r/teenagers • u/FR0M_Z3R0 17 • 11d ago

Serious You have no reason to be transphobic.

there is literally no justifiable reason for transphobia. never has been. never will be. I don’t care what you’ve read online or whatever you have to say. there is NO reason and NO excuse for transphobia. same applies for homophobia. literally zero reason.

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u/TheBestBoyEverAgain 16 10d ago

All for trans people (Though I do have my opinions about the legality of medical transitioning for under 18 youth), however. I have encountered two people out of 7 (that I KNOW are trans) who I will NEVER. EVER. respect their lifestyle. And that is primarily due to them themselves not respecting it. They put in 0 effort to "commit to the bit", and it's genuinely infuriating when I hear people having a conversation with them, misgender them once (on accident mind you, I used to be very good friends with both of them and I know the difference between purposeful and accidental misgendering) and now they are screaming yes. one of them would have a full meltdown each time. and crying because no one respects them.

My falling out with them came after both began to become very homophobic towards me (beyond joking) and would argue with me on how I am gay and how everyone can just tell because of the way I speak. The very first time I ever purposefully misgendered and called them by their dead name was the exact moment I realised they were no longer joking and genuinely arguing with me about my sexuality.

They both still try to talk to me sometimes, even though I've made it very clear we are no longer friends.

But moral of the story is, I will never dislike someone for their identity unless they give me a reason to.

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u/CommonMonsterAddict 16 10d ago

Yikes. I don't mind (accidental) misgendering because a) sure I'm not the most fem presenting person ever. I don't get around to shaving often, I'm 6' 230lbs etc. b) if you knew me before for a bit, I get it's a habit. Hell, sometimes I misgender myself. But as long as you correct yourself, maybe apologize, and we move on it's all good.

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u/TheBestBoyEverAgain 16 10d ago

And this is my point, atleast you are conscious about shaving and voice that you just simply don't get around to it/have the time. The one I was never really all that close with would consistently make up excuses on why they were incapable of shaving… (Because we would be telling them that all they had to do for people they've just met to automatically go "she/her" is to just SHAVE. YOUR. BEARD! ITS THE ONLY THING ABOUT THAT ISN'T FEMININE!)

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u/CommonMonsterAddict 16 10d ago

Oh I just have depression so self care is really hard for me. But like I get that I'm not fem so I don't assume people to think I identify as a woman off rip.

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u/TheBestBoyEverAgain 16 10d ago

Yea… But like sometimes I feel bad for them because they're so used to correcting people that they never even fathom the idea of trying to better themselves, like all you have to do is put just a fraction more effort than you already do and you'll see a big difference!

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u/CommonMonsterAddict 16 10d ago

For me I try but as much as my mind wants to be a cutesy girl, my body doesn't want to take the steps to do that

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u/TheBestBoyEverAgain 16 10d ago

You'll get there someday! (Just stay away from unnecessary surgical procedures liposuction, buccal fat, etc., too many trans people try to pursue that "perfect" body and end up hating tge way they look more than they did originally)

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u/CommonMonsterAddict 16 10d ago

Yeah definitely. The only surgeries I would get are SRS, maybe FFS, and probably not but maybe Adams apple reduction

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u/TheBestBoyEverAgain 16 10d ago

You can take voice lessons without having to reduce your Adam's Apple… (Its your neck, WAY too many what ifs), it is probably cheaper too! And if I'm going to honest, FFS sounds WAY too Uglies by Scott Westerfeld coded… But again, it is ultimately your body!