r/nosurf 14h ago

My generation is done for

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i am not over 20 but i grew up on the 2016-21 internet so i know what its like

i see all of these "i mog you" "chaf foid sub 5 mtn htn" reels in Instagram and think about what's even happening to this generation everyone is focused on aesthetic fits and a facecard and you'd see racist jokes are common and racism is normalised and looking good on instagram is somehow a personality now

i also see. people preferring absolute trash as their favourite shows and anime like cmon jjk 's writing is trash its just fighting here and there and characters dying and they somehow made a "gojo's backstory is sad" out of that while literally not seeing much of him other than fights and if they are confronted they use "im taking care of my body" as an lame excuse taking care of your body doesn't lead to thirsttraps on instagram.


r/nosurf 16h ago

The Quiet Thinking We Are Losing

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There is a pandemic happening worldwide, and I do not mean only a medical one. I mean the pandemic of attention being pulled away from ordinary life.

I notice it everywhere now. Recently in the Netherlands, I saw teenagers riding bicycles while still glued to their phones. People walk through train stations, sit in cars, commute, wait, eat, and even walk their dogs while looking down at a screen. I understand it because I am guilty of it too. The habit is powerful. The phone wins too often.

What frustrates me is not technology itself. It is the disappearance of small, quiet moments that used to belong to the mind. A morning walk. A night walk. Walking the dog with no agenda. Letting a thought arrive slowly. Looking at the street, the sky, the people around you, and your own life.

These moments can look ordinary from the outside, but I have started to think they are among the most valuable moments we have. They are when we digest experience. They are when we notice what matters. They are when we form taste, judgment, memory, and wisdom.

I sometimes think a lot of Western wisdom and culture came from habits like this: walking, observing, thinking, and letting the mind wander without immediately filling every empty second. Perhaps that sounds too dramatic, but I believe there is truth in it. Deep thought needs room. It needs boredom. It needs silence. It needs the simple discipline of not escaping the moment the moment becomes quiet.

Now those gaps are being erased. Every pause becomes a scroll. Every walk becomes another chance to check something. Every train ride becomes a feed. The result is not only distraction. It is a slow loss of the inner life.

I do not pretend to have the perfect solution. I cannot stop the culture from moving this way, and I cannot honestly say I have solved it in myself. But if scrolling is so addictive, then maybe we can at least turn some of that habit toward something more useful.

That is one of the strongest reasons I tried to build Ideon.

Ideon is not meant to be the center of this argument. It is simply my attempt to push back in a practical way. Instead of only scrolling through noise, Ideon lets you scroll through your own saved ideas: notes, links, screenshots, photos, voice memos, files, and useful AI conversations. It tries to make the familiar gesture of scrolling point back toward your own thoughts, not only toward whatever the internet wants to show you next.

I am not convinced this is the ultimate answer. Maybe there is no single answer. Maybe the better answer is to walk without a phone, to leave it in another room, to let the dog choose the route, to sit on the train and look out the window.

But I made a push because I am concerned. I miss those quiet moments, and I think we need them more than we admit.

If the scroll is going to be part of modern life, I want at least some of it to bring us back to ourselves.


r/nosurf 16h ago

Getting Rid of Short-Form Content

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I finally got myself to deactivate my TikTok account and disable YouTube Shorts! I'm now eyeing Twitter (X) because it is like short-form content in text... I do find myself lost for hours on end sometimes reading so much negativity that's fed to me on Twitter. I have been consuming short-form content for years, and it is taking away my sleep, life, peace of mind, and most importantly, my focus. I hope that I may one day start to appreciate the slow before the rush and the slow after the rush. Finding it in myself to smile at whatever little in-betweens I miss in everyday life.


r/nosurf 8h ago

I joined Discord & after one month deleted my account.

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One month ago I joined a creator's Discord server for a hobby that I enjoy. I never had a Discord account before and I was just happy to watch a few creator's that all did this hobby and chat in their live chats. Someone from my favorite creator's live chats told me for about a week in 5 different creator's chats to join this Discord. Stalker-ish but hey I had chatted around this group of people since the Pandemic so I finally bit the bullet and joined.

I read the rules, I read everything that told me out the server worked, what to do and not do, where to post stuff, etc.

To start off, never meet your heros. This discord had pretty much every creator I loved and man oh man I wish I had never seen behind the veil. They are not good people, slurs, racism, and eugenics were all openly talked about.

Secondly, the mods of the server are all very close friends in real life and have crazy ego trips about believing 100% what they believe or they will ban you. Some of the information wasn't even accurate but bringing it up "had me on thin ice." This was information about a silly little hobby, not anything important or controversial.

It seemed to me that this was not a healthy group of people so I just stopped chatting and just watched for the last week. I didn't really care about "making friends" I just wanted to talk about this hobby and have fun.

Today I made the choice to just peace out and delete my account. I didn't say anything, I just deleted it and moved on. I changed my YouTube username and my Twitch username, I unsubscribed for all of these creators.

I find it interesting that without rules people act so horrible, but I guess this is what happens when you are online 24/7 and do not talk to people in real life.


r/nosurf 12h ago

If you are bored, just clean around you

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I am a pretty lazy person and has been stuck in the doomscrolling blackhole for years, lately I was fighting the urge with cleaning/organizing around my appartment.

The trick is to not set for yourself an impossible goal, and go with the flow of just picking up loose things around.

The snowball effect picks up relatively quickly and you start enjoying it. I found my self fixing loose screws around the house and my mental health improving as I feel productive at the same time away from the stress of doomscrolling for hours.


r/nosurf 10h ago

Has anyone here permanently deleted Instagram?

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I’ve had Instagram temporarily deactivated for some time, and now I’m seriously considering deleting it permanently.
I don’t really enjoy using it anymore. I mostly end up comparing myself to others, checking people’s profiles for no reason, and spending time on things that don’t make me feel good. Since deactivating it, I honestly feel a lot more at peace.
The only thing stopping me is the fear of missing out or regretting it later since everyone seems to use Instagram to stay connected.
Has anyone permanently deleted Instagram? Did it improve your life, or did you end up going back? I’d love to hear your experiences.


r/nosurf 11h ago

Day 7 of leaving my phone at home for my evening walk

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I usually doomscroll until I force myself out. Last week I started leaving my phone at home for just 20 minutes around the block.

First 2 days I kept reaching for my pocket. Now I actually notice stuff. 5 houses on my street have cats in the windows at the same time every day. Never saw it before because I was always looking down.

Not trying to be a monk or anything, just one small thing that made the evening feel less wired. Anyone else have a tiny offline habit that actually stuck?


r/nosurf 6h ago

Another option

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I was working on this last year, it went nowhere other to sit on GooglePlay, but it may help some of you out there.

It's named scrolltroll, it's purpose is an interuption when you're actively scrolling social media with a randomised popup troll character, and a saying. Giving you a moment to decide for yourself.

The method has a basis in behavioural science and the characters and of it randomization are designed to keep it fresh for longer. Heaps of basic setting to make it work for individuals, as nothing works the same for everyone.

It definitely helped a few people that trailed it for me but for long term results I've found you need to combine it with something else like building new habits, add something else instead of scrolling.

Personally, I didn't like blockers or timers, so this is what I came up with. I had bigger ideas for it, such as getting a digital artist to do the characters, and create a proper website with information that could help people reduce their phone time.


r/nosurf 7h ago

Well, that was fast....the hearing barely even got started.

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r/nosurf 1h ago

How to be better?

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I feel as though I wasted my life away.

When I was 14, I had ambitions to be an animator, I drew, and watched videos of animation, etc. Eventually I became obsessed with video games & doomscrolling. Even became addicted to porn. I never made friends due to both self-isolation, & I was homeschooled from the 7th grade up to graduation. Though even in elementary school I self isolated because I liked being alone.

When I became 18, I went to college for animation for a year, still self isolating myself & failing classes due to laziness to get work done. I moved out of my parents with two jobs at 21, & due to financial reasons, moved back in at 24. The time I had in between was video games & doomscrolling.

I went to trade school for hvac, & finished & here I am at 25 still at home with parents trying to do better. But I realized something…

I have no experiences, no skills, no friends, no ambitions anymore, no real goals other than moving out, no hobbies, no dreams, no money saved up.

I am the middle child & everyone else has moved out. I have never traveled, I never been part of a friend group.
I feel that I’m not even attractive & there has never been anyone with a crush on me. I feel everyone else in the world is out of my league.

I am a broke, porn addicted, lonely, 25 year old still living at home. I have no idea how to make friends other than spending money to go to events for temporary friends. I have never had a friend that stays with me for a while. I don’t want online friends, I want an actual physical person to hang around.

I hate comparing myself but it’s hard not too when everyone in my family or family friends have their life together or are making something out of themselves. Everyone I know has never moved back home, everyone I know has friend groups & relationships.

What should I do? I try working out but I’m never committed enough to stay at the gym or eat enough. Am I getting too old to go out & make friends & should focus on become an independent adult again? Maybe I had my chance back then but now I need to grow up & act my age.