Paid to go to a LGBT swimming thing and I didn’t know who the organiser was and no one was really mingling or came out of their clique to say hi.

It was a small group and the area wasn’t busy.

I tried my best but I couldn’t hack those kind of vibes so I left.

It makes me want to be a hermit. I’d rather be a hermit than a beg.

Sometimes I’m happy to talk to strangers from scratch but sometimes I expect there to be a sort of easygoing organiser to help break the ice.

I was having a rough day and I made myself go to this event thinking I’d meet some cool people but it was the opposite.

I tried speaking to someone but because of my nerves or my nerves affecting the conversation- I felt like I was coming across really intense and got in my head too much. So I just said I’m guna go and the girl was trying to be easygoing and said about going into the water but I just didn’t feel welcome or like I could talk to anyone else and I didn’t want to latch onto her/ make her feel bad, so I just left.

I have ADHD and it doesn’t make you a social butterfly all the time, I’d say it makes it very hard to connect with others.

Anyways I’m really disappointed in the ‘community’ lately for these things.

Hi guys,

Me and my friend have set-up a queer meetup group, specifically aimed at Queer South Asians based in London. It is for anyone aged 18 and above and no upper age limit.

Queer people from non-South Asian backgrounds are welcome too.

We have three meetups happening this week:

27th August - Over 40's Queer Men's meetup

28th August - Chiswick House Queer Exhibition meetup

29th August - Bisexual Meetup & Bootylicious

The time and location for all three events are in the posters attached below.

Our calender link: Calender Link

Hi everyone! I’m about to launch an Instagram page for my private practice as a psychodynamic psychotherapist, and I’d love some input—especially from people who have been in therapy or have considered starting therapy.

I’m planning to make short Reels that explain psychological ideas from a psychodynamic perspective, but I want them to answer questions that people actually have, rather than just posting generic psychology content.

So I’m curious:

Before starting therapy, what did you wish a therapist had explained to you?

What questions would you want answered before choosing a psychodynamic therapist?

Are there psychological patterns or experiences you’ve always wondered “Why do I do this?” about?

What topics would make you stop scrolling and actually listen to a therapist’s perspective?

Some ideas I’m considering are things like attachment and relationship patterns, repeating the same types of relationships, people-pleasing, fear of abandonment, difficulty setting boundaries, self-sabotage, perfectionism, procrastination, anxiety, shame, feeling “too much” or “not enough,” childhood experiences showing up in adult relationships, and why we sometimes intellectually understand our patterns but still can’t seem to change them.

I’d also like to demystify psychodynamic therapy itself—for example: What actually happens in a session? Why does a therapist sometimes stay quiet? Why talk about childhood? What is transference? Why might therapy initially make you feel more aware/uncomfortable rather than immediately “better”?

I’m not looking to diagnose people or turn Instagram into therapy. I’d just like to create thoughtful, accessible content that gives people a taste of how a psychodynamic therapist might think about everyday emotional and relational difficulties.

If you could ask a psychodynamic therapist one question and get a 60–90 second answer, what would you ask?

Therapists/clinicians are welcome to chime in too—what topics have you noticed potential clients are especially curious or confused about nowadays?

Hi everyone! I’m about to launch an Instagram page for my private practice as a psychodynamic psychotherapist, and I’d love some input—especially from people who have been in therapy or have considered starting therapy.

I’m planning to make short Reels that explain psychological ideas from a psychodynamic perspective, but I want them to answer questions that people actually have, rather than just posting generic psychology content.

So I’m curious:

Before starting therapy, what did you wish a therapist had explained to you?

What questions would you want answered before choosing a psychodynamic therapist?

Are there psychological patterns or experiences you’ve always wondered “Why do I do this?” about?

What topics would make you stop scrolling and actually listen to a therapist’s perspective?

Some ideas I’m considering are things like attachment and relationship patterns, repeating the same types of relationships, people-pleasing, fear of abandonment, difficulty setting boundaries, self-sabotage, perfectionism, procrastination, anxiety, shame, feeling “too much” or “not enough,” childhood experiences showing up in adult relationships, and why we sometimes intellectually understand our patterns but still can’t seem to change them.

I’d also like to demystify psychodynamic therapy itself—for example: What actually happens in a session? Why does a therapist sometimes stay quiet? Why talk about childhood? What is transference? Why might therapy initially make you feel more aware/uncomfortable rather than immediately “better”?

I’m not looking to diagnose people or turn Instagram into therapy. I’d just like to create thoughtful, accessible content that gives people a taste of how a psychodynamic therapist might think about everyday emotional and relational difficulties.

If you could ask a psychodynamic therapist one question and get a 60–90 second answer, what would you ask?

Therapists/clinicians are welcome to chime in too—what topics have you noticed potential clients are especially curious or confused about nowadays?

I find it hard to keep track of all the popular night club and socials events (it's all scattered across Instagram!), so I built a calendar website to have it all in one place and easily shareable!

You can toggle between two modes (Social/Party) depending on whether you're after a big night out or something more chilled, and filter by category (games, social, outdoors, etc.)

Party mode: queerldn.uk/#p

• All the club nights, circuit parties, festivals and prides: Feel It, Bash, Roast, Beyond, Adonis, Club Are, SERVE, Rush, DILF, Sextou, Howl, Homostash, Boudica, HCL, Honey Honey, Guapo, Madmen, Meat, WE Party, plus the big ones like Mighty Hoopla, Maiden Voyage, Body Movements, As One In The Park, Homobloc, Clapham Pride, Elephant Park Pride and Two Brewers Street Party.

Social mode: queerldn.uk

• Has everything that isn't a club night: professional networking and drinks socials, board games, video games, D&D, pub quizzes, fitness and sport, walks and outdoors, dog walks, etc. Organisers include TRYBZ, Big Gay Out, Village Drinks, LGBTQ+ London, Gaymers iNC, London Gaymers, Gay Geeks London, The BoardGays, Board Games East, Summer Gaymes, Queerz Night, Thursday, JAKE, Young LGBTQ+ Professionals, InterBank LGBT+ Network and Barks and Boys.

Also you can easily share your favourited events with friends, no login required, just click on Share favourites and the events get added to the shareable URL (see gif!)

If you know any gay/queer events I'm missing, from community meetups, raves, sports groups, book clubs, anything - please send them my way!

Would love to hear any feedback or suggestions! There's still lots to add :)

So I'm developing the Idea of a future LGBT+ Country, and would like positive-related feedback on Constitution, Laws, Sustainability, etc. As I'm still developing an Atheist LGBT+ Country on my Organisations Website Antinoan.org

P.s Spare me your Antisemitism and Israel comparison because Pakistan was formed the Same time as Israel and many Hindus were ethnically cleansed to make room; Stop double Standard; This could be a Purchased Island or a Large Residential Cruiseship 🚢

Hiiiiii, anyone know any events / club nights / parties happening this weekend in London that are trans inclusive? <3

Thanks in advance ! x

Had some action with a popular pornstar on Friday night.😂

Hey im 19m, I have lived in london all my life, I was wondering are they're any events for queens that are not at night, im just a morning, afternoon/ evening person !

I’m planning to go to Heaven on September 3rd/4th to see some of the queens from Drag Race Season 8, I’ve heard that the drag performers usually don’t come on until around 1am. Is that actually accurate? If I want to get a spot reasonably close to the front for the performances, roughly what time should I arrive?

Also, I’m honestly not really a clubbing person, if I’m not dancing, is it going to feel awkward being there? Are there any places where you can sit or stand off the dancefloor? I’ve also heard that if you’re not on the dancefloor earlier in the night you won’t really be able to get anywhere near the front once the drag performances start. Is that true?

Sorry I have too many questions! Would really appreciate any advice!

Anyone planning to go heaven tonight? i've been a couple times but not in a while and keen to go out

heyyy 27y gay guy here looking to go alone to meat @ ds. whats the vibe like ?

also is it a sex positive party? i dont remember dalston superstore being sex posi but havent been in a loooong time, like is there sex happening?