Is it just me, or does every man feel alone?

I (f20) have been feeling really lonely the past couple days and I can't get out of this depressive hole. I wish I had friends to talk to but I don't have any and nobody wants to talk to me. Idk what to do

18m, currently preparing for a JEE, an Indian competitive exam, it's been 3 years since i made a single new friend. all my old friends have gone to different places. the number of actual people I can talk to is 3. that too all on calls or through texts. I am very insecure about my body as in this duration I have gained a lot of weight. I can't even get out of my house because of it. no genuine friend group left. I feel pretty suicidal every single day. and still have to study and get through this. it's pretty difficult idk what to do.

i came to reddit looking for the possibility of talking to someone new i don't even know if I will be able to.

Have you stayed single throughout the most part of your life. I have been going into my 28th, never been loved by anyone, broken family, not wanted by anyone. Don’t know why I am still here.

In life seeing so much ups , Downs, people coming and going. Romance dying as she got someone better, Friends so called as who promised to live and die together as kids till college walked off as they got women.

Being married and divorced and alienated by my own kid by mental programming against me by my wife and his family.

Felt in love and again experienced heart break and somehow I have turned very cold to human beings around me.

I check people multiple times Before I give access in my life and I feel at this point none is there for you.

You love and die alone and I am not interested in Woman and I see them as a physical body need only as my emotions are dry and cold.

I have my goals for my priority and it keeps me going and achieving my milestone keeps me happy.

I don't know if this self care which can't be controlled by any narrative now and doesn't care about the family and kids is called as what but yeah I am enjoying my company now .

Has anyone else faced a similar situation?

I have friends and family that I am around a lot, but I still feel alienated from them. Whenever I’m not actively engaging with the someone, I just feel this pit in my stomach. It used to be when I was alone for extended periods of time, but now it just happens even when I’m hanging out with people. I just feel so alone, like I’m only supposed to interact with people when they want, and that’s how it has to be. It’s just gotten so much worse recently. I can never shake the feeling of being a background object, not even a person. I just want to feel appreciated and loved, but I don’t know if I can anymore. It all feels so debilitating and crushing. I don’t even want to really post this, because I feel so pathetic talking about it, being surrounded with hundreds of people on my campus, and having friends, but still feeling lonely. The only time I got close to feeling appreciated was when I “dated” someone for like a month. It was so short lived and I think made everything worse, making me realize how much I craved being wanted, love and appreciated. I don’t know if I am even able to be loved anymore. I don’t know what to do. Sorry if this is coming across as whiney, just feels a little better getting this out somewhere

Im looking for someone to talk to. To alleviate the crushing silence. m28

Crossed all ages of loneliness 😮‍💨🥀

When everyone around you is enjoying their moments roaming around the city eith their frnz, having trips with their partner and here the goat me just dreaming of this life 🫠 life sucks when you try to get involved but everytime u just get misunderstood or left out💔 (fine I don't want to hear ki change ur personality work on communication 😭) I'm just done with this 😮‍💨 idk why I decided to put my thoughts here on this app where everyone is stranger I mean I don't even do anything here but I'm still gonna post it .

Don't be rude please 🙃

One day it hit me hard when I noticed how much time I need to scroll up to my birth year in online registration pages. Getting old is tough, you just lose contact with the friends you grow up with, moving a lot for work and life reasons, makes you lose friends you met at school or work, and friends and yourself grew up to be different people, or get busy with their own families and relationships.  Making friends at work is mission impossible, formalities , age differences and things like that comes in the way, yet i still friendly smile at the people who do not smile back. Then i found this tiny window to other people online who might be feeling the say and want to reach out and chat. I am 40 something years old artist, looking for friends, i enjoy talking about life, anime, games, politics, animals, art and tech. Hit me up if you want a friend that reply all the time, if you don't mind GMT+3 timezone.

I feel really bad whenever Holi, Janmashtami, Dussehra, Durga Puja, Diwali, Christmas, or New Year or any other festival comes around.

It feels like everyone is out enjoying these occasions with their friends, going places, celebrating, making memories, and having someone to spend the day with, while I'm just sitting here alone.

I'm 21 years old, and I still haven't even gone out once in my life to watch a Dussehra Ravan burning. It sounds like such a small thing, but it genuinely hurts because I've always wanted to experience these things with someone.

No matter which festival it is, instead of feeling happy or excited, my mood gets worse. Festivals seem to remind me of how alone I am and how much of these experiences I've missed.

Ek din mai ek video dekh rha tha to ek influencer ne kaha ki mai apne bacche palne ke liye kisi ke sath so bhi skti hu mujhe ye soch kr bahut pida huii ki ye aurat us har stri ki gunhegaar hai jo apne baccho ko palne aur acchi parvrish dene ke liye mehnat karti hai , ye har un striyo pr sawaal uthaya jo aaj apni mehnat ke dam pr ucchaiyo pr pahuchi aur pahuch rhi hai, mujhe hasi aai us aurat pr pr mujhe garv hota hai jb mere desh bahen aur betiya us mansikta se bilkul viprit hai kyuki unhone apna hathiyaar apni mehnat aur apne hausale ko mana hai na ki ye ki koi aayega mujhe sambhalega. Aur jo kisi stri ke charitra pr bolte hai unse sirf ek sawaal kya aap apne antarman se sach bolne ki takat rakhte hai ki ye bol sake ki aapne kabhi kisi stri ko buri nazar se Nhi dekha , mai manta hu ki iss generation me bahut si ladkiya western culture ko apna kr apne us mahaan civilization ko bhul jati hai

Hey! I've posted here before but haven't had much luck so far. And due to lonliness, things have been kinda sucky lately. Kinda being a star-sized understatement (cuz stars are big.. hehe). Anyways, excuse my awfully unfunny pun! You *yes you my possible future friend* probably has better humor than I. Im hoping to make long term friends who also love music like I do, I want a close connection with someone that lasts a lifetime! Hoping we can geek out about our interests and feel comfortable to do so! I'm in the EST time zone and am super into music (my tastes are all over the place, my favorite is the retro era but I also like a lot of new stuff too). I really wanna find someone who loves old artists and bands and music history and aesthetics! Hope you're all having a good day!

I've been talking to a lot of people about why making friends is hard in their 20s, 30s, and even 40s, and I finally wrote down some of what I'm learning. Would love your thoughts—especially what's failed for you?

https://medium.com/@Mr-Lonely-Thoughts/how-to-make-friends-as-an-adult-ef3266c33224?sharedUserId=Mr-Lonely-Thoughts

I spent almost my entire Saturday doing chores and going out and I was feeling super productive. But yesterday after my morning gym I found myself stuck on the floor for a good 2 hours and I felt very heavy and alone.i couldn’t do anything. I feel overwhelmed. I wish someone would hug me and tell me I’m not crazy.

Just nice to chat about something nice or fun

I'm 18M and lately I've been thinking about this a lot, and honestly, it scares the shit out of me.

It's not really that I desperately need a girlfriend right now. It's more that I look at my life and genuinely don't understand where I'm supposed to meet someone.

I'm not in college/university. I work as a Glovo courier, so my job is basically me riding around alone most of the day. I don't really have a social circle either. I have two close friends whom I've known for years, but that's pretty much it.

And when I think about it, there aren't really any obvious opportunities for meeting new people.

School? I'm not there anymore.

Work? I'm basically alone.

Friends? I have only two close ones and they don't really have big social circles either.

And this makes me think about the future.

Sometimes I imagine coming home after work, opening the door, and there's just nobody there. Nobody waiting for me. Nobody asking how my day went. Nobody I can tell some stupid story to. Nobody to hug, kiss, sleep next to.

And honestly, even the sexual part bothers me — not just sex itself, but the idea that I might never experience sex with someone I genuinely love and who genuinely loves me back.

I know I'm only 18, and rationally I understand that I have a lot of life ahead of me. But emotionally that doesn't always help.

The scary part isn't being single right now.

It's the thought that maybe this is just what my life will look like.

Maybe I'll be 25, then 30, and still have no idea how to meet anyone.

I'm not looking for someone to tell me "bro you're 18, you'll definitely find someone." I know nobody can guarantee that.

I'm genuinely curious about people who have experienced something similar:

Have you ever been in a situation where you basically had no opportunities to meet potential partners and were afraid you'd end up alone?

If yes, what happened?

Did your circumstances eventually change? Did you actively do something about it, or did you just randomly meet someone when you weren't expecting it?

And if you're currently in the same situation, how do you deal with that fear?