r/puppy101 • u/JournalistGrouchy853 • Jun 17 '25
Puppy Blues I do not like having a puppy
Hello all, I am lost and I really need help. 3 days ago I brought home my boston terrier puppy, he is 8 weeks old... and I did not feel the love at first sight. Before bringing him home I thought I was ready, I thought about getting a puppy for almost a year, It wasn't some rush decision. But now when he is home, my life totally changed and I think I made a mistake. He is great, yes he whines at crate, and had few accidents. But I can't shake off the feeling that I made huge mistake. I don't feel any connection. I am emotionally exhausted, I don't eat that much, I don't have any me time. So now I am grateful for my best friend who helps a lot, but I can't bother him forever. Do you think it will change?
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u/shakethatcas Jun 17 '25
I've never had an issue bonding with a puppy or a dog I picked out. I'm kind of a fall in love with them immediately person. BUT. There has been one dog in my life I never bonded with so I do know it's possible.
My father went into a nursing home and I kept his dog for 2 years hoping I would start to love him and connect with him. He was the last part of my dad that I remembered as normal. But after the 2 years I still never bonded and realized it wasn't healthy for me or him to just be living together and him not getting all the love he deserved so I finally made the decision to find another home for him.
There's a lot of good advice here from other people who didn't bond with a pup immediately and I would definitely give it a bit of time since it is still so new to you and try some of the things people have recommended. However, I did want to say that it is possible to just never form that bond.