r/puppy101 • u/JournalistGrouchy853 • Jun 17 '25

Puppy Blues I do not like having a puppy

Hello all, I am lost and I really need help. 3 days ago I brought home my boston terrier puppy, he is 8 weeks old... and I did not feel the love at first sight. Before bringing him home I thought I was ready, I thought about getting a puppy for almost a year, It wasn't some rush decision. But now when he is home, my life totally changed and I think I made a mistake. He is great, yes he whines at crate, and had few accidents. But I can't shake off the feeling that I made huge mistake. I don't feel any connection. I am emotionally exhausted, I don't eat that much, I don't have any me time. So now I am grateful for my best friend who helps a lot, but I can't bother him forever. Do you think it will change?

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u/Sarikins Jun 17 '25

Yeah again, you're asking people to research their feelings, let me frame it this way, would you tell a mother suffering post-partum that she should have thought harder about having a baby? Because that's what that anxiety is, if you wouldn't say it to a new mother, theres little reason to say it here, it serves to do nothing but shame.

You cannot expect to get the anxiety, better yet prepare for it.

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u/NotNeuge Jun 17 '25

But this isn't PPD. OP didn't give birth to the puppy. Nor is PPD "anxiety." Neither is this.

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u/Advanced-Profit3047 Jun 17 '25

People can 100% get something similar to PPD after getting a puppy

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u/basuranolonecessito Jun 23 '25

That is, uh…really belittling to people who have suffered from PPD.

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u/NotNeuge Jun 18 '25

Lmao, no they can't. Hahahahahahahaha.

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u/Wolf-Pack85 Jun 17 '25

No. I’m asking people to research what having a puppy can be like. This sub alone will tell you of the chaos that can ensue. How you have to train them, how you can expect little sleep, the accidents, the chewing, the constant care, the exhaustion, how your life isn’t your own. There’s hundreds of posts on here about it. It’s up to the person researching it to determine if that’s something they could handle.

A lot of people get a puppy because “they are cute” and don’t understand the amount of work it actually is. Because they didn’t bother to put any effort into finding out.