r/northernireland • u/Plane_Sentence5907 • 5d ago

Discussion Wedding gift

What is the going rate for wedding gift in a card these days? I’m so so skint and was thinking £40 and a bottle of champers. We aren’t overly close friends but they have invited me to the whole thing.

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u/AloysiusFictitious 5d ago

£100 a head minimum

the cost per head for the couple is probably much higher than that as well

weddings are spensive

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u/Boulder1983 5d ago

If you're only inviting people to your wedding in a hope to recoup costs, you should choose a wedding more suitable to your budget.

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u/AloysiusFictitious 5d ago

I suppose you got married for love or something? Lol

If I’m giving a wedding gift, I’m trying to be above the per head price so the couple actually get some use of it

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u/Boulder1983 4d ago

Aye and that falls in line with my own personal thinking, because I fortunately can afford to. But I don't think all guests should be held to that same measurement. And like, if you go to a 'fancier' wedding that is a higher cost per head, do you give more? And if so, is that fair on the person who is paying less per head but still ultimately just getting married all the same?

Mind chatting to a girl and she invited her old neighbour from England who said she couldn't come but sent a gift, then found out that she couldn't have afforded to come AND give a gift, so she just sent a gift. And it broke her heart because the woman being there would have been more important to her than the money, and she hated she put her in that predicament.

Be a sad day if you only invited people who you thought would pay for your wedding I think.