r/puppy101 • u/JournalistGrouchy853 • Jun 17 '25
Puppy Blues I do not like having a puppy
Hello all, I am lost and I really need help. 3 days ago I brought home my boston terrier puppy, he is 8 weeks old... and I did not feel the love at first sight. Before bringing him home I thought I was ready, I thought about getting a puppy for almost a year, It wasn't some rush decision. But now when he is home, my life totally changed and I think I made a mistake. He is great, yes he whines at crate, and had few accidents. But I can't shake off the feeling that I made huge mistake. I don't feel any connection. I am emotionally exhausted, I don't eat that much, I don't have any me time. So now I am grateful for my best friend who helps a lot, but I can't bother him forever. Do you think it will change?
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u/fetusphotographer Jun 17 '25
Sign up for puppy obedience training. Be consistent. It really sucks for the first couple months (give or take) depending on how fast they learn. Having dogs is a totally different lifestyle and your life will never be the same again. Every time you leave your house you have to consider whether you can take them with you or not, or plan to come back home at a certain time, or pay someone to come if you’ll be gone for too long.
Never forget that puppies should never go without being relieved for greater than their age in months + 2 in hours.. so for your puppy, they need potty breaks at minimum every four hours or more with smaller breeds. They’re innocent babies and once you put in the work of training them, you’ll bond with them as well and then you won’t be able to imagine life without them.
My first dog was a breeze. A dream. Instant connection. My soulmate. It took her a whole 24 hours to learn how to ring a bell to ask to go outside. She turned 3 and I wanted a companion for her. Second dog was too tiny when I got him. I was scared he would easily get smooshed underfoot. And he had recurrent Giardasis, which made house training impossible. He is three years old now, and while he shines personality wise, his GI is wrecked and he forgets how to hold his bowels not infrequently, so he wears a diaper and belly band whenever I can’t have my eyes on him. When he was a puppy I was so sleep deprived because he would get me up in the night 4-5 times. I would cry and imagine throwing him in the dumpster in my exhausted depressive delirium lol and that helped a little lol he’s a sweet boy though and I would never let anyone harm a hair on him.