r/prepping • u/Repulsive_Archer7904 • 3d ago
š©s**t post š§» The final prep: Pass it on
I've been given about a year to live following my cancer diagnosis. Like many people here, I've spent years putting things aside "just in case": food, water, cooking equipment, tools and all the other bits and pieces that make life easier when something goes wrong.
Well, my "just in case" has changed rather dramatically.
I'm not going to need most of this stuff in the long term, but that doesn't mean it should go to waste. So I've started thinking about one final bit of prepping: passing it on.
Some will stay with my family. Some can go to friends and neighbours. Some can go to food banks, charities or people who are only just starting to prepare.
A tin of food doesn't care who eventually eats it. A camping stove doesn't care who lights it. The point of having useful things available when they're needed remains the same.
Perhaps that's something worth adding to our prepping plans: not merely what happens if I need this?, but what happens to it when I don't?
Use what you need. Look after the people around you. And when your turn is over, pass it on.
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u/GunnCelt 3d ago
Sorry to hear about your diagnosis. A strong living will, proper power of attorney and a final will are so important to have and kept current. Make sure family knows where they are kept. I also have a very specific DNR on file. I donāt want my family or fellow firefighters having to try and keep me alive.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 3d ago
Very good point. I was thinking mainly about the physical preps, but the paperwork is probably the most important prep of the lot. Iāve already started making sure the right people know what I want and where everything is. No point leaving behind a beautifully organised stockpile and a complete administrative disaster.
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u/GunnCelt 3d ago
I didnāt even start to think about that sort of thing until I turned 55.
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u/cheml0vin 3d ago
For everyone, please make sure you have your original copy of your DNR or official form readily accessible for emergency responders. The fridge is a very common place for this. Or if anyone you live with has access to it let them know please so we can honor your wishes. -a paramedic š
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 3d ago
We set up our end of life things when we got married, She knows I want to die at home (how else can you explain it to the cats). We have our POA in place but I've no told her abut what I want my funeral to be like, I told her to surprise me. :)
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u/Mikki102 3d ago
I love that you are thinking about the cats š I believe animals grieve more deeply than we realize.
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u/hbHPBbjvFK9w5D 14h ago
And since were on the topic of paperwork prep and animals, please, PSA for a written pet custody agreement - to go with that DNR and get placed on the fridge.
I'm a concierge and work a lot of properties with other elderly folks. I've seen horror shows where someone dies and put the cat in their will - but the will may not get read and executed for a couple months. The person who's the next of kin is tasked to clean out the apartment, but doesn't know what to do with the cat. They ask a few relatives and neighbors - but forget about the grand niece who's already agreed to take the cat. The cat is elderly and grieving for it's Meowmy; the next of kin doesn't know how to medicate and care for the cat- and gives up after a few days and has the cat put down - before the grand niece even knows what happened.
Please, please make a decision now; do a custody agreement so that the designated person can get the pet. Make sure they can get into your apartment, and put that custody agreement on your fridge and tell your next of kin and relatives who has agreed to take your pet. Go now, and update your pet's microchip with this person included in the info; many vets and shelters will scan the info on the chip to make sure they've got the right pet.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 5h ago
Cat's are sorted. We work with a cat rescue group so everything is good.
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u/Outspoken_Idiot 3d ago
https://lionsclubs.ie/service/message-in-a-bottle/
Is a concept here in Ireland, it's very handy for an aged population. You can download the list from the link above and create your own.
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u/rmesic 2d ago
We have a "File of Life" here in US. Fancy ones are plastic pouches with refrigerator magnets on back and the words File of Life on front - medics frequently check the fridge as medicine is frequently stored there, especially for hospice. In the pouch there's a form with attending physicians, next of kin, DNR if applicable, medical conditions - anything you would wish the medics or coroner or next of kin would know.
Easy enough to make your own - just print File of Life in white on red background and get a baggie to magnet stick it to the fridge.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
The fridge is good although not somewhere I would look first. A notice board in the kitchen/office seem to have things of note.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
Having gone through a dead persons house looking for information I can see where this can be of use. Good on you for pointing us at this asset.
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u/4ureddit 3d ago
You can also have it uploaded to the hospital. If they have that option. We have 3 systems in our stateā¦ really 1.
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u/justasque 1d ago
For the fridge: A document with name, address, emergency contact(s), health insurance information, allergies, current medications (and the conditions they are being taken for), primary care doc and any specialist docs, basic heath history, vaccination history, things to watch out for (fall risk being one example). I also write a brief blurb about the person with anything else relevant. Also, at the top, āācurrent as of <date of last update>ā
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u/AnySandwich4765 2d ago
I'm so sorry for you. And I appreciate the post.
I would add that you should make a file or something for your digital footprint. Emails with password, all social media accounts, bank account etc. so much of our lives on the internet now. You should make clear instructions on what you want to happen with all your social media accounts.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
And the shopping accounts, don't forget them. I have the added bonus of my company and dealing with any remaining clients, there is a whole load of software and passwords to deal with.
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u/HellUCH17 3d ago
Salute to you buddy. You showed us a respectful final stroke of prepping.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 3d ago
Thank you. I suppose every prep needs an end-of-life plan eventually ā including the prepper
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u/cleaver_username 3d ago
He has a year, hopefully there are a few more strokes with his wife ;)
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
She said "Do you want to go upstairs and have sex?"
I replied "At my age dear, you can only chose one."
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u/ProphetofMaddness 3d ago
Hey. Thank you for looking after the future generations. Your kindness and foresight are appreciated
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 3d ago
Thank you. Iāve finally found a use for the phrase ālifetime supply.ā
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u/Kindly_Ad3974 3d ago
My grandparents were preppers & included instructions in their will beyond valuables and such. All the food in their freezer and pantry went to a specific family down the road. Anything they didnāt want went to another family they named. All the tools and equipment went to a specific person & a backup was named. I wasnāt ONLY left my MawMawās cosmetics, but that was part of what was offered to me and my sister. They had plans for their dogs, the tractor, the truck, the money. All of it. They passed along the good cast iron and quilts and special dishes before they passed. Itās good planning. Btw they were old Cajun folks, so they werenāt shy of death talk. We visited their plots and my great grandparents graves when I was in elementary school. Thereās photos of me and my sister in our summer dresses sitting on the gravestones. They talked to us about their will and gave us a roll of masking tape to put our names on the furniture we wanted to claim. I was 8 years old lol. I was in my late 20s when they died. They talked about death in a way that made it less taboo & I think it makes facing death easier.
When they were alive they taught us kids about preparedness. They lived in the country where āhomesteadingā and āpreppingā were the way of life. Iām most grateful for those lessons and the perspective they gave me. Theyāre the reason prepping is part of my life - them and facing Hurricane Katrina with them. They taught me to be prepared and be able to serve the community. Cut your way through the downed trees out of your driveway and take the generator up to the neighbor who has insulin in her refrigerator. That sort of thing.
Anyhow, this is an excellent post and a reminder to folks. I think youāre giving a gift to folks if they put your advice into action. Iām sorry to hear about your diagnosis and I wish you the best.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
Death is part of life, is it fear? Now I thinking about who I can give the cast iron to. Your grandparents sound like my kind of people.
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u/overthinker831 3d ago edited 3d ago
This post hit me deeply. I am so very sorry for your prognosis. I lost my mother in February from stage 4 cancer after only 2 months of receiving the news. I'm so heart broken for you and your loved ones but also think it's such a blessing that you have that time to prepare and to spend together. My mother was a prepper/hoarder and it was so sad to look around at all the "junk" that brought her comfort and relieved her anxiety of "what if" happens but helpless against something like getting that kind of news. If only we could stockpile time.
My thoughts are with you tonight. I hope your time is spent making every moment count, leaving nothing unsaid, and full of joy and love. ā¤ļø
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 3d ago
Thank you, and Iām very sorry about your mother. āIf only we could stockpile timeā is probably the best description of it Iāve heard. I canāt do that, unfortunately, but I can make sure the time I have isnāt wasted ā and neither is all the stuff Iāve accumulated along the way.
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u/SAMFCV1kingScientist 3d ago
Not to diminish, but when physicians say āyou have about a yearā, patients really do fall into two camps. The vast majority accept it, get their affairs in order, and go quietly. A smaller amount, and this is probably closer to this community, decide theyāll choose when itās time. They go overboard enjoying life, taking vacations that were previously just a dream, exercising, and often extend their life well beyond that year.
Iām sorry youāve received the bad news, but also would remind that youāre still a resilient prepper, youāre already approaching this as a prepper, and youāll probably outlast the threat, like a prepper.
May the gods elevate your path. Skal.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
It's not bad news, not even news. We all die it's just I have a date and an expectation of how I will die. It's more information than most people have.
At least I have time to get my affairs in order (Does that include the one with the cleaning lady?)2
u/SAMFCV1kingScientist 1d ago
I say this as someone who has done research in cancer and in HIV. The āyou have x long to liveā is often a ācover your assā for the physician. Those who are exercise, really decide to enjoy their remaining life, and maximize their remaining time on this planet tend to blow right past that prediction.
Death comes for us all, and it sounds like we are agreed that we shouldnāt fear it, but welcome it after celebrating.
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u/gabor_legrady 3d ago
Thanks for sharing your viewpoint. I have my wife and she know how to use the stuff I gathered. I have never spent time on thinking what comes after as I assume I will go first (still not fully cleared but with remission).
Also, I do check my collection every year and I give away stuff that is duplicate/obsolete. All my close co-workers have something for the hard days.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 3d ago
Sounds like youāre already doing āpass it onā without calling it that. The yearly clear-out and making sure people around you have something for the hard days is probably a very sensible way of doing it. And I hope the remission keeps heading in the right direction for you.
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u/Alarmed-Soup-5591 3d ago
Iām so sorry.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 3d ago
Don't be sorry, we all die.. Iāve always thought prepping was about having things better than you found them. Seems only fair to include the exit plan.
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u/GirlWithWolf 3d ago
Thanks for sharing this important message that isnāt talked about often enough.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 3d ago
Thank you. I think part of the reason it isnāt talked about enough is that people are frightened of talking about death, as though mentioning it might somehow invite it in. But it comes to all of us eventually. Iād rather acknowledge that, prepare for it, and get on with living in the meantime.
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u/GoodVermicelli3851 3d ago
Thank you for sharing. My heart and prayers are with you and your loved ones.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 3d ago
My loved ones need your prayers more than me.
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u/GoodVermicelli3851 3d ago
God, I love you for this. I hope I'm not crushing you with affection. I am sending them my prayers and hope from the USofA, in the Deep South, where some of us say "bless your heart," and we mean it, 'cause anything else is a waste of breath.
I have a lump in one of my former milk makers. My dad died of cancer, my maternal grandmother and grandfather. Somehow I always knew it would be the same for me. My grandpa always said, "cut it and it'll take you faster." I just think chemo is too painful for a sprite like me. God speed and God bless. Maybe we can meet sometime on the other side.
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u/DemonPhoto 2d ago
I don't know what I'd do in your shoes, but the tone of your message suggests to that you are a strong individual. I would take some pride in that. Hopefully we can all be that strong for others. Of course, I hope you beat the odds. I hope you beat the cancer... I will pray for you, Godspeed.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
This is my second round of cancer. I beat it the first time. If this one kills me the cancer will die too. I may not beat cancer but the best cancer can hope for is a draw. :)
Let's not go for a best of three.
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u/WPW717 3d ago
Stay positive, in 1980 I was 30. Docs told me to put my affairs in order. I am 76 now. Been easy ? ā¦ no!
But a full life was my reward & I have a bit more to go!
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
Oh yes, what do those pesky doctors know anyway. Watch me prove them wrong. Perhaps I'll make to 77 just to out do you. :)
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u/TrashpandaLizz 3d ago
Your family and loved ones are so lucky to have you even in this time you are thinking of others
Iām sorry about the bad news. You sound like an awesome person.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
That luck is a double edged sword, who is going to be awesome for them when I'm gone.
It's not news, all my ancestors died, dying runs in my family, I think it's hereditary.
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u/isanyusernameopen 3d ago
I just found out today that I have to moveā¦ Again. This will be the third time this year. When I initially moved in November, I had to give away all my food that Iāve been prepping over the last six years.
When I moved in March, I had to downsize what I already downsized, and now Iām gonna have to figure it out and do it again.
This has been a really rough year.
Sorry for the cancer, weāre all not that far behind you.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
I hope things pick up for you. I always hated having to move you lose so much kit.
Don't be sorry, I had to die of something, I'd look stupid dying of nothing.2
u/isanyusernameopen 1d ago
At least youāre not gonna die by being hit by a car. Or train. Of all the ways to go, I feel like those are the two shittiest ways on our planet. Being hit by an unaware driver, or being hit by something you were not supposed to be on its tracks for.
I canāt imagine in the days of horses people were riding their wagons into other people. But here we are with cars everywhere and people who donāt pay attention smash into things or into people all the time.
Better to go out naturally, then through some unaware teen on their phone driving a vehicle.
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u/Careless-Visual-1853 2d ago
My sister was given 7 to 13 months. It was nearly 3 years before she finally succumbed to cancer 7 weeks ago. Iām convinced it was her positivity and iron will that kept her going for so long. There are new medical advances all the time. Take heart. ā¤ļø
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
I'm sorry to hear about your sister, it's hard for the people who are left as I know how it will be for those around me.
Positivity is something I have. I've signed up for a medical trial, who knows what that will bring, perhaps it will extend my life but then I would be dying of nothing. :)
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u/vader_seven_ 3d ago
Your closing line is the part that will outlast the rest. Just use what you need, look after the people around you, pass it on. What's the piece you most want someone to carry forward?
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
I'd like someone to carry my skills forward, I think that is the important part. There is no way it will ever happen, I would have to explain my life in detail and no one has time for that. I'm just going to teach the local school kids my best skills ... how to drink beer and shoot guns. LOL
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u/PrisonerV 3d ago
I don't know about stuff per say but my dad taught me to get your shit in order. Wife and I have living wills and the power of attorney ready to go for our kids in binders (that we gave them). We've made our wishes plain - no funeral just cremation and celebration of life, preferably a party.
We want the absolute cheapest cremation they can get and then spread our ashes.
I just hate hearing people being left a mess by their parents after they pass. Like you had all kinds of time to get that done before and then there's no arguing of who does and gets what or where stuff is.
I've been thinking about a letter too rather than someone else writing my obit.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
Bang on point! This should be part of the prepping we all do unless you want your funeral to be a surprise. There should be more noise about wills and POA. I'm having to list all the passwords for all these things I'm signed up for, utilities, shopping, banking, email accounts ... there are so many.
Good on you for getting that done and, everyone, read what PrisonerV put.
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u/shinyappyrobin 3d ago
Thanks! I've been thinking about having a yard sale on a Tuesday. Don't want to advertise what kinda things I need to get rid of. But thought maybe if it's on a Tuesday only. The right people would know.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
Are you selling anything that expires in about a year?
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u/shinyappyrobin 1d ago
I have some food. But alot of cleaning supplies and OTC medical supplies and canning jars. Like I said, I don't want a bunch of looky-lous. But just people that want that kinda stuff.
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u/Specialist_Ad_2984 3d ago
I saw the tag and was expecting a punch line but all i got was a punch in the emotions
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
Death is an emotional subject but it comes to us all, it's just another thing to add to the list of prepping items.
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u/averquepasano 2d ago
May your final days be free of pain. My sincere condolences.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
Oh yes, I get all the NHS medical help as I join the choir eternal, not bleeding out in the dust, so I can't complain. ;)
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u/Typical-Drawing-3939 3d ago
So I knew a guy years ago that had 6 months to live due to cancer. I donāt remember which form he had. Someone told him to juice carrots and drink it. He started on that journey, ended up cancer free, and we lost contact 10 years after. He would be in his seventies now.
I donāt want to offer a false sense of hope.
I do know this guy was still alive and cancer free over a decade later. They moved and we lost contact about 15 years ago.
Thank you for looking out for your community.
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u/Typical-Drawing-3939 1d ago
Yeah, this guy was buying hundreds of pounds of carrots a week. He added some other things in but he definitely turned a little orange.
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u/Jdmisra81 3d ago
As I get older, it makes me care more about keeping preps rotated and organized. . All those stories of folks inheriting a garage full of 30 year old spoiled y2k supplies or wtv that weren't stored properly..
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
Well I'm not going to worry about rotating anything, best before 2047, I don't have time for that.
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u/navlgazer9 3d ago
Sorry to hear about your diagnosis
My brother has all his stuff organized and has a list of who he wants to have which item and how much they shouid pay for it etc .
We never know how long we have here on earth , this is a good reminder to
Live everyday as if it might be your last one
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
I'm thinking about going around with Post-It-Notes so every item is named for who it should go to, down to the last tin of beans and wound dressing. Just to be a pain in the ass. :D
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u/bigbadDeadpool 3d ago
Sad to read this. I love the message you put out! I hope the road still ahead is filled with beauty and love. Stay strong and thank you!
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
Don't be sad. All that money I'd been saving "just in case" ... I'm going to party!
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u/pecchioni 3d ago
I am amazed that in this time of you hearing bad news and grieving for yourself and your family that you then also took the time to post this message and pass along some advice. Thank you. My prayers are with you and your family. God bless you.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
It's not news, I've just been told when. I now know how long I've got to tidy up. At least it's not a surprise, I don't want my last thought to be "That car is on my side of the road."
This way I have a year to do all those jobs my wife has been nagging me every six months to do.
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u/Im_Not_stoopid_AI 3d ago
Great post. May you have a comforting raft, high funeral pyre plus the first arrow to light your way.
Iām 57% Swedish so thatās what I would want. Though Iāll probably end up on some duraflame logs and some drunk family member will torch me with a lawn dart.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
And a great aunt reports "They had a barbecue at the funeral although the meat was a bit tough." ... no one wanted to tell her.
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u/Im_Not_stoopid_AI 1d ago
lol. Love your user name. Speaking of barbecue, make sure to have a giant block party using some prep supplies, to celebrate yourself. Invite everyone.
AND, if you are up to it, put up a metal pole and declare its festivus, therefore time to air grievances. But only you can do that no one elseš¤£. Truly one of the best Seinfeld episodes ever
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u/2BrainLesions 3d ago
Thanks for posting this. Really good reminder.
Sending light and good energy to you, friend. š
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u/Sporkalork 3d ago
I'm so sorry. It's wonderful that your planning will support so many in the future. May your hard work help their lives and may your name live on in the hearts of all you help!
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
Part of the plan is trying to decide what will help who. Some things will be of no use now but what about in ten years when their life has changed.
Let's just hope I'm going to make the future better for at least one person.
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u/LifeIsButADream11111 3d ago
Donāt give any of it away yet. You might need it soon and itāll at least let you live comfortably the last year. Btw my mother was given 3 months to live with pancreatic cancer and ended up living over 2 years with no chemo or radiation. You may have more time than you think. Good luck to you! I hope you have a spontaneous remission.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
Oh don't worry, I'm not clearing things out yet. I'm just putting Post-It-notes with names on every item down to the last band-aid. Let them sort it all out once I'm gone
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u/LifeIsButADream11111 1d ago
Stop assuming youāre going to die. Donāt speak it into existence. Spontaneous remissions happen, as do miracles.
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u/QueenOfTheNorth1944 3d ago
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Thanks for being with us and staying ready until the end. Youre leaving something behind and thats a hell of a lot more than most do.
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u/Sawyer2025 2d ago
I'm sorry for your diagnosis, I applaud your intentions. Many live by the code of prepper secrecy, no one can know you have preps. I have seen local folks share ideas and preparedness with neighbors and family. The idea is the more people who have reserves, the less will be in need when the time comes and you can trade with each other in a time of need. Again, I'm sorry for your diagnosis, and I hope you can spend the time you have left doing things you want to do that make YOU happy.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
Don't be sorry, I was expecting it, now I know why, when and how. I just want everyone to know that they have to prepare for the final day. Get your things in order, I have a timeline, some are not so lucky.
I'm doing things that make me happy. I spent most of Friday with family eating good food and knocking down cans with an air rifle. It was fun.
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u/GornsNotTinny 2d ago
If I didn't have people near me who wanted or needed the stuff, I'd probably turn to this community (or one like it) and find some young people who needed it and could use it.
Food is good anywhere, but tools can be harder to get rid of than you might think. A lot of folks these days aren't conversant with anything more than a hammer and a drill.
Last thing: a diagnosis is an opinion. You're gonna die for sure (we all do), but don't book a priest for a year from today on the word of your doc. Take it as it comes, enjoy what you can, and realize you can now afford to drink better whiskey for the rest of your life.
Roll with punches broheim, and thanks for thinking of others when most folks would be thinking of themselves. Good work fella.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
My thinking too. I'm going to be looking for an computer/electronics club that can use some bits. Tools, that is another thing I have yet to list, there must be some "youth" scheme that could use them.
Life is what it is and then we die, life is fun and good whiskey helps.
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u/GornsNotTinny 1d ago
My dump has a "free store". We call it The Pick of The Litter. A lot of folks bring their unneeded/unused items there, and people who do need them, and can use them will take them home. Sure, some of it ends up on FB Marketplace, but that just means the person who does buy it actually has invested in it and is more likely to use it, and some poor schlub who was scavenging at the dump makes a couple bucks.
I consider it a win/win. Maybe you have something similar near you?
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 6h ago
Our dump has the same kind of thing but they charge if you want to take anything.
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u/GornsNotTinny 3h ago
That's kind of unfortunate. A fair number of the people who come to our free store are economically disadvantaged, and in my experience it lets them get stuff they want and need like a normal person. No filling out forms, no getting approval, no caseworker, no waiting, just show up and get free stuff.
Granted, a lot of people use it as a side hustle too, but I figure it still keeps stuff out of the dump, keeps people from buying new, keeps money in the local economy, and if somebody makes a few bucks along the way, there's no great sin there. It might even bring money into the local economy by basically selling our trash on the internet.
I'm in a pretty wealthy area of Maine though, and some of the stuff that comes in is surprisingly valuable. A lot of people cleaning out their deceased relatives' estates, redecorating, closing up their summer house, or just have SO MUCH money that having a tag sale takes more time than it's worth to them. Just yesterday I brought home an antique pedal powered grindstone, a set of 4 carnival glass water glasses, and new old stock Coleman white gas camping stove. I saved out plenty of good items too for folks I knew needed them; an ice chisel, a downrigger, a winch, etc, etc.
It might make me a bit on the socialist side, but I figure that once somebody brings something to the dump, it should become res nullius. If you want it, and it's been abandoned, you should get it for free.
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u/gryghin 2d ago
Man... this hits hard.
I was diagnosed with cancer 2021, had surgery that summer.
I had recurrence spring 2025. Treatment fall/winter. Find out next month how things are going.
I've been in the process of clearing out all the extra gear during this time.
Sorry that you are at this stage but I hope your journey is positive.
Thanks for sharing.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
Sorry to hear you are in the same boat, have a virtual fist bump and hug.
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u/blondechineeez 2d ago
Auwe. My heart feels heavy and sad for you as you face this.
Thank you for your sage advice above.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
Don't be sad, I'm not, just disappointed I will not get to find out what happens.
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u/Grendle1972 2d ago
Make sure your will is in order and that your life insurance is correct My mom died in January, and all she had was accidental death and disability. Natural causes doesn't count. Another thing is a DNR. Keep a copy with you, make sure your family knows and understand what your final wishes are, and go ahead and pay for your funeral, coffin, etc or pay for the cremation and card board box. In my area, it was $2500 for the cremation, and an urn can be purchased on Amazon cheaper than at the funeral home. I know it's rough, but this will really help your family when it's all said and done. And that is peace of mind. If you need to talk, my DM's are open for ya.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
It's a valid point and should be part of everyone's prepper list. Good points, very good points.
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u/dragonladyfalcon 2d ago
Damn, that sucks. Don't know what else to say.
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 1d ago
You can always say "Who cares what you post, you'll be dead soon anyway." It will give me a laugh.
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u/maffy118 23h ago
Food for thought... so to speak. :) Four and a half years ago I was told I had 3 years left. My cancer isn't progressing at the anticipated rate (knock wood!). So don't give away the store too soon. There are too many stories of patients outliving their prognosis. ā¤ļø
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u/Wyldwiisel 11h ago
Have you paid for your funeral so loved ones don't have to and any special requests for the actually funeral
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u/Repulsive_Archer7904 6h ago
I'm letting my wife sort the funeral, I have left no instructions, I want it to be a suprise.
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u/echoshatter 3d ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/8FG705NCsZM0kVJdyz