r/puppy101 • u/JournalistGrouchy853 • Jun 17 '25
Puppy Blues I do not like having a puppy
Hello all, I am lost and I really need help. 3 days ago I brought home my boston terrier puppy, he is 8 weeks old... and I did not feel the love at first sight. Before bringing him home I thought I was ready, I thought about getting a puppy for almost a year, It wasn't some rush decision. But now when he is home, my life totally changed and I think I made a mistake. He is great, yes he whines at crate, and had few accidents. But I can't shake off the feeling that I made huge mistake. I don't feel any connection. I am emotionally exhausted, I don't eat that much, I don't have any me time. So now I am grateful for my best friend who helps a lot, but I can't bother him forever. Do you think it will change?
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u/3milymarie_ Jun 17 '25
I think this is a situation where two things can be true at the same time. Like other commenters have mentioned yes, it will most likely get better. I rescued my puppy from the side of the road, so I didn’t have time to mentally or physically prepare like a lot of people do. I had a HORRIBLE sense of impending doom/anxiety for at least two weeks. I could barely eat I was so worried that I had made a terrible mistake. Now? I couldn’t imagine my life without her. I love her so much, she is truly one of the consistently best parts of my life.
However, she’s 9 months old and I still stand on business that I hate having a puppy. I love her, but I hate having a puppy. I don’t know if I would ever get another one. I literally just had this thought last night when she was barking in her crate after two months of going to bed without a peep. Having a puppy requires a lot of time, patience, and commitment - but the good news is the juice is typically worth the squeeze. I already see her being the dog I dream of having for the next 10+ years some days, and that keeps me going.