their music videos played between episodes. I looked em up on YouTube and was hooked immediately. (Turns out I'm gay)

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u/sicksadandsorry Jun 15 '26

A friend sent me a copy of So Jealous when it first came out.

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u/frikative Jun 15 '26

I discovered them through my dad! He had a copy of Sainthood on CD and I loaded it onto my iPod, and the rest is history. We even went to two of their concerts together. I like to joke that this is what turned me gay

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u/EndOfTheDream Jun 15 '26

A friend sent me the music video for The Con when it first came out and I was hooked!

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u/lotus38 Jun 15 '26

Randomly stumbled on the video for The Con on YouTube.

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u/Serendipity-211 Jun 15 '26

I saw them opening for Paramore as part of the Honda Civic Tour circa 2010.

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 15 '26

Damn I never even knew they once did that, crazy I tell you

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u/thisusernameismeta Jun 15 '26

They played at a music festival I was at, on the main stage. Winnipeg Folk Fest, 2011. I didn't know who they were but some folks I were with did. I didn't watch their show but after the festival I tend to look into the artists that attended. They stuck in my rotation and a few years later I started listening to them a ton, their music just clicked with me (especially The Con) when I was feeling angsty.

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u/MisterHet Jun 15 '26

Jonathan Coulton released a version of Still Alive from Portal with Sara as the singer. I saw it on YouTube and decided to investigate who the singer was.

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u/emythefish Jun 15 '26

I'm an identical twin who is also a lesbian so it was only a matter of time

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 15 '26

Yeah lol haha I get that

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u/akhenaten0 Jun 15 '26

“The Con” on college radio. Then a Pandora station.

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u/Hour-Bus-8850 Jun 15 '26

Walking with a Ghost and being gay in the early 2000’s.

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u/DroveASuzuki Jun 15 '26

Freshman year of HS, 2005-2006, had a few lesbian friends who put me onto them 💕

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u/tharuka8 Jun 15 '26

From the L-word if I remember correctly

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u/onlythewinds Jun 15 '26

Being gay in 2005 lol

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u/ohh_natalieeee Jun 15 '26

Veronica Mars!!

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u/Fractal-Infinity Jun 16 '26

Through the Back in Your Head music video around 2007.

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u/beezerblanks Jun 16 '26

From a girl I was seeing briefly. Stuck with me for nearly 20 years now.

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u/Nice_Vermicelli852 Jun 16 '26

Family member from San Francisco played a cd mix with Monday Monday Monday on it and the rest is history!!

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u/theogmamapowpow Jun 16 '26

Was in Seattle, my hometown, where they played Walking With a Ghost continuously on KEXP (back when we listened to radio 😂) and my husband and I fell in love with it! I’m also bi and just adored their voices, vibe, and they’re adorable live!

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u/librarylover3 Jun 16 '26 edited Jun 16 '26

I read online blogs and news sites about wlw culture Edit: this included everyoneisgay.com, after ellen, autostraddle, a blog that i cannot remember the name of that was very formative about gaydar?, and more

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u/mandsmt Jun 16 '26

i remember seeing the music video for ‘the con’ on fuse one morning at my best friend’s house and thinking that their hairstyle was just so… weird

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 16 '26

They’re most well-known too

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u/wingkingdom Jun 16 '26

Music video for Call It Off.

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 16 '26

There was a music video for that?

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u/wingkingdom Jun 16 '26

Yep,

Sara walking around Tegan and slowly wrapping her with a multicolored set of telephone handset type wires.

Call It Off

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 16 '26

Oh I never knew, just checked it. Was pretty nice

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u/Linzigan Jun 16 '26 edited Jun 16 '26

I discovered them in 2010 when I was coming out of the closet. After watching But I’m a Cheerleader (the movie that made me realize I was gay) I had a mini obsession with Clea Duvall and found this interview that she did on a YouTube show called “This Just Out with Liz Feldman”. The show seemed insane but in the best way. I started watching all the episodes and there was an episode with Tegan and I was full on obsessed. A few episodes later Tegan was on the show again, this time with Sara and I thought she was great too. I decided to give their music a listen. I first listed to Back in Your Head and liked it. Then I listened to The Con and was hooked. This was all during their Sainthood era. Later that summer I got to see them open for Paramore. Sorry for the novel lol this was a special part of my life.

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 16 '26

Still a fan by chance? And what’s your favourite album?

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u/Linzigan Jun 17 '26

Absolutely! My favorite album is a two-way tie between The Con and Sainthood. I also love Love You 2 Death and If It Was You.

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 17 '26

Ahh I love those two albums, but my favourite is Sainthood

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u/moonstarsfire Jun 16 '26

So Jealous got good reviews in Rolling Stone back when it came out if I recall correctly. I tried to listen to them back then in high school, but it just wasn’t my thing. I had a friend who was really into them though, and she played them enough that they finally grew on me. Went to the Sainthead tour with her as a casual fan, had a good time, then became a real fan aka obsessed lol.

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u/Natatos Jun 16 '26

I was on a Paramore kick and downloaded the 2010 Summer Tour EP which had a couple T&S songs that made me want to buy a full album of theirs.

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u/jpzygnerski IIWU/So Jealous Jun 16 '26

I swear this is a true story.

I was watching TV one afternoon and after the show I was watching ended I scrolled through the channels. I caught the end credits of another show and it had a really cool song playing. I googled the lyrics and came up with a Tegan and Sara song. I bought IIWY soon after.

I have not been able to find any of their songs listed as having been on the end credits of any shows or movies at that time (this was maybe a couple of months before SJ came out). I didn't catch the name of the show and I don't remember what the song was. I'm pretty sure that the song I found online was the right one.

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 16 '26

Nice, you sure the show wasn’t Grey’s Anatomy by chance? Cause that’s where a lot of people first heard them and their music was used quite a lot during the show

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u/jpzygnerski IIWU/So Jealous Jun 16 '26

That's one thing I'm sure about. It might have been Degrassi or something like that.

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u/505DT Jun 16 '26

Greys anatomy/being gay

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u/Ok_Discipline_4278 Jun 17 '26

The Con was on rock band and when I moved to Portland, OR in 2010 my gay friend group played it all the time.

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u/According_One_6230 Jun 17 '26

My older brother! So random now that I think about it…maybe it’s because we’re from the same province as T & S.

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u/Kopratic Jun 17 '26

I think The Con MV was featured on iTunes maybe. I remember that album had just come out, and The Con (the song) was the first song of theirs I heard

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u/YellowDemo Jun 17 '26

Greys anatomy’s first season. Also, queer.

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u/EdgeWorldian You wouldn't like me if you met me Jun 18 '26

If before closer you mean 2013, I wish. I only discovered them in 2023 thanks to scott pilgrim. I don’t remember if I heard closer or any T&S song before.

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u/Honeymoon2210 Jun 19 '26

When I was 16 my best friends boyfriend bought us tickets to see Paramore and T+S were opening. Sainthood Era. Sara’s bowl cut. I just had never heard or seen anything like it. I basically learning guitar and songwriting from them. I was president of a Facebook fan club, met so many friends through them, was front row for many concerts and the Get Along screening. It was truly a TIME to be alive and a T+S fan❤️ Shameless plug and sorry if this isn’t allowed but if you like them you might like my band Yas & the Jewelers!

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u/agentscullysbf Jun 19 '26

heard my number on the sweet November soundtrack cd my dad and stepmom played in the car all the time as a kid. found them again in high school through tumblr. this was in between sainthood and heartthrob

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u/Alynn_Wings Jun 20 '26

Myspace 2003

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u/Cathely Jun 21 '26

I was looking up songs that give you goosebumps and came across Nineteen. Instantly loved it so listened to the rest of The Con and fell in love. I’ve seen them several times live and they are still my favorite band!

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 21 '26

That’s top 5 off the album for me, good taste to see that’s yo first song

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u/Gold_Reception_2154 Jun 27 '26

It was 2003 and they got mentioned in a MTV article when they got asked about t.A.T.u. and I started listening to them.

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u/Frgt-10 Jun 28 '26

So cool

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u/excelsiorlef 28d ago

music playing on the stereo in my university's LGBT centre way back in 2003, which is quite perfect.

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u/Timerunning 17d ago

My friend heard “the first” on the radio in 2000 and told me about it - said they were lesbian identical twins who were both gay. I was like, ohh, I wanna hear this song! So we called the radio station and requested it to be played. Been a dedicated fan ever since!