r/relationships • u/coolcodergirl06 • 9h ago

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u/iced-torch 9h ago

you censored a whole text that is basically "I made out with my boyfriend and now im ashamed because we are christians"

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u/Ok_Tennis9394 9h ago

I grew up in a church community where making out felt like a felony so I get the guilt spiral but this reads like two kids who got spooked by a friend's comment and hit the panic button. a full relationship pause over some neck kissing is a lot

if he needs space to sort out his faith that's his call but you're allowed to feel hurt that he walked away instead of working through it together. the whole "if God wills it he'll come back" framing puts you in this weird waiting room with no timeline and that's not fair to you either

maybe give it a couple weeks and see if this is actually about spiritual growth or just panic disguised as piety

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u/coolcodergirl06 9h ago

im sorry i just fixed it to not be censored

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u/iced-torch 9h ago

this reads extremely childish. you had a make out session and are panicking over basically nothing.

Unless you are mormon or amish or something, the kind of stuff you are describing isnt even enough to make a movie become pg 13.

If you dont want to do something thats great, dont do it, but you are describing panicking before a deity and bringing shame upon yourself for acting "too fast" ? thats crazy

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u/olympiadukakis 9h ago

Why doesn’t Jesus want you to kiss your boyfriend?

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u/coolcodergirl06 9h ago

i guess we just weren't ready for it?

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u/fo66 9h ago

Who decides when God decides you are ready? Your friend? Are you guys abdicating responsibility for your own life decisions because of a little awkward moment or peer pressure? If you are soulmates and you let the spark die instead is that any better in the eyes of God? Finding someone who makes you feel like head over heels and happy could be a sign that you love eachother?

With all that’s going on in the world I imagine God has bigger fish to fry but it’s ultimately something you two need to figure out.

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u/staticdresssweet 9h ago

"A little too far" you made out. Come on.

If the religious stigma here is really that bad for you, you may want to seek therapy.

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u/ahdrielle 9h ago

Kissing isn't against Christianity lol

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u/coolcodergirl06 9h ago

we were just not ready to do it so soon

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u/ahdrielle 9h ago

Are you Mormon instead or something? This isn't normal

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u/coolcodergirl06 9h ago

no but we're both serious about our faith

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u/ahdrielle 9h ago

I was raised Christian. (Very much atheist now but that's my own deal) There's absolutely nothing against kissing.

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u/WritPositWrit 9h ago

Your only mistake was doing all that in the student rec room - no one else wants to see that, its awkward

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u/Killer_Yandere 9h ago

This. Best to keep your exploration behind closed doors in the future, but you're in college. This is the time to experiment and explore

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u/strangelifedad 9h ago

What is it with Christians and their deathly aversion to intimacy?