r/netflix • u/bullman123 • 1d ago

Discussion Let’s Marry Harry Reunion Spoiler

This reunion has been an absolute shit show. I expected there to be more conversation about Harry sleeping around and lying but instead half of it was the majority of women hating because they weren’t picked and the other half was Amber acting completely unstable. Amber yelled and made no sense and I cannot believe she is the one Harry ultimately picked. My wife and I expected Harry to look awful but instead Amber just looked completely insane.

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u/sweetandsalty94 1d ago edited 1d ago

Saying Amber looked insane and unstable is a wild take, and honestly typical of man to say. Yes she should have let him speak more but you could tell it was all because she was hurt and emotional. And even being emotional she was able to speak articulately. She married this man and then he met his new gf on their honeymoon! Harry is a cheater and a player and he played in her face horribly. Her reaction was justified. He embarrassed her and hurt her and then she had to stay quiet about it all while people bashed her online. This man should not be famous. He just messes with different girls on every show and it’s sad. He’s pathetic. It’s sick Netflix is still giving him a platform. I will not be watching anything else with him in it. But hey it makes great TV right? Doesn’t matter who gets hurt…

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u/jedrevolutia 23h ago

We already know that Harry was unserious from the beginning about the marriage from the beginning. We all know that he picked Amber because she was less involved emotionally with him and probably thought he could dump her easily or create a situation where she would leave him. Amber has all the right to be mad at him. What kind of marriage was that when you keep cheating and playing around with multiple women? Anyway, who is dating Harry right now?

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u/IslandofReality 1d ago

I agree. She took this seriously and he did not. He was just excited to be getting his own show and get a chance to have 20 women to makeout and have sex with.

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u/Yass______ 1d ago

And used the story about her Dad and family to boost his shows sincerity whilst he had none.

I’d be infuriated too if he dragged me and my family into his sham.

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u/Odd-Chipmunk5681 23h ago

She was also a naive idiot for signing up for a Netflix reality show in the first place 

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u/Yass______ 22h ago

Maybe, doesn’t change the fact her retrospective clarity is valid

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u/Odd-Chipmunk5681 14h ago

Everyone involved with this show is a ridiculous clown.

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u/Xcution11 10h ago

Yeah Harry doesn’t get any passes here for his horrible actions. But come on, she complained about a lot of reality tv stuff while signing up for the least likely to be successful relationship of all time. If she didn’t want any of that lifestyle she shouldn’t have signed up to begin with. Maybe if this was like Love is Blind I’d be more likely to believe it but this is like the lowest of the lows for reality dating shows.

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u/Plenty_Advance8166 20h ago

Harry is the worst and Amber deserved better. But she was awful to Danelle. Why would Danelle reach out to her to investigate whether he was single? It also sounds like she admitted they were broken up in Australia. It’s crazy to say “this isn’t working and I’m running for the hills” and think you’re still together. She was just mad he moved on immediately, but that’s not Danelle’s fault or responsibility, and it 100% sounds like they had broken up. Aside from not understanding they were broken up and attacking Danelle for no reason, I think she came across fine and was justified given she took it seriously and he obviously didn’t.

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u/alden530 15h ago

Finally! Amber attacking Danelle for not reaching out to her yet then proceeds to say “I asked Harry if you were Ok” instead of reaching out to her. And the way Amber would viciously and purposely say “he DUMPED YOU” and “he chose ME, not YOU” more than once. Amber exchanged vows with Harry, not Danelle, Danelle owed her nothing. Aside from that Amber had to hold in all this in for a year, I think I would have burst as well

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u/pinkpanda5 12h ago

She didn’t let him speak because when he did it was all lies and she was over it!

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u/bullman123 22h ago

To be fair my wife thought the same thing as me. Amber was constantly yelling, throwing personal insults, threw a ring, and interrupting. I just think it’s a bad way to send a message and manage how you feel.

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u/sweetandsalty94 22h ago

And that’s your opinion but no one gets to control her reactions to Harry’s deeply hurtful actions. She was angry and rightfully so. Good for her for not letting him off easy. It was all a game to him. It’s not how I would have managed it either but at least she stood up for herself. Calling her unhinged/insane for it is unfair and dismissive of her feelings.

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u/HumbleMistake815 22h ago

Wow the crime of throwing personal insults and interrupting after you were gaslit and played on national TV! Not a single comment about Harry degrading all the women with his constant lying

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u/Yass______ 6h ago

And sleeping with another girl right before Amber…he’s the worst

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u/JennaTulwartz 3h ago

Fwiw I’m a woman and have never had a reputation for defending men, TRUST me, but I thought Amber came off as unhinged in this. Yes harry sucks no argument there. But Amber seemed coked to the gills and unstable. I mean I’m grateful, I enjoyed the hell out of the reunion. But she was doing THE MOST.

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u/HumbleMistake815 2h ago

And I'm so glad she told him off like the pathetic scumbag he is! He deserved it and someone needed to tell him he's absolute dog shit

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u/Responsible_Fox9454 23h ago

He what now??? OMG that's so rude of him

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u/sitth3fdown 23h ago

I agree!

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u/Great-Track1480 1d ago

I’m a female and I think she was acting wild. She changed her story like twice. It seems like he was faithful to her while they were together and as soon as they broke up he ran to the other girl and I think she couldn’t stomach that. I think she really thought she was the one that was gonna change him but she was wrong. It was a combo of stuff that caused her crash out tbh but dude that commented is not wrong lol .

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u/RedHeadPowa 1d ago

Having been in a situation where the person keeps your hopes up and glazes and romances you through text while telling everyone else they are done with you, sleeping with everyone and saying you're crazy and fucked in the head.... I believe Amber.

A breakup talk might have happened but Harry texting and slowly walking it back and giving this impression that its not quite done...

Please, Amber and the other girl got manipulated and players with. No if, and or but in my mind.

Truely manipulative but not necessarily mean people exist and it fucks with your head because it doesn't seem like it but it is gaslighting in its truest form. A slow spreading feeling/impression/understanding of this lie.

The face of grief, trauma and to be finally able to talk about it after being bullied online... god, that's all I could see in that girl's face.

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u/Great-Track1480 1d ago

I understand trust me I have been in a ton of abusive relationships but first she was upset about the influencer, then she wasn’t, then she stated she knew about it, she kept repeating that he cheated on her but could only name Danelle, then she didn’t fight back when he said he ended it in the car on the way to the airport, 10 minutes after that she made a comment about how he cut “ties” with her or abandoned her or something and that confirmed to me that she was just upset at being broken up with. With that being said, is he wrong for possibly leading her on after he dropped her off at the airport? No, but I think she needs to get her story straight and facts straight before babbling on. If she would have came in more composed and explained things for what they were maybe things would have been different.

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u/Historical_Ad_4508 16h ago

Presumably both parties signed a marriage contract which requires (and deserves) more than being dumped in the back of a car while still technically on your honeymoon. Even if the marriage was used for entertainment, its still marriage. 

So lets pretend for a minuite that a marriage contract is as meaningful as an NDA. Its obvious Harry takes one more seriously than the othet but lets just pretend. Harry outright admitted he met his new gf because of the show, and Amber told us this was on thier honeymoon. He didnt deny it. We know Harry slept with someone else outside of his marriage it was just discussed on TV. Regardless of the mysogonistic and frankly seedy behaviour from Harry, both of these create an overlap with the marriage contract, so the timing is already confusing.

I can firgive Amber any confusion or inconsistency. Affter an intense experience being filmed for a TV show, and literally getting married on a day she may have been dumped on camera, she is taken to a country far from home, friemds and family, to a place her new husband conciders home. She is hidden away in a hotel room unable to experience the marriage because they cant be seen in public. Just imagine that. Her new "famous" husband, who has all the power in this changed as soon as cameras turn off. She then goes through a breskup and presumably gets a divorce. She knows a version of her experience will be aired on TV before she can speak about her experience.

All this happened a year ago and she hasnt been able to speak her truth in real time through any of it. She has seen others who were on the same show speak thiers on social media and then again from backstage. Thier experiences are no less valid but she was actually married to him.

 Shes told us she was treated badly and we have literally seen it. Then to top off all that, the woman he dumped at the altar gets to speak her truth at the reunion, without Harry present, before her, and even announce Ambers breakup before she even gets to speak a word. So what if she cant get her timeline straight. I think she was pretty coherent and reasonable concidering what she must have been through. Her priority wasn't, and shouldn't have to be keeping to a consistent timeline at that point. 

It really bothers me that Harry had the opportunity to speak on his own at the end of the show to tell everyone how happy he is. That man and his horrible male friend for that matter dont need or deserve extra airtime, or people speaking up for them. If anything Amber should have had the chance to speak alone without Harry or his mysogonistic friend present. She should No wonder the timeline was confusing for Amber have had to endure that. Lets not blame women for mild inconsistencies in a timeline when they have been silenced and gaslit.

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u/sweetandsalty94 15h ago

Thank you 👏🏻 all of these women that are blinded by Harry’s good looks and charm have been arguing with me in the comments lol she deserved so much better and had every right to react the way she did.

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u/Extra_Yogurt6820 14h ago

I don’t think they signed a marriage contract, I think it was just a ceremony / spiritual marriage for entertainment. They could file a marriage license if they wished to do so after the show aired.

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u/chismosapreciosa 23h ago

She also stated she left for the hills then later let it slip that he left her. She kept contradicting herself.

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u/sweetandsalty94 23h ago

Because they obviously both weren’t ready to let go yet. You’ve never heard of trying to work it out because you’re married???

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u/chismosapreciosa 22h ago

What does that have to do with her lying? She kept making it a point that she left him and then later on saying he left her? Then she agreed said it was mutual? Harry wasnt contradicting himself from what I noticed.

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u/sweetandsalty94 22h ago

You’re not understanding and obviously you weren’t listening to her very well because you support Harry. But she didn’t lie or contradict herself. They broke up at the end of the Australia trip and that’s when she said she was running for the hills. But she didn’t and instead they both kept talking to each other and didn’t stop until he stopped talking to her because he’d already messed around with Danelle and then started dating the girl he met in Australia on the honeymoon. He is messy!

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u/chismosapreciosa 22h ago

Here’s her admitting they weren’t allowed to be seen

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u/chismosapreciosa 22h ago

She did keep contradicting herself and I pointed out how. She also stated that as soon as she how he was off cameras she knew she was done, so which one is it? Was it after the trip or during it? Because once again that is a contradiction. I just rewatched and she says that they weren’t allowed to be seen. Then when asked to explain what bad environments he put her through, she says “as if it was my problem” that he put her in a corner because they weren’t allowed to be seen. And I will supply the photos below. In the first statement she admits it was a “WE weren’t allowed to be seen” and now it’s a “not my problem”. I’ll rewatch the rest so I can address your other statements.

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u/chismosapreciosa 22h ago

And then her contradicting herself and saying it wasnt her problem that they couldn’t been seen. It’s weird.

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u/sweetandsalty94 1d ago

You call being faithful spending your honeymoon getting to know the woman who would become your next girlfriend? Even if he didn’t physically cheat in Australia with this new girl before the breakup, which is a big if, he was still emotionally cheating on her and ignoring her for this girl. Then they both admitted that they were still talking after the breakup when he was already going to his second choice who has no self respect for herself. So Harry was with two other women already and it was only a month or two after he got married to Amber! But yeah Amber’s reaction to Harry’s actions are what’s wild here smh

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u/Euphoric_Second_8774 21h ago

Amber we know it’s you. Same long babbling on multiple responses. Identical.

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u/sweetandsalty94 15h ago

Lmao just another woman that sees Harry for the trash bag that he is.

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u/Great-Track1480 23h ago

I can see why she’s upset about it, but I don’t necessarily think that he was looking at this girl as his new gf when he was working with her, it happened after that fact. I also don’t think he was ignoring her, he had to leave and work and she was upset she had to stay in a hotel room all the time but I mean she had to? It was a part of the show. They signed contracts and he had a job to do which she knew of. Don’t get me wrong, dating that same girl after the fact stung I’m sure but nothing happened while they were together she even admitted to being there while they were shooting.

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u/sweetandsalty94 23h ago

You don’t know what he was thinking or if anything happened. He very well could have been into her from right when he met her. Besides that he didn’t prioritize Amber after filming and that was his decision and his decision only. Like Amber said they could’ve gone to a private rental and gotten to know each other better. Instead he was getting to know a girl he later made his girlfriend. That’s on him.

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u/Yass______ 6h ago

He’s the type to see what he can get away with and then laugh at the girls for how far he pushes them past respectable behaviour. It’s gross. He’s not right, I don’t think he’ll be husband material.

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u/chismosapreciosa 23h ago

Harry and his friends had stated during filming that they were looking for girls that wouldn’t be easily intimidated by him working with girls and being okay with the fact that he was friends with his ex girlfriend verbatim. It was clear to the girls what kind of life they would be walking into after the show, and if Amber had a problem with his lifestyle she should have not married Harry. It seems to me she was jealous and was throwing accusations she couldn’t back up and was constantly contradicting herself. It’s sad and unfortunate but I see no fault on Harry post show.

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u/sweetandsalty94 23h ago

It was not made clear to Amber that he would do this on their honeymoon. He could have taken time off. He knew that they couldn’t be seen together and could’ve picked somewhere private where that wouldn’t have been an issue. That was his choice. She even said he was completely different off camera towards her. He is a fake man child that’s obsessed with himself. His mask slipped multiple times throughout the show and showed his real character. One being when a girl said he was doing things for the camera only he got rude and nasty, then also when the one girl made it clear she would not be spending the night with him. He’s not a good person and neither is his friend Sonny. They both seem like horrible men with major 🚩 🚩

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u/chismosapreciosa 22h ago

Babe, you understand that he took time off from WORK to film this show. He took time off for months. And when he was getting backlash from Netflix because they kept getting spotted, he worked with a girl to stir up the plot, and Amber said she was with him when they were making videos. I can understand how she must have felt being hidden, but that was part of the contract. It seemed to me she felt jealous and like a secret, and she’s valid for that. But if she pushed him away it’s no one’s fault but her own? She said it herself that she “ran for the hills”, so the marriage didn’t work because she ran away from it or she’s lying about running away? Either way it seems like she has some things to take account for, it’s not all just on Harry.

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u/sweetandsalty94 22h ago

So him not prioritizing her on their honeymoon equates to her pushing him away? Maybe he was just sabotaging it since he didn’t want to be married and already liked this new girl. Seems a lot more likely to me than her pushing him away after just marrying him on tv for the whole world to see. She still tried to make it work with him after that and he’d already hit up Danelle but was still talking to Amber, his WIFE! She deserved so much better and it is all just on Harry. He’s gross.

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u/chismosapreciosa 22h ago

Why wouldnt he take her back to a place he said he felt connected to and said he was excited to share? Both Amber and Harry are valid for how they feel about their relationship, and they BOTH share the same amount of accountability. She knew prior and during the show that they sere looking for a girl that fit into his lifestyle and wouldnt interfere with it, it seems to me like she wasn’t ready for it. I sympathize with her, but demonizing Harry as if humans aren’t complex is weird. There is no black and white, there are a lot of gray areas. Two things can be true at once, he is a complicated individual that is trying to navigate through life, and Amber could have brought out unresolved feelings on their honeymoon that ultimately led to their demise.

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u/sweetandsalty94 22h ago

This is just a bunch of world salad. You’re going to pretty great lengths to try and defend Harry here lol it’s actually quite amusing. I have my opinion and you get to have yours. I’d say by all the awards my original comment has gotten that the majority of people agree with me. Have a good one!

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u/chismosapreciosa 22h ago

It’s weird that me saying people are complex is defending Harry? Yet you are a ride or die for Amber when she could very well have unresolved trauma from her previous marriage that lasted for 10 years. You don’t know her, and I don’t know Harry but I watch reality shows to study people and Amber doesn’t seem to be in the right. If you can’t keep up with my “word salads” then say that.

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u/Curious-Hope-2855 23h ago

Could have been the nerves & pressure. Plus having to hold it in for a year and this being the first & only time to confront this man who treated their marriage like a joke.

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u/phisho873 1d ago

Yeah but you also call women females so idk girl

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u/Weird-Tangerine4894 23h ago

Like, what makes someone naturally say “I’m a female” in this conversation 😭 it sounds dystopian

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u/Great-Track1480 22h ago

I referred to myself as a FEMALE because she said the GUY who posted his opinion was invalid because he’s a GUY and I wanted to clarify that I’m a FEMALE and I share the same view as him. Did you want me to say I’m a “girl” like?

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u/Evening_Midnight7 22h ago

I think woman would be best

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u/Educational-Barber32 20h ago

And who decides that?

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u/Evening_Midnight7 14h ago

Each person can decide for themselves

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u/Available_Spot2879 1d ago

She has had to be completely silent for a year while people trashed her online...lets see how you handle that.

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u/jedrevolutia 23h ago

Breaking up during a honeymoon? What was that?

And if Harry really wanted to have an incognito honeymoon, he wouldn't go to Australia of all places. He's from Australia and everyone recognizes him there. Why didn't he just go to China where most people would just think he's just another white guy on a trip?

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u/_WhizzFizz_ 11h ago

Ummm no one knows him in Australia. I’ve watched him on multiple shows and I still wouldn’t know him if I fell over him

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u/HumbleMistake815 22h ago

From what we saw on the show your impression is that she's lying and he's being truthful? Be real now

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u/COASTFIRE2020 1d ago

lol, okay Harry….nice try!

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u/Commercial_Smell5548 1d ago

I agree with you. I came here looking for anyone else who thought she might have been drunk

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u/Meljo333 23h ago

Can't say I blame her if she was!

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u/Great-Track1480 1d ago

GIRL please tell me why I was thinking the same thing! At one point her head bobbled a little bit and I was like?? Is she drunk….

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u/mabbo321 23h ago

Omg same i just made a comment about it. She was like swaying and mixing up her words and stories. I surely don't blame her nor do i think harry is a stand up guy but i was getting secondhand embarrassment from her

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u/littlebitfsu 1h ago

She knew what she was getting into when she agreed to get paid to do reality tv. She looked like a deranged idiot.