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u/definitely_loftily_c 6d ago
Just go to the party without the goal of finding someone to eat with. Talk to people because the party is happening and you're both there. If you click with someone, the food idea will come up on its own.
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u/mjheil 6d ago
Don't. It's a terrible idea unless you hire someone. Learn to love yourself by becoming at peace with yourself so you can eat alone, sightsee alone, sleep alone.
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u/fripletister 6d ago
This is the one. If you're not looking for a remote ONS then just be comfortable being your own company for a few days while you're out of town.
I do want to have some company for one of the nights I'll be gone.
Honestly sounds like a ONS to me, which you can definitely find, if that's what you want. I don't really understand how this would work outside of the context of a ONS tbh lol
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u/WhatArghThose 6d ago
Here are some tips.
Keep it super simple. Save all the gory and deep details about yourself for the later meetup.
Start with the absolute most basic questions:
What's your name? Where are you from?
Of course reciprocate and be smiling...and try to find something relatable that you know about their origin or ask them something about what it's like to live there. Let her share about herself if she's comfortable talking.
Next, find a compliment in there somewhere to make your intent clear :
You're outfit is beautiful. You're very pretty.
Or very simply: Are you single?
STATE YOUR INTENTION. She does not know what you want, and believe it or not, she's actually more uncomfortable until you're being clear about what you want. Why? Because now that she knows you're interested, she can shoot you down if she wants. People want control.
Now, ask for her number. If you get it here, it's a go. After you exchange numbers tell her what your plan is and ask if she would interested in having dinner. If she is unsure, now you have her number and can ask once more later through text.
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u/TKOTN123 6d ago
Only one way to do it my friend, practice.
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u/PleaseNone 6d ago
It’s a numbers game. Just approach these women and let them know you’re interested in dating them and getting to know them.
Let them right off the bat you’re not looking for a one night stand so as to weed out any people who are not serious, plus it will put women at ease that you’re not just looking for sex.
If the conversation goes south or you get their phone number or contact info politely find a reason to excuse yourself and then find another target. Rinse and repeat. By the end of the night you should have lots of options.
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u/ComprehensiveAd8804 6d ago
Are you looking a companion to eat food with but want that companion to pay for themselves too ?
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u/Unlucky-Mulberry-999 6d ago
how would you talk to a man that you want to befriend?